Shake that tree before you file for divorce though. Pull out all of the stops, dahling: (Candy cigarette of course.)
FlyingHighNow
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Don't tell me that I am a priority in your life
by KariOtt invalentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
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Don't let your job interfere with your meeting attendance
by Quarterback inrecently, a public speaker brought up this point that i remembered being preached in the 70's.
when they bring this matter up, they always manage to give you an experience of how one person stood his ground, and got a great job offer, as a result.. what about the many experiences of ones that were not blessed?
i can memtion horror stories of ones that should have kept working their meetings..
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FlyingHighNow
My ex switched jobs then got laid off. We ended up with no health insurance. This began the end of our marriage and dashed our little family to pieces. We ended up in bankruptcy and a good bit of it was medical bills. Night mare of epic proportions. And it hasn't ended all of these years later. My grown children are still completely miserable and struggling. In every way, this cult wrecked our lives.
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Don't tell me that I am a priority in your life
by KariOtt invalentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
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FlyingHighNow
You love him. In that case, it's time for a different plan. Time for you to face the reality that what you are doing isn't working to change him, his feelings or behavior.
The only thing you can do is to change you, your attitude and behavior. With that in mind, it's time to stop expecting him to change--right now. If there is any small amount of love and committment in him towards you and the marriage, then there is hope. But how you are approaching this has to change.
I wasn't kidding about shaking the sugar tree. He is taking you and love for granted. He thinks you will keep going with the status quo.
It's time for you to feel better about you, your home, your health, your work, your child. It's time for you to love yourself enough to stand tall, hold your head high and tell yourself something like, "Okay, you love the guy even if he is being thoughtless and knowingly being hurtful you. That doesn't mean you have to take it lying down, gal."
Instead of desperately chasing his affection, let him know by your actions that since he insists on paying his attention to others, you're going to back off and concentrate on you, your child and your life for a while. Still do the routine things for him that you are doing, but stop with any romantic gestures or over thoughtfulness towards him. Continue being thoughtful to you, your son, other people.
Makeover your life, including you. Improve things. Show a new confidence. Show him that you have a life outside of him. Go an extra mile with your appearance: for YOU and your child, not for him, though he will notice. Think about it, he notices you look great, new hairstyle, nicer skin, etc. but you aren't paying extra attention to him anymore because you've lost that aura of desperation.
If you are confident, smiling, holding your head high and look like you care about yourself, you're going to turn a few heads. Hopefully that will happen any time you and he are out and about. Maybe his friends will notice and say something to him about the changes in you and remark about it. That you look great and you look happier than you have in a long time.
Don't sit around waiting for him to pay attention to you and your child. Go out. Do things. Take a class. Go out with your friends one night a week. Join a bowling league. Learn to be genuinely happy on your own. Be busy if he suggests you go with him to do this or that. "Oops, honey, that's my girls night out. Next time, maybe?"
Concentrate on your family and extended family. Only do the dutiful things for him and his. But do it with a good, but more neutral attitude. "Yep, I'll take the casserole over to your mom's on my way to my ball room dancing class. I won't be able to stay, but I can drop it off. You understand."
This strategy will increasingly make you feel good about you and your life. It will be good for your child. If it doesn't change his behavior, then it doesn't. It's the best chance you've got though. And meanwhile, it's going to help YOU. Since he isn't going to help you, you need to help you.
Shake that sugar tree, girl. Confidence and self respect can be very alluring, even sexy. Do it most of all for you and your child though. Hopefully the side affect will be that he gets his head out of own selfishness and turns his attention back where it belongs.
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Don't tell me that I am a priority in your life
by KariOtt invalentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
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FlyingHighNow
Meanwhile, try giving the sugar tree a good shaking.
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Are Men's Rights Laughable?
by Paralipomenon inreading over the woody allen thread i noticed a couple things but didn't want to side track the "discussion".
1) woody allen is creepy.
2) nobody really seemed to care that his ex-wife was abusive towards her children.. an example i think is perfect was the release of twilight where you would see lineups of 30-40 year old women making very inappropriate comments about a 16 year old boy.
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FlyingHighNow
This is the funniest, cleverest thing I have seen in a long, long time. Thank you for the comic relief!
Apparently I was supposed to be 'game' & up for it just because I was male.
I'm guessing you have a lot of irresistable sex appeal. They didn't do it just because you are male. Well, maybe they did. You do come across unbalanced people in life, male and female. It wasn't okay what they did.
Now imagine, & rightly so, the uproar if it were men attempting to remove the clothing of a young girl in the workplace.......
We don't have to imagine it: most of us have had it happen, if not at the work place, at school, at the beauty salon by the horny french hairdresser... basically almost any man we got left alone with. Almost any man, though not all of them. I'm 55 years old and I still have men overstep boundaries with me. Today I was doing a road show sales demo and a guy at least 15 years older than me grabbed me, hugged me and told him I make him feel young again.
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Don't tell me that I am a priority in your life
by KariOtt invalentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
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FlyingHighNow
If I was in your shoes. If I was in your shoes I'd think about shaking the sugar tree.
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Don't tell me that I am a priority in your life
by KariOtt invalentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
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FlyingHighNow
"One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do.
Two can be as bad as one, it's the loneliest number since number one. "
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Fat Girls Guide to Life book
by love2Bworldly inanyone read the "fat girl's guide to life"?
i am reading it right now and finding it pretty interesting.
it makes me think outside the box a little bit about how much money is spent on products for people to lose weight, and how much money saturates the market and influences so much of the media.. the author's attitude is one i try to have-- exercise, be balanced in eating habits, drink water, take nutrition supplements, and don't obsess over dieting & what the scale says or about other people's judgements toward my weight.. right now, i already know why i am overweight-- i am eating to deal with my bipolar issues.
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FlyingHighNow
Except Yadda, that we all have to eat. We don't have to smoke or drink. You can treat your body beautifully and kindly and not starve it to be someone else's idea of slim. We don't all think plump people are ugly.
FHN, thanks for sharing the Lou Bega song!
For some reason I'm really thirsty ...
You are welcome. I love Lou Bega anyway, but he really won my heart with that song and video.
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If the world was different- A world ruled by women.
by fulltimestudent inthis 10 minute video follows a man and his problems as he attempts to deal with women in authority, much as a woman may experience in our own society.. maybe not a real stretch for the imagination.
there have been some matriachal soceities in history.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4uwxlvvt1a.
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FlyingHighNow
Put Sarah Palin in charge. See how things go. I do agree that women tend to be less violent, though.
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Argument with my Child "Why did I stay in the Organization so long?" Anger and Bitter Feelings.
by RottenRiley inlast night my third oldest child wanted to know why we stayed in the organization so long.
child is a third year college student enjoying all the classes this "wicked system" has to offer, the insatiable appetite for learning makes him want to argue and debate, i don't have the energy to debate because i don't feel good with all life has thrown our way.. .
"the only reason i went to meetings so long was because grandma and grandpa needed somebody to take them to meetings and cobe aunt and uncle and secretary aunt and uncle refused to talk to grandma for years, otherwise i would have stopped attending the kingdom hall because the kids were assholes and i was always the one who had to make "first contact", "i was the one who had to go around and meet and greet newbies while the regular jw wall-flowers (calebs) ignored all the visitors and new persons visiting our kingdom hall.
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FlyingHighNow
A lot of us have to deal with bitter grown up kids. After you've apologized several times, enough is enough.
