Posts by FlyingHighNow

Hey, I'm an old female with a much younger guy. And he is the one who wooed me. Some younger guys are pretty smart. They realize that it's about more than the package. There are a lot more relationships like mine than you probably think. Look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. He's 20 something and she's in her forties. Check out the movie Harold and Maude. He was twenty and she was almost 80. Lots of important but fun lessons in that movie and good Cat Stevens soundtrack.

Men have it easier in some ways. Women have it easier in some ways. It wasn't women who were being drafted and sent to Vietnam.

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I decorated my avatar for Xmas

by FlyingHighNow in

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hope no one is offended.

heather

FlyingHighNow

Orange,

Silly me. I can't see your graphic you posted. Thank you anyway.

Heather

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I still believe in God but

by azaria in

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as before in my other posts i apologize if this post is incoherent and if i rambled on too long.

its been a few months since i last posted.

(don't question, some things are not for us to understand,that certain people are chosen-and we have to accept that.

FlyingHighNow

Azaria,

I told you I'd come and read and comment and so here I am. I see here that you not only have drawn some very thoughtful replies but you have attracted the attention of some of the more serious posters from JWD.

I live in West Michigan and it seems like you can't drive down any major street here without passing a CRC within every couple of miles. I thought this was the spookiest thing when I got here almost two years ago. I had never seen one CRC much less hundreds of CRCs.

I have learned one huge lesson from searching diligently for the truth and for the true God. You can open yourself to unscrupulous men and women as well as unscrupulous religions.

I know this may sound bewildering to you; but here is how I feel: I fell for one big religion telling me they have the truth. I was taken advantage of and very hurt by them. I am not going to allow this to happen to me again as long as I am able minded.

I had an epiphany the other day. I figured out that it's very possible we are not going to know the complete truth here on earth. Probably no church or religion has the complete unadulterated truth. Perhaps it's not meant to be that God operates through any one religion.

I believe when Jesus gathered the little children and said that we should become like them he was saying much more than one might think. I am blessed with being able to remember my baby and child thoughts and feelings about God. I am remembering more everyday about the child view of God I had. It was very pure and God was all love. He was not a rule maker or a condemner. He loved me unconditionally and the thought never occurred to me that God could give up on someone. I never dreamed God could hurt anyone much less condemn them to hell or non existence. He was like a kindly father or grandfather that you could disappoint but he wouldn't give up on you.

I feel like it's very possible when each of us dies, God will be like the Wizard of Oz. He'll tell us we never had to leave Kansas to find our heart's desire. We had it with us all along. Can you remember your earliest thoughts on God? Say, when you were two or three years old? I hope you were allowed to view him as he is. 1John 4:8 says he is Love. I think any church who teaches of him as unloving, and lots of them do, is ignoring that scripture.

By the way, my fiance was raised Catholic. His sister just graduated from a Catholic College in 2002. She became very devout and also very controlled and miserable because of the ill treatment she received from her by-the-book Catholic friends. She has decided to ease up and not be so strict. Catholicism was so hard on my fiance that he will never go back to it. For him it was not as severe as JWs but close in many ways.

I am not saying don't go to the Catholic Church. I am saying that you should be very cautious of thinking you will find absolute truth there. You might try the Anglican Church, too. I was raised in this church. They took the good things about Catholicism and weeded out the bad. The rituals are very similar and beautiful. I don't think they have they truth anymore than any other church but they are not staunch and they don't try to rule your life and they don't claim to be God's only church.

One thing I do know. I know there is a God. I only have to look at babies and children and the love they give and the amount of love we feel for them and know there is a God. Babies do not fear death. They trust that they will be taken care of and cherished. Try to find your way back to that view of God.

Go to church if you want, but don't expect to find the complete truth there. Look in your heart and trust that the creator will take care of you and he will let you know what is going on in the hereafter. He loves everyone. He provides hope for us all. Anyone who tells you God only loves you if you do this or do that is out to control you. Look at God as small child looks at God and I bet you will be a lot happier than looking at God as adults look at God. Adults over complicate God and they project their pickiness and need to control onto him.

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This will most likely be my last post. I do hope you read it.

by azaria in

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this is in reply to my post jehovahs-witness.com/6/62654/1.ashx (i still believe in god but) my post was read 193 times yet only 11 people responded.

(i do thank those who did) the post 3,000 already has 9 replies.

(no im not attacking shamuss post).

