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  What Was "IT" That Finally Made You Leave The "Truth"?

  by minimus in

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  anything in particular, or was it a combination of things??

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  lovinlife

  For me it has to be the lack of love and hypocracy! I think that when I went to bethel and could not believe what I saw there, it really pushed it home for me that there was something really wrong with the WT and jw's in general. Bethel was the most unloving, judgemental, and POLITICAL place I have ever seen! You always had to worry about what you did or said because the gossip was incredible! And even if you were really good...no actions to criticize, you always had your "trusty" housekeeper, that snooped through your belongings. She would have the audacity to say..."I noticed that you have condoms in your drawer...are you sure that you are protected enough??"!!!!!!!!!

  When I used to complain to my jw mom about how bad it was, she told me that I was having a negative attitude and that was coloring how I saw things! So, I was the bad guy for calling it like it was! (All this, in addition to having an abusive elder husband!) I knew that I was done even back then....but it took me years of pain before I finally really left.
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  JW quoted in book about Daniel Pearl

  by Mulan in

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  i am just finishing reading the book "a mighty heart, the brave life and death of my husband danny pearl", by mariane pearl.

  at the end of the book are many letters from people all over the world.

  i just read this one, which i will quote an excerpt.. "i am a student from india, deeply troubled by the killing of your husband.

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  "Liberal mind" is not something I would ever put in the same sentence as Jehovah's Witness.......
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  Aztec's JWD Anniversary/B-day

  by rocketman in

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  today is aztec's one-year jwd anniversary/birthday!.

  hugs, hugs, hugs, to carrie!.

  (((((((((((((((((((((((((aztec)))))))))))))))))))))))

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  Congrats!
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  how do you have a relationship with God if he doesn't answer you.

  by buffalosrfree in

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  i sent this to a friend who told me he stlll attends meeting so that he can keep a close relationship iwith god> he admits to praying a lot and said as the dubs do that it draws him closer to god.

  i asked him when you see someone in the park or the street or wherever with their head bowed, and mumbling, are they talking to god and drawing closer to him.

  i also askew him to explain how praying to god draws him closer to god, because god doesn't talk back with you?

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  Buff...

  Your friend may be like I was way back when as a jw. I remember that praying made me feel closer to god. But, looking back now that I actually do feel closer to god, it was the act of praying that gave me comfort and and made me feel like I was close to god. But in fact, I really wasn't, it was just an action, sort of like going through the motions with a good heart. Sort of a good feeling, but no true results.

  In another post, I mentioned a wise elder (now no longer elder for referring people to self help books) said that sometimes we have to give god something to bless to find answers. I agree with Walter, I took responsibility for my life and made other choices. But instead of "waiting on Jehovah" (...said with true jw nasal whine ....), I discovered answers to my prayers.
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  Uhuuu, Yep I am going to the meeting. Tonight...

  by Vivamus in

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  uhuuu, yep i am going to the meeting.

  tonight...

  i want the newest watchtowers, i feel deprived of all the new light, lol.

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  "........I did the general rehearsal of my cover-story "Yeah, when I got DF I got rather wild, and indulged myself in sex-orgies and drunken parties, but there was still this emptyness of having no purpose in life and...." and at that point I rolled on the floor laughing my ass off."

  OMG roflmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I so wish I could see their faces, and yours as you try to keep a straight face! You are so brave! Can't wait to hear what happens!
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  When comes the resolution for some here?

  by ScoobySnax in

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  lovinlife

  Scoob...

  I agree with you when you said

  "When do you think? The most comfortable appear to me to be those who have the common decency to post a kind and thoughtful reply. I think this trait has always been in them."

  IMHO, I really think that people don't change when they become witnesses and they don't change when they leave the witnesses. They are who they have chosen to be the whole time. People that become witnesses will make some behavior changes to be "approved" of. But it seems to me that the core of the person stays the same. So if they were not very nice people before being a witness, then they go back to being that person when they leave the witnesses (or in some cases, even as witnesses, they are not nice people!). If they were a nice person by nature...then after leaving, they stay that nice person.

  It also seems to me that to change or improve the core of a person, good or bad, they have to work at it. Many people are at different stages of that process. That's why I try never to judge anyone...no matter what they say in their posts. There are too many factors in their lives that we don't know about that could cause them to have a certain attitude that day and who am I to judge them as a person. That's not to say that I can't have an opinion about an issue or subject they bring up.

  For what it's worth, I hope every finds success in their pursuit of whatever it is they are looking for or looking to change. I once read that "success is available to anyone who can overcome his or her own shortcomings". I find this to be true for myself. I hope everyone finds success in finding their own resolutions!

  ........lovinlife sits and ponders what made her go off on a tangent????
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  Just curious, what have some of you done with your exspensive book bags?

  by Singing Man in

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  i use my book bag to store my computer soft ware in its perfect for that.

  and as for all the old issues of magazines i used them to start my wood stove on those cold mornings.

  one time i asked for a lot of older issues from the friends so i could use them to line the bottom of my camp tent, they were more than happy to give them to me.

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  I donated the good ones to goodwill and threw out the others. I kept one for work. Hey you guys....remember those big bulky square bags that the elders carried into the hall and set next to their chair in the aisle?? It was kind of like whoever carried the biggest bag was the most important! Right? I hardly ever recall any of them, including the ex, ever pull much out of them either, ha ha.
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  Watchtower corporate names?

  by shotgun in

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  can someone point me to the post that listed all the corporate names...its about a dozen i think.. i wanted to show my family and ask them which visible organization is god behind?

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  Wow....Len Pearson is the one that brought us to Bethel!!! Isn't he just movin on up!

  Edited to add: Worked with Alex Rodriguez and Krebs was a personal friend of the ex's family..... gag gag gag....
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  Taking stock of my blessings....

  by Dawn in

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  i've been df'd for a number of years, and up until recently have been able to maintain a fairly close relationship with my parents.

  dad passed away a few years back and since then i have tried to keep my mom busy so she wouldn't be alone - phone calls, shopping, dinner, etc - and i took care of things around her house for her.

  well now mom has decided that she needs to follow the wt rules and cut the "socializing" with me - of course, it's "acceptable" for me to still go take care of her when she needs it .

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  It so good that you have such a good outlook. It is a blessing that you will still be able to help her though. My parents informed me that I am not welcome in their house. When I drop off my daughter for a visit, I don't even get out of the car. They even refused to be at our (worldly) family reunion if I was there. So at least you can feel good that you can still be there for your mom and have the opportunity to show her your love.
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  Does anyone else still get Armaggeddon Nightmares!!

  by Lainey in

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  i haven't posted for a few weeks as i have been back at work busy beavering away, however as it is my day off i thought i would see if anyone else has the same trouble that i have, and also if there is anything they have found useful.. i have always had trouble eating properly and sleeping ever since my early teen years, but over the past couple of years or so (even though i know i don't believe the watchtower teachings anymore) i have at least 3 or 4 times a week, the most vivid awful nightmares about armaggeddon, and the different ways that jehovah is going to destroy me because of my wickedness.

  i wake up in tears and shaking with fear, and then i am not able to get back to sleep, i just lie awake until the morning not daring to close my eyes.. i can't believe that as a grown woman, the watchtower teachings keep coming back to haunt me.. lainey.

  ps can i also thank all the posters for the kind personal messages that i have received since i came here

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  lovinlife

  I used to get them, but not for awhile now. I think I used to get them more when I was still in the "I hope I did the right thing by leaving" phase. But the longer I am gone, the more sure I am that I did the right thing. Maybe that is why I don't get them anymore