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  Somebody talk to me

  by Puternut in

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  i am having one of those really down days.

  things aren't going right.

  i can't concentrate on my work, and i don't feel well.

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  Hunyadi

  Ever have those days when you feel really lost? Feel purposeless? No direction? Well this must be my day to be haunted by emotional suffering, and anguish.

  Please, puternut, know that so many of us are going through or have gone through what you are going through, and we have come through, albiet, scarred and affected, with a new perspective on life and the world.

  I went for 10 years, after physically detaching from the org, not allowing myself to cultivate any real or deep relationships, not experiencing any real joy or happiness. It sucks. The guilt of betraying Jehovah would not permit me to move on since I had always been taught, and believed, that, everything is vanity except for serving Him by knocking on doors and attending 5 meetings each week.

  I implore you, friend, not to spend so much time in tumbledown. Find away to turn the sense of loss and those other negative emotions into something that empowers you to move beyond. All the emotions we experience, posative and negative, are God-given, and they serve a purpose. (Jesus, while being a perfect man, did display an incredible range of human emotion that did not make him weak by any means) They are something like the underlying conduit for our conscience to prevail in guiding us toward the right path. How so? Every emotion that we feel at any given time is our brain signalling us to take some sort of action that enables us to draw away from the pain and move toward more posative perspectives. And it is the gaining of new perspective that enables us to give even the most tragic experiences a posative meaning, which in turn, enables us to move on and become happy and productive again. While I might be over-simplifying things, it only took me ten years to realize this and genuinely laugh again. You are on the diffucult verge of growth. There can be no growth without pain, without suffering. But you will come out of it a better, stronger, happier man.

  The dark cloud of the organization that remains looming over your head will begin to evaporate when you allow yourself to get pissed off and confident about your decision to leave, as you begin to cultivate new relationships with quality people of feeling and intelligence, and as you begin realize that you can still serve God, if it is your desire, in a way that is acceptible to Him, without the approval or reproach of any man.

  Warm Regards,

  Hunyadi
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  The Passion of the Christ (Movie)

  by Golf in

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  after hearing the pro's and con's about the movie, i went to see it this afternoon.

  i know we all have differing views, but i'm interested in knowing what impression it left you.

  for me, i went in with a critical eye and i was emotionally detached from the movie.

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  For decades, the WTBTS has often focussed on the suffering of Jesus and the brutality of his death to strike an emotional chord in members of the congregation. I remember how at each memorial, my poor grandmother would break down into tears as the elder giving the memorial talk would read the scriptures about Jesus being betrayed and beaten, and finally being nailed to the stake and thereafter expiring. In fact, while the WT was running the series about Jesus' life and times back in the late 80's and early 90's, I had fallen behind in my reading and in one night, while alone in my hotel room far from home, I read the rest of the series from a bound volume. By the time I came to the nailing to the stake part, I sat on my bed sobbing like a little girl.

  I have heard and read how the movie was well researched and mostly true to the gospels. (probably no less true than the WT publications and talks). I think anyone who calls themselves a "true Christian" should view the movie. It might possibly deepen ones faith and appreciation for Jesus' ransom sacrefice . . . after all, each year at the district conventions, the Society uses dramas to reach those attending. What, therefore, would be the difference between seeing Gibson's movie and viewing an emotionally charged Bible drama at the Dist Convention?

  Hunyadi
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  Things Learned Along the Way

  by blondie in

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  i have collected sayings, homilies, whatever along the way that crystallize something bigger i learned.

  i will post a few every day.

  if you have one, please share it.. if you lie down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas.. to belittle is to be little.. somewhere, i got the idea if i just took care of others, i would be taken care of.. blondie

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  "In a heart that is empty, there is room for nothing. In a heart that is full, there is room for everything."

  - antonio porche

  I always remember these words when I think I can no longer tolorate someone or something. Sometimes it works.

  Hunyadi
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  What's was the funniest thing that ever happened to you out in service?

  by itsallgoodnow in

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  for me it's a tie between the time a certain gentlement didn't realize his thingy was "out", waving in the breeze, i couldn't hold it together... laughed until i cried.

  or the time the po's wife stepped in dog poo and i laughed and she wasn't amused.....