FlyingHighNow

Azaria,

SNS and I have been discussing that sometimes you get the feeling you are being overlooked when you're new here. I know I sure got that feeling. I made one thread that got only a handful of replies and one that got many. Both were about music. It's true that the threads do scroll and sometimes it's eveb hard to find your own thread unless you do a topic history on yourself.

I'm going to go right now and look at the thread you linked and comment. I hope it's not too late.

Take care and realize that those people who read your thread but did not comment probably took something away that helped them. A lot of people on the EXJW boards read more than they post.

Take care and look for my reply to your other thread. If you are still here. I hope you're still here.

(((((((Azaria))))))))))

Heather

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Infidelity amongst JWs

by YellowLab in

does there seem to be a higher incidence of infidelity amongst the jws?.

my brother, who is an active jw and ministerial servant, has an elder friend who was recently disfellowshipped for having an affair with another sister in the hall.

it turns out this sister was divorced a few years earlier from a "worldly" man who had an affair on her.

FlyingHighNow

Monogamy needlessly empowers women to something they simply have never been entitled to - evolutionarily or morally.

Wow, I'm sure glad not all men feel this way. And I have this to say: if I had a guy with this attitude, which I wouldn't, but if: I'd say," Sure honey, you go right ahead and have your little girlfriends. Just make sure you don't bring them over the night I have my boyfriends over."

This power struggle between the sexes is completely unecessary and causes undo misery for both sexes. I thank who ever it is in power up there, the person that made men and women with such delightful differences, for those gender differences. And I thank him/her for setting me free from JWs. Now I don't have to live under the antiquated ideas JWs or other patriarchal religions & societies have invented to control women and keep them down.

I thank him/her for the wonderful relationship I have now with a man intelligent enough not to fall for all this "man/woman must have a power struggle" crap. I now know men and women can and do communicate. They can be very good friends. They don't have to get into the petty: men have power to women's detriment/women have power to men's detriment debate. Men and women can be happy and they can be monogomous and they can do it together if they want to.

I hope, Czar that you don't think women should be held to different standards than men should. If you want to sow your seed with multiple partners, I hope you allow your mate the same freedom if she so desires. Otherwise you have a lot of pain ahead of you and poor woman, so does she.

Heather

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I decorated my avatar for Xmas

by FlyingHighNow in

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hope no one is offended.

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Thanks, Blondie and SNS.

Estee, you have the Christmas Spirit! I can feel your yule tide vibes through my magview screen. I can hear those sleigh bells ringa ling ting ting ting a ling, too.

Heather

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Infidelity amongst JWs

by YellowLab in

does there seem to be a higher incidence of infidelity amongst the jws?.

my brother, who is an active jw and ministerial servant, has an elder friend who was recently disfellowshipped for having an affair with another sister in the hall.

it turns out this sister was divorced a few years earlier from a "worldly" man who had an affair on her.

FlyingHighNow

Good point amac. Dolph would have cheated but for his being a good dub and regrets the lost opportunity.

Maybe Dolf wouldn't have cheated anyway, even if he had never been to a KH. You don't have to be a "Christian" to know in your heart it would be an incredibly stupid thing to cheat with the married mother of the girl you like. Really, who but the lowest scum would take advantage of such a foolish woman? I think Dolf probably really doesn't regret having made the wise decision. He probably is just ranting about this elder's wife's blatant hypocrisy and the fact that everyone seemed to be overlooking it because she was an elder's wife.

Heather

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I decorated my avatar for Xmas

by FlyingHighNow in

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hope no one is offended.

heather

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Do I see ciggies smoke on it too?

You know, I was looking at it again, Viv and I think it looks like I am smoking a cigar. If the pic was bigger you could see that it's a mug of coffee I turned into a mug of hot cocoa with whipped cream on top.

Heather

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I decorated my avatar for Xmas

by FlyingHighNow in

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hope no one is offended.

heather

FlyingHighNow

Chim, SNS, Rocketman and Moonwillow: thank you and hope you are all enjoying this christmas season as well.

I liked it Heather it's very festive indeed and cute as well. Do you have some sort of program you designed it with? Moonwillow

I found this avatar on the net somewhere. I don't even remember where. I changed it into a bitmap. You can open your bitmap files in Windows Paint and modify them. I keep a pure copy of the avatar and then I make copies and modify them.

Windows Paint is a pretty crude program but you can still have fun with it. I once did a beautiful portrait of my daughter but the portrait bit the dust when my hardrive died. You can do artwork but you need time and lots of patience. I find Windows Paint is better for being silly than serious graphic art.

Heather