atpeacewithself

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  I just don't understand why someone would do it...

  by atpeacewithself in

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  can someone please explain to me why a person who was one a jw, left, bitched and complained about them, the way they think, the things they do...and then go back to them

  i just don't understand it ...can someone please help clarify this for me...i'm at a loss on this one.

  atpeacewithself

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  atpeacewithself

  I just want to thank everyone so much for their input.

  here is a (((((((hug))))))) for every one of you.

  Thank you all again, I appreciate you taking your time to reply.

  atpeacewithself
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  I just don't understand why someone would do it...

  by atpeacewithself in

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  2. friends

  can someone please explain to me why a person who was one a jw, left, bitched and complained about them, the way they think, the things they do...and then go back to them

  i just don't understand it ...can someone please help clarify this for me...i'm at a loss on this one.

  atpeacewithself

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  atpeacewithself

  Can someone please explain to me why a person who was one a JW, left, bitched and complained about them, the way they think, the things they do...and then go back to them .

  I just don't understand it ...can someone please help clarify this for me...I'm at a loss on this one.

  atpeacewithself
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  About my ex wife, I am now really confused...

  by Lapuce in

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  well i guess this is a though one, but i will as you what do you think i sould do as it has been bugging me for for the past week.. .

  here is, i've been divorced form my ex wife since july and seperated since the new year, i always liked here but could not stand all the bull from being da'd as here friends and mine could not talk and meet anymore because of this.

  now she wants me back (she is still a dub) and would like for me to go back and marry her again, this time at the kingdom hall and simply being incative, doing what i want but being with me, so all could be normal again, i know i would have to fake all again to be re-instated, and bullshit all until i get married, then do nothing just be a dub in title, so that i could be again with the one i love???

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  atpeacewithself

  Hi Lapuce,

  I'm new to these boards and found your topic interesting. I have read it from top to bottom. I honestly don't think that it's your wife you love, but your children!?! I may be wrong, but as the last person said, the divorce happened for a reason Lapuce. I've been there myself a few years ago (divorce I mean) and I also have children. I felt the guilt for a long time thinking that I took "family" away from my children, but in all reality, they are better off now as it would have never worked had I gotten back with my ex-husband. It doesn't take long to grow apart after a separation/divorce. We learn to be free and we change. I think that maybe you should try to make an arrangement to be with your children more often. The courts today are more in favor of the fathers seeing their children more often. I'm sure there is something you can do to make this change.

  You also mention having had 3 girlfriends in the past and having 1 at the moment. Is it too personal to ask why the relationships didn't work? How about the girlfriend you have now? Are you happy in this relationship? Is she aware that you have been talking to your ex-wife about getting back together? I think you should sit down with the new girlfriend and discuss this with her. Maybe she will fall in love with you and maybe you with her. I'm sure if you are with her there is something that attracted you to her. I am a big believer in conversation. It's the best and only thing that can work out problems. Of course I can't tell you what to do as you are the only one who can make the final decision, but I think you should be honest with your girlfriend and openly discuss this with her. If she loves you she will give you her opinion and it could help you figure out your problem.

  I don't think anyone should live a lie. I did for a very long time and deciding to get out of the relationhip was the best thing I ever did for my children. We are all much happier now. It's not easy on anyone to go through such a thing, but in the end it may be best for you not to go back to her as I wouldn't believe that your ex-wife would let you do your own thing as you mentioned in one of your postings. She won't give up her attachments to the JW's and you will more than likely end up back where you started and have to go through it all again.

  It was just my opinion, but hopefully it helped you.

  Please let us know what happens...

  atpeacewithself