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  For My Kids

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  i haven't been on here much, but every so often i try and keep up with the discussions.

  i'm sure this topic has been talked about before, so my apologies in advance if i'm repeating.. a little about me.... i'm a non baptized jw married to a devout jw.

  both my husband and i were raised in the organization.

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  UPDATE:

  It's been over a year since I initially started this post. I haven't posted, but I've periodically been on here still reading.

  My husband and I are still together. To say life is peachy would be a lie, but more and more I'm getting my voice.

  My husband and I just don't talk about the "it" in our life. Wherever we do, it's the same conversation, same song, repeat, same song, repeat, etc.

  As a mom, I've tried to slowly introduce "worldly" things to my kids, like buying them birthday presents and putting a small Christmas tree up in an inconspicuous area of our home, etc. My middle child is VERY hesitant. She's my tender hearted one and doesn't want to disappoint anyone, especially her dad. It broke my heart, she asked me if for the family, I'd consider just attending meetings together. I later asked my husband if he put her up to it, he said he told her to do what she felt Jehovah would want her to do.

  Looking back, I wish I pushed harder for balance before my kids were in school and just learning. I wish I exposed them to Christmas, birthdays, non-JW friends, Trick or Treating, and more right from the start. I want them to see both sides and not feel the guilt because this would be their normal life. Hindsight, 20/20!

  Taking it one day at a time for my kids.
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  For My Kids

  by myjourney in

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  2. family

  i haven't been on here much, but every so often i try and keep up with the discussions.

  i'm sure this topic has been talked about before, so my apologies in advance if i'm repeating.. a little about me.... i'm a non baptized jw married to a devout jw.

  both my husband and i were raised in the organization.

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  @Zana

  It didn't seem to make much of an impact. Instead, he tried to convince me that he got baptized at 12 because he wanted to serve jehovah and it had nothing to do with his family or wanting to please his family. As far as agreeing to have our kids wait, that's still up for debate.I will fight him, my family, his family, and anyone else to ensure this doesn't happen.
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  For My Kids

  by myjourney in

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  i haven't been on here much, but every so often i try and keep up with the discussions.

  i'm sure this topic has been talked about before, so my apologies in advance if i'm repeating.. a little about me.... i'm a non baptized jw married to a devout jw.

  both my husband and i were raised in the organization.

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  myjourney

  Just a follow-up. ..

  First, thank you for the support and advice. I have no one to share with except a person at work, it's great sharing with those who can understand

  My husband and I have been talking about balance. Unfortunately, he is putting his foot down on most of what we've discussed. He seems to be digging in now that I'm pushing back. I told him the deal breaker is baptism. When I asked him if he would let our children get married at 12 or 13, he said of course not. I then said that he would encourage our kids to make a life long commitment with greater consequences than marriage. I asked what he would do if at 20, his son or daughter decided this wasn't "the truth? " When he said he would have no choice but to disfellowship as Jehovah instructed, I broke down. Who is this man that I love, the father of my children, the man I pledged to spend my life together?

  The stress of this life I have chosen is physically making me ill.

  I'm not giving up, but I'll admit my heart is breaking. How do you live this life?
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  For My Kids

  by myjourney in

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  i haven't been on here much, but every so often i try and keep up with the discussions.

  i'm sure this topic has been talked about before, so my apologies in advance if i'm repeating.. a little about me.... i'm a non baptized jw married to a devout jw.

  both my husband and i were raised in the organization.

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  myjourney

  Thank you for your responses. To clarify, the possibility of me separating is a last resort. I will say, since the JW organization gives the full power to the man in the household, as the wife, I'm finding it difficult to get the balance I'm seeking. I've been completely honest with my husband and my feelings, questions, and realization that this isn't "the truth." He said he would respect my decision, but as our children's father, he has a responsibility raise them as dedicated JW's. I told him that as their mother I had the responsibility to raise them to make their own choice and give them the tools to make that decision. I've proposed he be able to take them to one meeting per week and out in service once a month, but I get to give them birthdays, Christmas, and other celebrations. I also told him I wouldn't home school, but I would be an active parent volunteer in their schools, including not removing them from class parties, sports, or other activities.

