Thanks, sns, but I feel like it made my decision to leave the Borg that much easier; I sleep very well at night knowing I did the right thing. I know I often sound bitter, but in general I'm one happy lady! Now, anyway.
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Did you recieve help?
by shamus indid you ask or recieve help from the elders?.
if so, were they helpful?
i did once... they're help was more troubling than not.
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Did you recieve help?
by shamus indid you ask or recieve help from the elders?.
if so, were they helpful?
i did once... they're help was more troubling than not.
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When I was a child being beaten bloody by my stepfather, they told me to be more obedient.
When he started putting his filthy hands on me in a sexual way, they told me that, since he didn't do it in front of two witnesses, it never happened, and to shut up about it or I'd be guilty of slander.
When I ran away from home at 15 to escape it all, they told me I could not rent a room from a kind sister because she had 3 sons I might tempt.
When one of those sons started looking out for me (he gave me food from his family's restaurant, some occasional work to earn a few bucks, and a listening ear-that's all) they told me to quit talking to him.
When I landed a job so I would not be homeless, they told me my co-workers were bad associations, and that I needed to make more meetings. Requests for a ride were refused.
When the doctors sent my mom home to die, one sister who was a close friend of mine came around to give me a break, that's it. No calls, no other visits, nothing. I brought her back from the brink all on my own, and again received counsel for missing meetings and service. When my worldly landlord stepped in to help us, I was counseled for being too "chummy" with a gay man-like it might rub off.
To hell with these hypocrites, for all their talk they never did a damn thing to help. I owe them nothing.
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JWs in The Workplace: What Type Were/Are You?
by Room 215 init seems to me that jws in the workplace fall into three basic categories: (1) the matter-of-fact type who goes about his/her business, not hiding his/her religious afflililation and seldom if ever initiates conversations on religious topics, but who nonethless hews to the wtbs party line on involvement in non-business social events, i.e.
office holiday parties, etc.
handling any inquiries succinctly; (2) the aggressive type that seeks opportunity to ``give a witness" to workmates, who brings in and displays prominently wt literature and reads or studies his/her wt at lunchtime and at coffee breaks; or (3) the ``double lifer" easy-going type who's one of the boys/gals and who onlyreveals his/her religious affliliation reluctantly or under duress, yet away from work is a regular meeting attender and active in ``field service.".
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After some bad experiences, I found I was more comfortable as #3.
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Going through a painful Divorce
by caspian injust waiting for the final "decree absolute" to come through in the next 3 weeks or so.. but man why is it so hard, the final break.
i really need this to be over so i can finally get on with the rest of my life.. .
cas..feeling a little sorry for himself today.. feel free to offer any support or advice.
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Hang in there, Caspian, it gets better, I promise.
And I second what Franklin J said; if you ever come to our side of the pond, I'll buy you a beer!
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Cheating
by sandy inwould you tell your ex-boyfriend you cheated on him?
i was with my ex for 4 years.
we broke up four months ago.
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I agree with Staphanus. It would just be hurtful.
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Have you ever done this crazy thing?!?!
by BooleanX inhey dont get me wrong about this, but.... i've been disfellowshiped for 5 years now, (yippee!!!).
i've been enjoying my freedom to the max, believe me, plus i want nothing to do with the borg ever.
but i did the craziest thing today.. while at work, my buddies and i were just chatting away about life and stuff, as bored guys usually do.
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Boolean-I tend to go the opposite direction, being the most critical of them in my group. Old habits die hard, though; it's sort of like calling out your ex's name in bed when you're with your new spouse. Don't stress over it. By the way, welcome!
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What was the first "Bad" CD/Record/Tape you ever bought?
by ColdRedRain ini was looking on the thread on music when i just thought to ask that question.
for me, it was gwar's violence has arrived.
i remember loving that band so much when i first heard of them to the point where i downloaded everything they had, from album mp3's to rare bootlegs.
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Prince, Purple Rain and Parade.
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good news from Vicki Boer
by needs_lots inlooks like the letter writting campaign has paid off !!!!!!!!!!!!
the jw's have dropped costs, and there will be no exchange of money.
(which, yes, means i still will not receive my huge $5000.00 judgement) (thanks judge molloy!?
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God, that's great to hear. A drop in the bucket to them, but a huge victory for you! Congratulations, Vicki, you were so brave to face them and prevail!
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Halloween after leaving the JW's
by TresHappy inwhen i was a kid, we did halloween every year.
no big deal, just costumes and trick or treating, but that was the 70's.
when i was 11 we stopped celebrating everything, and several years ago i left the jw's.
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I handed out candy this year for the first time. I tried not to overanalyze it and just have fun. The kids were so cute, and having such a nice time, I'd have felt like such a jerk giving them tracts on spiritism instead of candy (like my stepfather, the prince of darkness, used to do.) I was impressed by how polite they were, too.
It did not bother me, but if it does you, you should not try to force it.
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Your opinion of...
by MrMoe inmen or women who cheat on thier spouses, not just once, but repeatedly, with various people.
also, do you find those actions mature, or... immature?.
curious.
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My immediate, visceral reaction (and those are the ones I tend to follow) is that cheaters are the lowest of the low. True love (by my definition) demands monogamy; to mess with someone outside your relationship cheapens the relationship, and exposes all parties to disease and emotional torture. I know I'm being dramatic, but this is just about the only thing I could not compromise on. Also, think about a few years in the future-nobody should have to wonder who their father really is.
Adulterers and their partners are immature, selfish, and weak of character. Not only would I not continue a relationship with one, I'd be hesitant to even have business dealings with them. Now, if someone out there has some sort of arrangement wherein both partners agree to an open relationship, that may be different, but that's pretty rare, and tends not to work out long-term.