Two things hurt the most: the look in her eyes when she looks at me as if I was the very impersonation of evil. Also, the fact that she chooses as friends the very same people that ignore me because I'm inactive. That tells me a lot where our marriage is on her list of priorities.
I know exactly what you mean, I have seen that look. I also feel the same way about how our marriage got relegated and 'theocratic & spiritual' things took precedence. I know how hard it is to express the kind of pain that this brings to those who see the flaw and live in it. All I can say is I know how you feel because I have lived through it too.