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JW caregiver married grandfather with dementia

by Paige2014 in

i am so angry and i need to vent.

a jw who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the gal and the va social worker.

this happened several years ago.

Paige2014

The way Medicaid works is that if the funds/assets are transferred Medicaid can refuse to cover anything for my grandfather because they will say he had the assets and transferred them to her (in the mind of Medicaid, he is trying to hide assets to avoid them getting it). I know this because I called the Elder Law hot line here in IL. So there is a huge risk on his part because she manipulated him into transferring funds/assets to her name.

I think something is getting lost here. Every month all but 1800 a month is leaving his accounts. She automatically gets 1200 and then the other amounts allegedly go towards his needs. But for arguments sake we will say that the other funds go towards his food/utilities and upkeep of the house and car. If she gets an additional 1500 that means he will be left with 300 a month to put into savings. That leaves very little financial cushion should an emergency arise.

The best way to deal with this is to have a trust set up so someone, a third party, oversees his finances and makes sure the money goes towards his care with some money being dolled out to her.

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JW caregiver married grandfather with dementia

by Paige2014 in

i am so angry and i need to vent.

a jw who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the gal and the va social worker.

this happened several years ago.

Paige2014

Metatron - I'm sorry you have had a personal experience with this.

I guess my hang up is that I have paid my own way my entire life. I've had financial stresses and managed to work my way through them without marrying an older man with dementia so I can take over half of his monthly funds to go door-to-door and try to get people to join my religion.

When you have a group of people setting themselves apart from everyone else as closer to holy/perfect in order to gain a foot into the paradise, then yeah, I'm holding her to a standard that I promise you they all hold everyone else to. JWs are hypocrites and she is the poster child for hypocrisy.

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JW caregiver married grandfather with dementia

by Paige2014 in

i am so angry and i need to vent.

a jw who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the gal and the va social worker.

this happened several years ago.

Paige2014

Metatron -

Those are all logical points. And yes, we have considered that regardless my grandfather needs care. He is a Vet, so he gets care through the VA. And yes, I know all the problems the VA has but the VA residence in Christopher is a relatively nice place. Not saying that we want him there either. Our issue is the fact that we were paying her as a caregiver, so clearly we understood the need for paying for his care. We were not concerned about his finances because we were able to manage them and get him the care he needed. The family's complaint is that this woman came in and married him so she could get full access to his finances. Yes, she feeds him and bathes him. She also makes sure he makes it That is immoral and unethical. To me this falls under Elder Financial Exploitation.

Now let's talk about the emotional aspect of it. This woman has preyed upon my grandfather. She claims to be a good Christian woman. She is willing to volunteer her time going door-to-door, using the money that she gets from my mentally disabled grandfather to bring her beliefs to others without charge. But she is not willing to voluntarily do the things that a wife would do for their husband. JWs like to quote from the Bible, what do they say about the capable wife. Was the capable wife looking for additional pay. What do JWs say about the love of money and how does this not apply to this woman. When I called one of the elders in my grandfather's hall, I told him that as soon as my grandfather passes this woman will look for her next husband so she can continue the cycle. She may not be physically abusing my grandfather, but at the end of the day, she is also not a loving wife to him either.

So you will have to forgive me if I do not feel that we should embrace her and give thanks that she does not abuse him. She is a crook and should be exposed for the fake and fraud she is.

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JW caregiver married grandfather with dementia

by Paige2014 in

i am so angry and i need to vent.

a jw who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the gal and the va social worker.

this happened several years ago.

Paige2014

I am so angry and I need to vent. A JW who was hired to be a caregiver for my grandfather in the early stages of dementia went and married him over the objection of family, the GAL and the VA social worker. This happened several years ago. My mother was initially made the guardian of his finances.

However, a year into it the "wife" moved to be made the financial guardian and it was approved by the court because they were concerned that my mom lives up here and my grandfather lives in Christopher, IL.

Over the last 2 years the "wife" has effectively gone through my grandfather's money. He gets around $4,000 a month through various things and the "wife" currently gets 1,200 that the court does not require her to account for and she is asking for another 1,500 a month. My mom cannot afford an attorney and she is emotionally and mentally spent.

So I am now stepping in to try to prevent the women from taking over half of what my grandfather gets per month. My grandfather is a JW, as is my mother. My mother went to the elders in this woman's hall when this first happened and they said it was not their business. She then went to the elders in my grandfather's hall and they said it was not their business.

I find all of this BS in light of the fact that the elders will hide in bushes to catch you doing bad deeds and then hall your @$$ into the back room for a lecture and possible punishment. But a woman who only knew my grandfather for 3 months and then marries him, has him transfer all his property into her name and now is spending all his money each month, yet the elders say that her actions are not their business.

Get this though, they did tell my mother it would bring reproach upon the congregation if she sued the woman.

WHAT!!!! Seriously these people are evil.