One of the best threads ever! Thanks to the OP
It's been good reading everyone's lists and comments.
Yes, amongst the MANY things that made me wake up was the constant jabbering about "jehovahs's united people etc"
What they meant was:
we expect UNIFORMITY which is different to UNITY!
I remember being so impressed with the scripture they used to support this: "Fitly united in one line of thought." It's profound of you to realize how this entrapped us. When they brag about this scripture, a new person doesn't understand that someday, he or she may be kicked out and shunned over the most innocent questions and doubts.