Posts by alamb

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I can't believe what just happened !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Puternut in

jw
friends

i have been calling my kids for some time now.

i am moving far away soon, and since i haven't had any contact with my daughters, i called them to let them know i was moving, and would like to say goodbye, before i flew away.

weeks went by, as ususal, and no response.

I can't believe what just happened !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Puternut in

jw
friends

i have been calling my kids for some time now.

i am moving far away soon, and since i haven't had any contact with my daughters, i called them to let them know i was moving, and would like to say goodbye, before i flew away.

weeks went by, as ususal, and no response.

alamb

Congratulations Puternut!!! I am so happy for you!!! Please keep us posted, this is wonderful.

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JW's Give Go Ahead for Birthdays???w/t 22/9/03

by Latte in

the pinata

an ancient tradition

by awake!

alamb

I don't call them birthdays. I call them annual anniversaries of the baby shower (which were both OK, right?).

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Comments You Will Not Hear at the 6-6-04 WT Study (5-1-04)

by blondie in

indeed, in his name nations will hope.

paragraphs 10-12.

paragraphs 16-17.

Thank you, Blondie, for these reviews. The information is so valuable to some of us for many reasons and I don't want that to go without letting you know my gratitude for the wisdom and time it takes to put these out.

Thanks.

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What did you do with your Bible Studies?

by Nosferatu in

jw
friends

when you left the troof, what did you end up doing with any bible studies you had (if you had any)?

alamb

I called them up and said to "Sorry. I've been feeding you crap for years." One said, "Yes, I know" and we laughed.

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The day a brother died in my Hall, & the unbelievable events that followed.

by Mr Ben in

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friends

this one really freaked me out.

i was so brainwashed at the time i found a way to justify it.

i think i?ve been repressing my anger about this and now i need to vent.

alamb

Odrade:

I'm still crying too.

I kept the buttons they cut off his shirt and they are in a teacup in my curio cupboard. I guess lessons come to you from out of nowhere...and you can face them and grow or ignore them and drift. I just made a phone call...neither of the 'weak ones' attends meeting anymore either. wow

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The day a brother died in my Hall, & the unbelievable events that followed.

by Mr Ben in

jw
friends

this one really freaked me out.

i was so brainwashed at the time i found a way to justify it.

i think i?ve been repressing my anger about this and now i need to vent.

alamb

OK, now I'm sick...and here's my story.

1997. The CO was visiting our hall and all of 'us pioneers' were out to impress and go out door to door when it was over 100 degrees outside. As we got into cargroups an elderly man with our group walked over to the shed and took out the lawn mower. He pulled sneakers out of his car and took off his tie. Everyone was in a hurry to go but I had that hunch to go over and say goodbye. I hardly ever had spoken to him but told him how he had been such a good friend to my father-in-law lately and how I had noticed and that meant alot to me. He looked me in the eye for a long time and said he counted it a pleasure to be anyone's friend. Well, off we go in service and return 2 hours later. My daughter jumps out of the car to play on the lawn and finds him...shoes in hand and dead.

I took my daughter inside and told her to play there with a friend. Everyone went into zombie mode. One friend called an ambulance and I called his wife. The friend was crying and so was I. Everyone else was inside waiting for the CO! They were straightening their bookbags and fiddling in their car trunks and it infuriated me. They would not react. The ambulance came and took him while they stood across the parking lot. I phoned his wife and told her he wasn't feeling well, as she had to drive to the hall. I met her at the corner before she could see the ambulance and drove her to the hospital and went home with her and phoned her daughters to tell them. I stayed all day.

The next meeting went about as planned and the wife sat in the rear of the hall crying while everyone ignored her. It kept hitting me in waves how cold and inhumane they all were...and I called them friends. So, the day of the funeral, CO still there, I pull up to the hall in a pick-up with my yard tools and take over where he left off. One group asked me if I didn't have hours to get in...I told them I was doing what should be done. The cargroups left and I was all alone for about 10 minutes. Up pulled another car. Another "weak sister" with a flat of flowers to plant where he died. Another hour and a truck pulls up with a "weak brother" and an edger he used as he worked for the city. We didn't speak but watched in amazement at the cargroups going about business. It only hit me later I had been the last person to speak to him and it bothers me I couldn't have said more.

At that moment I was on my way out and realized the cars full of pioneers and elders and their wives (I was an elder's wife) trying to impress the CO and his wife were not where I wanted to be. My elder husband reprimanded me for not putting spiritual things first. But I learned the first of many important lessons about the people I called friends: the 'weak' ones in the hall had the hearts and I would rather be among them. I wonder where they are now.

I

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Did you ever get a W (Work needed) on a talk?

by desib77 in

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friends

someone mentioned this in one of their posts and i had a flashback.

i remember getting a w on one of my theocratic school talks when i was working on gesturing.

the funny thing about it is that it was given to me by my dad!

alamb

I got my only W's from my father also. I had/have no idea why sisters had to work on timing. My argument was the sisters had NO need to have any sense of timing since we would never giver parts on assemblies, etc. and no presentation at the door was exactly 5 minutes either. How do you meet a stranger, get into the depths of a point, and then end in 5 minutes in real life?

The other points were gestures. But my father would have his nose burried in the TMS book the whole talk and then say he never saw a gesture. Finally, I would gesture and pause until he looked up so he would catch them and everyone that knew what I was doing would giggle.

Overall, I hated the school too.

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This is about out beloved Dansk

by mouthy in

how sorry i was to hear from dansk-he is going through a very difficult time.. i would like all prayers, thoughts, please keep this in mind ____ for me!!!!.

the sad news he has cancer.it is lymphoma!!!

they are waiting on the results of the biopsy before determining treatment..... he didnt want me to say anything at first- as he feels you all have your own problems & he didnt want to upset anyone-because he says "they are dear friends".

alamb

Hello Friend,

Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and close to my heart.

alamb

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"I Used to Have a Family..."

by Larry in

jw
friends

i was just reading a moving post by flower, that inspired this thread.

but i admit i am lonely for the comfort that a group of people called 'family' brings.

i used to have a family.

alamb

I used to have a family.... one mother, one father, one brother. After leaving, I have regained all the non-JW I had never known and now have a wonderful aunt and uncle (who have graciously stepped in as Grandma and Grandpa to my little ones) and 4 cousins and lots of little sweeties to meet someday!

The cult is also in the process of stealing three of my children, but not while I'm breathing. I want to show them the family that loves them no matter what...the family I NOW have....I guess the REAL one.