the jw i dated hung around for 14 years before finally being baptised (i don't know how he got away with that).
i've heard that the way they treat you changes after you've signed on the dotted line, that the gloves come off and they start turning the screws.
i'd like to know if this was true for any of you and what your experiences in this area are.. thanks, little1
The jw I dated hung around for 14 years before finally being baptised (I don't know how he got away with that). I've heard that the way they treat you changes after you've signed on the dotted line, that the gloves come off and they start turning the screws. I'd like to know if this was true for any of you and what your experiences in this area are.
Thanks, Little1
i'd like the answer to the "boy meets worldly girl" question as well.
i was going to reply to the previous post but realized when i got to the end of my rant that other topics worth considering are mentioned in my message:
as a "worldly girl" (well, i'm 29) i've spent the last few days reading all i can about "the society" and trying to figure out what the hell has gone on in my life for the past few months.
Twizzle, dear, my heart goes out to you. I posted my story yesterday (My story and why I'm here) so won't go into gory detail again, but please read it. The upshot is that I was in love with a JW man for 3 years and it was hell as I was jerked around by his battle with his feelings for me and his loyalty to them. They finally won. He was the sweetest, most loving guy in the world until he got more and more involved with them. I haven't seen or heard from him in 3 months, and the pain is exactly like what I imagine you're going through. He and I were so compatible and shared so much, I can't believe he'd turn his back on me the way he has. He knew there was no way I'd knuckle under and become an obedient little jw wife. Please get out while you can. I wish I'd have bailed at the first sign of waffling. I'd have saved myself years of heartache and buckets of tears. I, too, think I'll never find anyone like him again, but I've heard that god doesn't have any plan "B"s, if plan "A" doesn't work out, he'll give you another plan "A". Learn all you can and stay around. You're in the right place. hugs, little1
i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.
i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.
3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.
Thanks again, guys. Just knowing I'm not the only one helps tremendously. And I've seen many explanations for his behavior (self-righteousness, not believing in luck, etc. not to mention his depression) here. He is a sweet guy and I believe had we met before they got their hooks into him we would have been quite happy. I know he's not happy, but that's his choice. Life will go on and things will only get better for me if I keep my eyes open and my wits about me. My wit, too.
You're the best!
L1
i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.
i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.
3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.
You all are so great! It helps so much to be around those who understand and have suffered at the hands of the WTS also. To know that I'm not alone means so much. Thanks so much. If any of you are in GA-look me up! You, too, Maverick.
i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.
i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.
3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.
JamesThomas, you are truly wise! I am trying to reply to your message which I finally located thanks to Simon, but everytime I send I get an error message. Could it have something to do with using a Mac? if I can't get it to work I'll try tomorrow at work on the pc. It's hell being a Mac momma in a pc world. by the way, you look really cute with the sox on your ears! L1
i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.
i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.
3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.
Help James Thomas-I see no inbox!!! My only options are Active topics, Member directory, search, chat, terms of use.
i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.
i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.
3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.
Hearts that love don't age. We don't find that out until we get older! To prove how old I'm getting I'm gonna have to go soon, It's almost time for the Prairie Home Companion. Yes, I admit it, I'm a Keillor fan. Can old farthood be far behind? Or is it here already?
i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.
i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.
3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.
thanks, Mouthy! I haven't seen him in 3 months, actually, or heard from him. I tried to break up with him in a friendly way, we agreed that it wasn't working and that we'd be friends. Then 2 weeks later he called and wanted to take me to dinner. Long story short we ended up at his house and he was trying to put the moves on me again and I put my foot down. I said that I am not a toy and that he needed to stop jerking me around. haven't seen or heard from him since.
what weird things do only jehovah's witnesses do?
Back up to where they frown on 2 door sports cars! Now that's going too far! But really, I knew my jdub boyfriend was seriously impaired and out of touch with reality when he said he was considering selling his 300zx (black with tasteful purple flames) to get a 4 door sedan for door to door. I told him that he'd lost his mind.
i?ve been a lurker for awhile and a member for a little while, and i?d like to tell you about myself and why i?m here.
i was looking for information, comfort and explanations for what happened in my life and i?ve found all that and more here---thank you all so much for your contributions, words of wisdom and humor.
3 years ago, almost 4, i was a divorced mother of 3 just getting my life together after having been married to a raging alcoholic for over 13 years.
Well, you're close Gumby-5"3 and 105--really little! Fear is the operative word, I think. He once told me that "jws don't have any fear" and I just looked at him and laughed. I could clearly see that his whole life was ruled by fear! Ian, I just read your story and it breaks my heart. I'll add your daughters to my prayers for opened eyes. I knew he'd really gone to the edge when he talked about trading his 300zx for a 4 door sedan so he could more easily go door to door. I asked him if he'd lost his mind. I'm sure they must be on his case about his flashy car-it's black with tastefully subdued purple flames! Not your average jw mobile!
