"Among the fence sitters, there are many Jw's who have doubts, however, they are sincere believers who love their God and want to continue as JW's. These are the ones who happily wait on Jehovah to correct matters."
Agree. Sadly, those same ones are prepared to see others suffer loss and misery for their personal convictions that Jehovah wouldn't teach by manipulation and lies.
But, there is no doubt, many faithful witnesses believe they are 'holding the fort' whilst waiting for Jehovah to correct things.
In the meantime, their faithfulness means they have to shut their eyes to proven slight of hand, smoke screen tactics.
Converts like me, didn't sign up for that....and are left distressed and broken by it all...and so we have to face the pain of disengagement from it all.....quite horrible.
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They have nowhere else to go!
by Crazyguy ini think the overwhelming problem with trying to wake up friends and family is they have nowhere else to go.
i mean these people all their friends are jws a lot of them their family is jws.
if they wake up or agree with you in anyway they know instantly that they loose all this, many will even loose jobs.
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no...No...NOOO...JW's are not a cult!
by FedUpJW injust read this over on jw talk:.
will we be willing to leave unbelieving mates and unresponsive kids behind when given direction on what to do???
what about grandkids who fall under their parents who are not witnesses???
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It's a relief to know I don't have to sit alongside people who think this way....and pray in unison with them.
And their madness isn't their own thinking....it's the product of the Watchtower's grooming.
I remember the anxious discussions around this....only discussed with better grammar!
This is what the 'truth' is all about.
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Since leaving the JW Organization, who is believing?
by Issa ini left the jw organization last year during summer.
maybe some of you can relate.
who of you are agnostic or an atheist?
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Well, I keep faith.
I'm not offended by those who think it's all delusion and rubbish. Although it puzzles me how the door could be so firmly closed on the actual possibility of a higher power by some. Just as it probably puzzles non-negotiable Athiests that I am prepared to share my thoughts and hopes with an invisible Father figure who has never once audibly spoken back to me in a way that is Headline News evidence of His existence.
But, I've always felt aware of something beyond me, our world...as a child, through angry anti-religion teens and into my thirties, when I finally sat down and spent time with coming to grips with my senses re the spiritual dimensions, my internal yearning was as real to me as anything.
Millie wrote it well, regarding the scriptures etc.
I don't treat the bible as an 'idol' - however I do respect and have faith that the progressive writings are pointing us towards a greater truth and hope.
Anyway, that's how it is for me.
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Anxiety, OCD, Hoarding, and the JWs
by Spiral ini'm noticing what seems to be a higher incidence of the above among the local jws than in the "general" (read: worldly) population.
i don't say this lightly, my wanderings around the fringes of jw society locally is revealing an alarming trend here.
the poverty doesn't help (there are good jobs, but you need a degree or qualifications to get one).. anyone else see this?
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I have to say that in my experience the incidence of OCD behaviours and other such issues amongst the JW community is extraordinary high. Really.
I often experienced dry retching attacks prior to a meeting....and I was a full on 'happy' believer.
These were times when I had a whole lot circumstantial emotional stresses on my plate, and the thought of spending the evening in a large gathering of people was NOT upbuilding for me, personally. The chit chat before and after felt excruciating, even though I focused on the person in front of me, and not myself as a sort of self regulation....it was wearying.
There was a period of time, where I was grieving, deeply grieving and I really just needed a kind and non confronting soul to just sit with me, the only company I desired outside of the workplace was in my home setting....and one to one.
Not just for a day, a night....but for a period of time I needed space, some dignity in solitude....and the anxiety of not having endorsed permission to be absent from meetings as a JW made me ill.
It really did.
The religion did a lot of productive things for my life...externally, it all looked good...our house, our social life, our finances and businesses....
But I was one of those who picked my manicured fingers, picked at my head....such anxiety underneath the gloss and the apparently happy life.
My JW friends all drank far too much...elders, pioneers....we all did.
My JW girlfriends were always on edge, or taking medication for anxiety.
Many of us were really all quite spiritually, emotionally and physically sick, when I think about it.
I saw many lives ruined. And that's not sour grapes.
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Eavesdropping on a home Bible Study
by doubtfull1799 inmy mil held a bible study round to our place today and i was home so was interested to listen in from the next room to see what the quality of the study was like.
and whether the new clam meetings are helping jw’s to be better teachers at all.. .
participants:.
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I would warn any person who is studying with JWs to be aware and on guard.
There is no doubt that there are kind-hearted, well meaning folk who are groomed as Jehovah's Witnesses....and this can be quite disarming.
JWs are trained to look interested in 'you', and in many ways they are....but 'you' are actually a target, a desirable target....a JW will easily lose sight of 'you' as 'you' become a 'study' ....and please be aware, they will not be truthful in a 100% transparent way. Not in the way you'd expect when examining matters of such extraordinary significance and importance.
I don't say this to be unkind, but witnesses don't even realise they are actually fudging the 'truth' - every nerve in their being is bent towards making 'you' a Jehovahs Witness.
The faithful JW DOES love Jehovah, as they would prefer to call the Father, but the call to be shaped as a JW styled believer and be part of that community trumps all other considerations or realities.
So, just tread carefully, if you are reading.
If you seek God, please be aware, that surely if He exists, He is more then capable of being found without the use of half truths and silly and misleading interpretations of ancient writings.
I'm just writing this for those who want God, but may be walking towards a entrapped situation which they could later find painful and life endangering, emotionally and materially.
