by caspian 43 Replies latest jw friends
Just waiting for the final "decree absolute" to come through in the next 3 weeks or so.
But Man why is it so hard, the final break. I really need this to be over so I can finally get on with the rest of my life.
Cas..feeling a little sorry for himself today.
Feel free to offer any support or advice.
((Cas))
Hon, it's never easy when something comes to an end. Even if that ending is for the best in the long run. You have to allow yourself to grieve over that loss.
You are strong and will get through this time. But for right now, there will be some pain. I wish I could tell you that it won't hurt. Sweetie, it will but you will come out of this happier.
Lisa
caspian
You've been through a great deal the past few months. It's important to take care of yourself during these dark times so you'll be able to enjoy the good things that will come your way in the future.
Everybody grieves their losses in their own way, and as much as your friends and others who care about you want to help you, please do what's best for you in your circumstances.
You might find it helpful to speak to a grief counsellor (see if you can connect with one via your employer's Employee Assistance Program, if they have one) or check with your family doctor (maybe your sister Lainey can also offer suggestions) for referrals to counselling. If you think you might need antidepressant medication, talk to your doctor about that too.
It helps to talk to your friends too. Some of us are good listeners. If listening time is what you need, don't be afraid to say that when well-meaning friends offer advice that you don't really want. Friends are funny that way, we want to take all your hurt and pain away so we can have the friend that we're used to seeing back again. But we understand the need to sort things out on your own too. So vent as much or as little as you need.
Love, Scully
I am really sorry -- there is no such thing as a painless divorce
Thanks Arrow and Scully for your good advice.
Cas xx
((((caspian)))))
Scully said that well....When you need to talk, then talk....When you need to be listened to, tell them you want to be listned to..( listening skills are hard to accomplish...if you have some good friends there at home, hopefully they have this good understanding.)..I wish I good say it was easyer once all the I's are dotted and all the T's are crossed,but your healing only starts then..A good shoulder to cry on or a good ear for someone to listen to you is all I can suggest......Life will be happier once you cross this bridge...chin up,and take-care of CASPIAN .....that is not being selfish at all....SMILE!
morts
was nice chatting with you sweetie.... hang in there. As I said It is never over "till the fat lady sings" I am taking singing lessons....lol You need to find fellowship during these difficult times (((HUGS))
I di think a divorce is harder than losing them in death- But just tell yourself ..Thank God no kids are involved. They are usally the ones who hurt more ((hug)
Other than a hug I have little to offer! (((((((((Cas)))))))))
Thanks for your pm's btw.
~Aztec
awww (((((((cas))))))), it's never easy, divorce. Be a good lad and tell us all about it. Sometimes it helps during hard times to do something creative to take your mind off the hurt.
Cas, I got divorced 4 years ago, and even tho I was the one who wanted it, I have to say it still hurts. I was married 20 years, and when you've spent that amount of time with someone, there are all kinds of attachments and memories that you don't even think about 'til you're not with the person anymore. Even tho I know that we are both in many many ways alot happier now, I still feel guilt and sadness. What everyone has said here has helped me too, and their advice is right on the money.
"Been there, felt that"
Terri
