Kate my mom was not where she is now. My mom originally had custody. My dad was df'd. She started dating again which made me frustrated. I was 10 when they divorced and it had nothing to do with the religion. My dad was getting reinstated when I was 12 and she had started dating "worldly" guys.
Everyone in my family believed this was the "truth". Including my mom who remarried a non witness. My young life consisted of playing mediator. Yes my Dad said many negative things about my mom as did my older siblings grown said of him. When I was with her I played the role of confidant and tried to make her happy and assure her of my love.
These are some of the reasons I moved away from my family when I turned 17. I moved over 1,000 miles away with an uncle and aunt to pioneer where the need was greater. Or to get away from family drama.