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Hi, all...I'm a faithful JW who is sick of lies about us
by James Donalds ini was baptized 30 years ago and have been in the faith for over 35 years.. our organization isn't perfect.
but i'm sick to death of seeing stereotypes about us.
we are not mindless automatons.
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I was a convert.
I moved mountains to conform my life, to become a 'witness'....I faced family opposition....you can imagine.
And your boastful claims repulse me.
So you are a 'faithful witness?'
Really?
You smoke a cigar?
And you brazenly come to a place where perhaps spiritually weakened witnesses gather, lurk and read and you boast about 'people knowing about your little cigar habit and its OK'....and then you claim you are a faithful witness?
Oh and you curse sometimes. How jolly.
And you vote? In your faithfulness you vote? Sweet!
How thoughtful and caring of you as a 'faithful JW' to present yourself as a normal witness....
Don't make me laugh.
You earn a six figure income?
Yeah well, so did I in the hay-days of my career.
You think that makes you an intelligent thinker?
My observation of folk is that it just means you earn a six figure income - not a guarantee that you are an intelligent thinker.
I've hung around enough high earners like my younger self to know it means zilch. It just means you can earn good coin and possibly street smart/savvy.
You go against the direction of men who claim to lead Jehovah's chosen people and you boast about it?
The problem my dear is that the ranks are riddled with two facers like you ( and yes let's face it, your actions are somewhat two faced aren't they? ....and twits like me were taken in by your nice clean facade.....)
Sorry if this is harsh, I'm usually sweetness and light.
But you know what? Your post royally pissed me off.
Think about it. And think about who you are and what you really stand for.
Apologies for the meaness of my words, I'll probably regret it and then angst over it.
But, I don't know - perhaps a wake up call as to how you really appear won't hurt.
People like you were serpents towards folk like myself, ultimately.
Perhaps you are not of that ilk. I hope not.
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How do I handle this?
by Phoebe ina little advice please.. it's now 7 months since i stopped going to meetings.
we still get regular calls by elders - at least every 2 weeks.
i can handle them.
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With respect to TFG....I'd stay well away from saying I'm dealing with private/personal problems - she and her Mother could go to town on that imagination wise and you can bet your bottom dollar your response won't stay private.....it suggests you are problematic or are experiencing problems ( of course! You don't go to meetings!!!!!) and that's not what it's about.
Isn't it horrible having to manoeuvre through all this stuff?
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How do I handle this?
by Phoebe ina little advice please.. it's now 7 months since i stopped going to meetings.
we still get regular calls by elders - at least every 2 weeks.
i can handle them.
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I'll share what I'd do.....just to add to the play of ideas...
I'd send a pretty little card to the girl, a thank you card or one of those cards that expresses appreciation for thoughtfulness.
I'd write some words that do not focus on or mention the content of her note re meetings, being a witness - but on her personal qualities as a caring person.
I'd finish by saying I'd keep her in my prayers to our Heavenly Father, I'd praise his kindness and tenderness toward me and how grateful I am for his kind guidance in my life.
(If you don't feel that way regarding God you could leave that part out of course!
I'd finish off with the following...
..... appreciative of the kindness and caring that I find in so many places in this busy world, ( and thank her for reminding you of that.) Or something along those lines. I'd keep the tone generous, sensitive to her feelings and self esteem, whilst not going anywhere near the 'witness' stuff.
Just my thoughts 💐
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November broadcast
by inbetween09 inanybody seen november 2017 broadcast ?
i do not mean the hypocritical talks about accuracy, but the rather short talk at the end.
the brother (sorry, forgot the name) addressed the issue of how apostates wrongly inform the media about the 2 witness rule.
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Frankly, they are getting downright scarier in their words and actions every advancing day.
Haven't seen broadcast....but their continued hiding, blustering and playing the 'victim'.....
Good point re sexual 'misdemeanours' as being pronounced 'guilty' without two witnesses to view the act....eg, sister and brother stay in same dwelling overnight and alone....can't they work out how.....wrong that is?????
I honestly don't think they have inkling as to how they really sound to the world, and to those who say 'enough' ....
It's horrible. It truly is.
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My Cognitive Dissonance is Eating Me Alive (Intro Post)
by pometerre21 ini've been lurking here for a couple of weeks now.
i'm starting to "awaken" and it is all that has been occupying my mind.
i've always, always had doubts, some of which i expressed to family members who always had the same replies:.
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Just to add.....its been just about 4 years or more since my last meeting (I think)
It seems many JW "doubters" go through hell as they face a complete breakdown in the very thing they trusted, that perhaps has been the glue of their lives....providing community, purpose and more.
Very tough when 'life' can be pretty good as a JW....for some...and I had some very good things to seemed to me.
I was a long term convert.....like a few others here I was in my late 50s when the uncomfortable feelings just kept coming and coming.....
I invested my life really, friends, wonderful memories.....but the dark 'issues' could not be overlooked as in overlooking in a 'loving way'.....summat was up. I knew it.
It was ugly, the pulling away, the early years that followed....and to be honest, my life suddenly seemed to be in the middle of perfect storm coming from all sides...on all sorts of issues....
But....My life has bloomed in the past year or so....in a heartfelt way, in a peace in my heart way.
I wouldn't trade this feeling for anything.
The pain and the dark days were ultimately (although I couldn't see it at the time) just a path to what I now hold to be precious, more precious then anything.
Have courage dear.