Raven,
Please tell your mother. Your attorney has advised you. You will not be meeting with the elders unless your attorney is present. A written statement from your accuser(s) must be presented to your attorney three weeks before any meeting. Please provide the name(s) of all elders that will be present during the meeting.
Don't give them control. It is your life and you have rights too! They hate it when you mention lawyer or attorney.
Enjoy your life !