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  What is it with Texas weather?

  by Elsewhere in

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  it is late october and the temperatures are still in the mid to upper 80's.

  when am i going to get some cold weather?

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  We had 98 in so cali yesterday. But the humidity is different here. It didn't feel that hot. It did feel wonderful though
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  New Divorce Rules ???

  by jazbug in

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  a friend of mine is getting a divorce because her husband is questioning the wts...he's sick of the cover-ups...in light of a new elder abuse case here.

  she says she can't lie with someone who is going to talk against the wts..so i asked her how she could get a divorce for those reasons.

  evidentally, the co came to talk to her and because she can't get govt.

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  sounds like another one of those rules that some hear about and others don't. I had a man pushing me to the brink of suicide if he could have purposely and even lied about being able to have sex (no we behaved and didn't test it out). But the elders told me not 8 months ago that I couldn't divorce him. I couldn't even separate. I could have received an anullment in the laws of the land but we can't honor that. And tell me this, I am willing to bet that IF some parents found out their kids got married but yet had not had sex, ran to the elders, some cong would say go get an anullment. There has not been a consumation of the marriage. So then and anullment would be oK? but I marry a guy who can't and it isn't recognized. (yes I am bitter and this was my eye opener to get out) Not to mention because he did not yet have a green card he couldn't work and was bleeding me dry financially. I was almost evicted twice due to lack of funds.
  
  So like I said.. bet this is a rule someone said was ok for her but not necessarily a unified one coming from the WTBS.
  
  ok I'll stop rambling. But if finances are enough for her and the fact he questions the society, boy that burns. It's ok though. If they had been more understanding, maybe I'd still be blind. In the long run I think I am better off.
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  Just curious...

  by kj in

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  how many of you were actually brought into the jws by someone at your door?

  how many were born in or brought in by family?.

  kj

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  toddler when my mom came in
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  That sure was good for my ego now wasn't it

  by William Penwell in

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  for all us guys it feels good to be wanted.

  just a little story about last week wednesday.

  i went accross from where i live, they have karoake that night.

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  Sounds like a fun night to me. Maybe we should call you "Hot Stuff" from now on.
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  Now That You've Left The Organization, Are You "Going Back To The Vomit?"

  by minimus in

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  whenever you read the society's publications regarding "apostates" and those that simply leave the organization, you will see how the watchtower will try to make such ones horrible persons.

  they are said to be "rotten, like gangrene, those going back to their vomit".

  they are said to re-adopt all of babylon the great's terrible practices.

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  Part of me thought about going wild after being restrained for so many years (like all my life cept maybe 2 months). Never a date for the prom, never a date for a movie. Nothing. So part of me felt like I guess just going out there and dating a ton of men and making up for the fun I never had. The only thing I knew that can get old too. And with it can come some repurcussions if one does not play it safe. So against my rebellous nature that wanted to come out to play after being restrained for so long, I chose to restrain myself and use forthought. I chose to use my head. As far as holidays and the like, well, I need to rethink all of that. Are they truly pagan or just in the eyes of JWs. There in lies the question. Whose definition do we base this on? Those are some things I guess I need to figure out.
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  WOOO HOOOO!!!!!!!

  by neverthere in

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  to those who have written to my posts about the adoption that my family is going through, i heard from my lawyer today and though it was only a phone message, my ex is going to consent to the adoption!!.

  nice to share something good for a change!!!.

  diana

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  Congratulations
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  For Aztec

  by rocketman in

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  hey aztec,.

  to help the detroit lions improve, we've decided to merge them with the detroit red wings.

  their new helmet design will be:.

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  I know all about others years when my team was less than anything to be excited about. (meaning I am sympathetic)

  I have been really enjoying the season though...sorry... (HUGE MN Vikings fan leaves the room)
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  Bad marriage and being a JW

  by anglise in

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  being trapped in jw land is a bit like a bad marriage.. when you first get married(baptized) everything is good and happy, the rose coloured glasses effect.. then later on, maybe years down the line, things change or are revealed that alter the contentment of the situation, but by then there is more commitment due maybe to children or shared friends and pastimes so it is difficult if not impossible to extract oneself from it.. to do so risks losing any normal contact with your children, grandchildren and those you thought were your friends.. so many choose to stay in a loveless/violent or broken down marriage (the borg) because the alternative is too awful to cope with.. what other loving religious group controls its members like this and then has the audacity to preach to everyone across the globe that theirs is the true way chosen by god.. anglise

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  I was thinking when I first started reading this thread that I don't know if it was ever rosy in my eyes in the beginning because I was 'given' this religion, rather than that I 'found' it. Guess it is like an arranged marriage then huh? But I sure do relate to the part about when chosing to leave and losing people. I remember when I was married and I thought my marriage was ending (it did end, just took a slow death of many years to happen) and I would think about which friends would I lose, who would stay with him and who would stay with me and who would just be gone completely in our lives. Now as I have just come out and told family and close friends, before doing so I had the same feelings. Who will I lose? Even though I was chosing to change my life, I would still miss those who I loved and I knew would chose to cut me out and 'obey' rather than keep me in their life.

  And just like a divorce, when you leave, there is bitterness. I sure found out that. Not from me, but from some who show their true "christian" qualities by lashing out at you for making this choice.
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  Hate those long nights

  by Sassy in

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  i get insomnia a lot and i know others on here do as well.

  that is very common place for me.

  tonight though, my back slid out just before i went to sleep.

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  Wow! that would be hard to sleep to! I would hate that. I'd probably be crabby too. It's one thing if my body doesn't let me sleep and quite another if others are causing my lack of sleep by inconsideration for the time of night noises are in full force.

  I can't believe they were working that late. I suppose they had no choice.
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  For Better or For Worse?

  by Guest 77 in

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  ok, to the point, who got the best deal in the marriage agreement, you or your spouse?

  my answer is, me.

  my wife got ripped off.. no need for details when replying.

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  I GOT THE GOLDMINE..........THE KIDS........THATS ALL THAT MATTERED TO ME!

  I am so glad you did MORTONS68!