de-cultabilized (if that's even a word)
Well, I guess you just made it a word! Lol!
But that's okay...you are now in 'cult-land' and made up words are acceptable in this world.
I have been out for decades as well and yes, the JW religion has certainly changed - however, the bottom line is the same - hook 'em in and take da money. But it still will sometimes amaze me that with all the information out there, some people will choose such a bad source for their information.
Ah, well, there will always be those who just can't help it. It is the same dynamics at play as happens in abusive domestic situations - too much invested to let go compounded by the psychopathic nature of the organization itself. Classic Stockholm Syndrome. It really isn't the victim's fault - it happens in the 'outside' world as well with many different types of relationships.
Welcome.