but in this stressful world with sooooo many sects, faiths, religions, philosophies.....most of us should be given a "pass" just for surviving this mess without losing our sanity and trying to do the best we can to "play nice."
Certainly if we can cut each other and ourselves slack, then a god could, too. Hopefully God would be as aware of these factors as you or I am. If I am intelligent enough to see there are extenuating circumstances to everyone's unique story, then we hope that God is, too. I'm a theist, but I know that the god portrayed in the Bible is at worst a monster bully, a cretin and an abusive parent. At best he's alienated a lot of people with his inconsistent, split personality. You might find it helpful to look into the concept of universalism. If you need some ideas of good things to read on it, PM me.