Posts by ToesUp

21

60th Anniversary today - I was baptized 9-01-56

by Bonnie_Clyde in

60th anniversary – i was baptized 9-1-56 .

my parents weren’t witnesses at the time, but my witness uncle studied with my brother and i. i think the only reason my parents let him was because my brother was having mental issues and were hoping it would help him.

my father surprised me a few years later, started studying and was baptized in 1961, later appointed an elder.

ToesUp

Thank you Bonnie. I really enjoyed your post.

I am so sorry your daughter is shunning you. I know that hurts. It is good to hear that you are happy and the majority of your immediate family is close knit and out.

It is amazing how unloving and cruel the organization can be to the members. So many things that you mentioned in your post are the exact things that made us take our exit 3 years ago. We left together, along with our children. We are happier now. Why is that? We were always told that we would be miserable. Not so.

Enjoy your life and freedom away from a controlling and abusive organization.

Hugs to you!

22

Seen smoking a cigarette

by Godsendconspirator in

i won't say i got "caught" because that would imply i was keeping my habit hidden.

i'm tired of constantly doing that with these guys.

yesterday, my friend and i were waiting for some people and decided to smoke a cigarette to pass the time.

ToesUp

It's funny how they are afraid of someone smoking a cigarette but are fine with a person in the hall that is a pedofile. Crazy people!

27

I think this is an important question...

by The Rebel in

jw
friends

when i first met my wife and on that so important first date i was 21 years old and sadly broke, she was an 18 year old au pair.

any way i treated her to mcdonald's but she had to pay for the meal.

now over 20 years later and still together, i realize how lucky i was she didn't say on that first date " if you can't afford to pay "our" mcdonald's meal f...off" .

ToesUp

I guess it depends on how much you really like the person you are sitting across from.

My spouse (married over 30 years) sometimes "forgot" his wallet . I (the woman) paid. It's cool....I liked him. He is the ONLY guy I really liked. We were best friends then and still are. We are very fortunate (as JW's would say...blessed).

There may come a time in life when the wife makes more money or has to support the family financially. It's no big deal, we are a team and the money goes in the family "pot." That may not work for some, but it worked great for us. It still does.

16

JW hospitality

by Chook in

about 5 years ago when i was in, my son who at the time was 18 needed somewhere to sleep for a couple of nights due to work commitments ,in a city 2 hours from home.

my "best man" who is an elder that lives in this city , was asked could my son stay a couple of nights .

the response was he doesn't go to meetings anymore ,he can't stay here , i ask can he sleep on garage floor instead , still can't stay .

ToesUp

"BUT, haven't you watched one of the latest music clips on the broadcasting website??

It is all about showing hospitality!!"

BUT...only to exemplary JW's.

51

Can’t cope with being disfellowshipped…..Need some advice

by xxBettyBoopxx in

this site is great, i have been lurking for a while now.

but i can’t get reinstated and have used some of the advice already given.. i was df’d many months ago and go to all the meetings and do all the preparation for the meetings, but the jc committee keep refusing me.

tomorrow at the clam meeting i am puting yet another letter in and will be called for another dreadful jc meeting.. 1. what can i say to the elders to show that i am truly repentant?.

ToesUp

Welcome Betty. It is sad the emotional abuse these "men" (no holy spirit) lay upon their "spiritual family."

Everyone's reason for going back is typically to get contact with their family. Emotional blackmail. It's not my place to judge you. You are a better person than I am. I would do as someone else said and go tell em to F off.

We have a family member that the Elders did the same thing to him/her. Made him/her grovel for 2 years. Shame on them! It sickens me how they do this to people. No love.

Do what feels right to you. But I (no judgement here) would run like hell. If your family doesn't want you back, screw em.

Where else is the world do people do this to others? Just in a few crazy cults. I have 2 kids and wild horses couldn't get me away from them. EVER!

Keep reading and learning. There is more about this cult than meets the eye. Do as someone said, go to JW facts. I learned so much there. I finally figured out why WT doesn't want you to go on the internet. It exposes them for the liars they really are!

Hugs to you.

7

Best one liners

by Chook in

at kh my typical response to the lords of brooklyn .

can you pray for me?.

remember me when you get into your kingdom .

ToesUp

Jehovah provides!

26

Does anyone else squirm uncomfortably in disbelief?

by stuckinarut2 in

as we know, every month on the "official broadcasting" presentation, a new "music video" is presented.. can these possibly be any more cringe-worthy??.

the words, music, singing are so, so bad....i mean, so bad!.

surely witnesses are not so stupid that they don't harbor secret feelings of awkwardness when they see these?.

ToesUp

We don't attend anymore BUT the cart music video was a kicker! If we were still in and present when that was being shown, you would have had to peel us off the floor, we would be laughing out loud. That one was beyond words.

43

Is this the last chance for inactive and df'd ones?

by innerpeace in

hi all, just wondering if there's anything going around about the elders receiving instruction from the society to give inactive ones and disfellowshipped ones one last chance to come back?

i ask because i have a still in family member that i received a message from, and urging me to go back.

the elders are apparently saying there is no time left.

ToesUp

"I was recently handed the "Return" pamphlet by a local elder. I read it and realized that it doesn't address my personal grievances. I was more moved by the fact that the brother remembered me and cared enough to drop by.

Then I heard that CO week was coming up and it tainted the whole thing. They love making a good report about themselves to the CO!"

Exactly! You think they care but then you realize it is time for the ole CO visit. You are just a check box on a list of "to do's" before the CO visit. Yeah...that's genuine! What a bunch of as* kissers.

43

Is this the last chance for inactive and df'd ones?

by innerpeace in

hi all, just wondering if there's anything going around about the elders receiving instruction from the society to give inactive ones and disfellowshipped ones one last chance to come back?

i ask because i have a still in family member that i received a message from, and urging me to go back.

the elders are apparently saying there is no time left.

ToesUp

Like someone said above...."wash, rinse, repeat."

Same story, different day. They are just using video and digital format instead of gory pictures of people who are toast.

49

"back in the day people didn't know not to abuse kids"- a jw explanation for their abuse scandal

by purrpurr in

a few weeks back i showed the guardian article about the borg refusing to cooperate with the charity commission into child abuse to a fellow jw.

their response was quite amazing.

they told me that in the 50s-80s people didn't know about child abuse, didn't know it was wrong and no one really believed children when they claimed they had been abused - even worldly people.. they said that alot of the time children lie about being abused or therapists plant false memories in their heads and that apostates lie about being abused to undermine our faith.. about the borg not cooperating with the commission they said that it was probably because they wanted to protect the identities of jw's who had been abused.

ToesUp

Back in the day they also said "no blood transfusions....none. NOW, you can take blood fractions (where's the scripture?). Years ago the said, "no organ transplants." Now they are saying we didn't know we were supposed to stay away from kids? You have to ask yourself, how many lives have been affected or lives have ended due to WT's changing doctrine? How many lives over the years were cut short that could have been saved? How many people's lives have been cut short (suicide) or ruined because of WT policy on child abuse? WT's nonchalant attitude will come back to bite them? It will be a pleasure to watch WT and the GB squirm when they have to answer for their "policies."