Never ever kiss her ass. Dont clean the fucking house when shes at a meeting. If she gets to go play all day and do nothing for the family then why the hell should you carry the weight??
Be a good husband and ask whats wrong. Try to engage her. If she rejects your efforts then let her know her shit wont be tolerated and if she dosent want like it or want to shape up she knows where the door is. Jw women will take every goddamn inch you give them. Dont give into shitty attitudes after shes been neglecting you all day.