I’m in basically the same situation, but for a very long time. I too am a born-in/stuck-in. Right now I’m actually living with my folks, even though I just turned 49 this month. I’m out of work, on disability, and in some financial debt. So, I too know about having to hang in there.
I find that one has to just take life one day at a time (oh, and I’m also a recovering alcoholic). Just do whatever you can each day to move toward your goal of financial independence, and, at the same time, make sure you have simple joys and pleasures each day to focus on for happiness and serenity. You need to have some practical and attainable game plan to gradually yet surely edge toward the fulfillment of your ideal situation, or at least as close to it as you can get – but don’t forget to stop and smell the roses along the way.