On reading your OP, I identified with how utterly painful and 'unreal' this late age awakening must have been for you.
I was a convert, a dedicated convert.
I found that little by little my personal intergrity felt violated by the 'tone' of the Watchtower - and so I started to dig deeper.
A few years ago, I had tried to reach a beloved relative with a couple of our publications - and was knocked back when they answered with an expose of misquotes, that is quotations placed out of context, unashamedly reframing the original thought of the original writer.
I knew this was not the way of 'holiness'.
This was just a small ( relative to other unacceptable issues) but defining point in my Watchtower life. You know how it goes.
It's been a hard, hard and hurtful path.
'They' do so much damage. They truly do.