  I love my husband, but my ultimate responsibility is to my kids. If he can't agree to some amount of balance, he may leave me no other choice.

  Thank you for listening, and if you have any other advice on how to proceed, I'm all ears.
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  For My Kids

  by myjourney in

  1. social
  2. family

  i haven't been on here much, but every so often i try and keep up with the discussions.

  i'm sure this topic has been talked about before, so my apologies in advance if i'm repeating.. a little about me.... i'm a non baptized jw married to a devout jw.

  both my husband and i were raised in the organization.

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  myjourney

  Hi,

  I haven't been on here much, but every so often I try and keep up with the discussions.

  I'm sure this topic has been talked about before, so my apologies in advance if I'm repeating.

  A little about me...

  I'm a non baptized JW married to a devout JW. Both my husband and I were raised in the organization. From the time I was young I couldn't drink the kool-aid. In my early adult years, I tried. I studied, went to meetings, out in service, you know the gig, but Thankfully I never took the plunge. During this time I met and married my husband. Fast forward, 3 kids later and i'm dying inside. My husband is pushing me to homeschool for obvious reasons, dragging them to every meeting and out to service. There isn't any balance in my children's lives. It's a repeat of my childhood all over again.

  So my question, more and more I've begun thinking of separating from my husband. I feel like it is the only way to offer balance in their lives. Despite my husband's objective I returned to work so financially I'd be ok. More importantly, we would have to split time with the kids giving me several days a week for normalcy. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, he's a wonderful father if you could remove the JW influence and has been an attentive, hard working, and loving husband. However, I can't sit idly by and watch my kids being brainwashed, I'm their only shot at life.

  Am I crazy to be considering this drastic step? Anyone else living an anxiety filled life? How do you handle watching your children living a lie? I can't continue living this way!

  Thanks for listening.
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  Do you have someone you trust?

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  hi, i'm a newbie around here.

  i've been reading the posts, but reluctant to step out of my safe zone.

  i definitely see how coming to a safe place to ask questions, vent, etc.

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  I think I need to stick with only Sharing my true thoughts on here.  Even sharing with someone I trust has a way of getting back to my family.  Close call recently...my trusted friend didn't say anything but a family member almost caught me writing an email about my feelings.
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  Roll call of those of us stuck in for our spouse or whos spouse is still in!

  by BU2B in

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  i just wanted to get a feel for how many here have awakened to ttatt but are still carrying on some jw activities to pacify them and keep the peace.

  also trying to hear from those who have left, but whose spouse has stayed in the wt and in the marriage.. for me it comes down to my own mental anguish.

  i am mentally tortured by attending the meetings, yet i feel compelled to because my wife would kill me with her personality if i had her drag 2 small girls by herself there.

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  Marked...great read.
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  Cut and Paste of "The List" by Prominent Bethelite of Previous Watchtower Predicted Dates

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  " {watchtower sep 1 1989 12}.

  " {tiah 240-1, also references in wr oct 1879 3941, tkic 84}.

  '" {zions watchtower mar 1880 repr 82}.

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  Found and marked.

  Thanks!
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  Do you have someone you trust?

  by myjourney in

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  hi, i'm a newbie around here.

  i've been reading the posts, but reluctant to step out of my safe zone.

  i definitely see how coming to a safe place to ask questions, vent, etc.

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  Shoot, sometimes I speak before I think.  I  better stick with venting on here and only confiding  in who I can truly trust.  I need to learn to just "keep it to myself" in the JW world.   😕
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  Do you have someone you trust?

  by myjourney in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi, i'm a newbie around here.

  i've been reading the posts, but reluctant to step out of my safe zone.

  i definitely see how coming to a safe place to ask questions, vent, etc.

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  Thanks for all the great welcomes and advice!  I'm not sure if anyone can  tell but I "liked" most comments! 

  I look forward to interacting on this site! Great place to find on "my journey! "