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  My cousin and I ( ages 12 and 13 at the time) were working rural territory and came to this old run down house with and old lady sitting on the front porch. We started talking to her and we asked her a question related to the topic of the day. She opened her mouth to reply and what seems like a bucket of foam started spewing out from behind her lips, and her dentures were so ill-fitting that they slipped and clacked together furiously as she tried to speak. We simply could not understand a damn thing she was saying, and we glanced at eachother at one point having to choke back the laughter at this woman's false teeth about to fall out of her mouth as she mumbled through them. So we finally said politely, " . . . Ok then, have a nice day", then walked away fast before she could see us laughing.

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  lies?? (feel free to express your opinions)

  by blink sk8 in

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  hey guys,.

  while i was at the meeting at the kingdom hall, (oh so fun!....

  ) the person giving the sunday talk was talking about paradise and how wonderful it will be.. while trying not to fall asleep it hit me... what happens when the earth fills up with people in paradise?

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  Hunyadi

  Yes, we have been told for years that it was Jehovah's purpose to "fill the earth" not over-fill it. So the WTBTS pretty much says that reproductive powers will cease once the earth is filled.

  Gosh, how strange to live in a perfect world that is not so perfect since there will be no children . . . guess I am not grasping the deeper things the GB understands.

  Hunyadi
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  What Is THE Most Important Thing In Your Life?

  by minimus in

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  is it love, good health, money, etc.?????????????

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  Hunyadi

  The wife and chilluns, hands down!
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  Soooo.......... what do you do?! And do you post while you do it?!

  by imallgrowedup in

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  thought it would be fun to see the array of talent we have here on jwd!

  i'll start out.....!

  i have my own businesses doing background investigations, skip tracing and public records research out of my home.

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  Once I decided to leave the organization of JW's, I was completely free to persue my heart's desire, which was music. I come from a long line of non-JW musical prodigies, so it has always been there in my blood. I am 36 and starting late in life, but it has been great so far. I am not only getting to perform in full blown productions, but get to stand shoulder to shoulder with some of the most respected local entertainers in SoCal. I have a small production company that is now growing in which I get to record and produce demo CD's for some very talented vocalists. Life is beginning to work out now that I am free of the org . . . how funny.

  Hunyadi
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  XJW's and Mental Health Disorders

  by ColdRedRain in

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  as many of you now know, i was in the mental ward for a breif period.

  after i got out of the mental ward, i was placed in group therapy where i am today.

  i talked with my therapist today and he mentioned a very interesting fact.

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  Hunyadi

  Maybe it's just me, but the JW church leaves you screwed up in the head after you leave.

  No. it is not you, friend. Leaving the org can be utterly devastating to your psyche. You are brainwashed and neurotic while inside to begin with, and when you try and break from the hallucination of the org there is tremendous conflict. Anti-depressants, for some, are a good idea for a while until you get through it. But you are not alone.

  As a teen, I tried suicide and only one person ever came to see me and express concern. Everyone abandoned me. While under the influence of her mother and stepdad, my teen daughter attempted suicide too in recent years. The elders then sat her down and told her what she needed to do in order to contribute to the peace of the household. (vomits) Her mother and stepfather were blaming her for all that was wrong with their lives and marriage and it was killing her.

  Keep going to therapy and keep talking about it because it helps.

  Hunyadi
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  Not Everyone Is Welcomed At The Kingdom Hall

  by minimus in

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  i knew of a couple that left their mates so that they could be with one another.

  the elders promptly disfellowshipped them.

  the couple made it known immediately, that they were going to apply for reinstatement as soon as possible.

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  You know, I gotta say in this case, good on those elders

  Me too! Whether you are JW or not, it is just a low down slimey thing to do.

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  Letter to all congregations Feb 18, 2004

  by Puternut in

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  to all congregations of jehovah's witnesses feb 18, 2004. .

  re: important changes and announcements.

  dear brothers,.

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  Hunyadi

  Hello Bryan,

  I am in the same boat. I was raised a JW and I actually brought my exwife into the org way back when. Our children have attended meetings since birth (3 girls), and I now have custody of them because of the abuse going on in their mother's JW home. The middle child, 15, still attends meetings pretty regularly on her own, and I have talked to them many times about my decision to leave the org for good.

  I sometimes have the impulse to kidnap my own kid and take her to cult deprogramming experts, but I know I must be patient and let her see things for herself, and I think this will take time. The other two girls are at the point where they see it all as bs and they attend meetings only sometimes if they get board want to go flirt with cute young brothers (it makes me laugh). Hang in there and choose your opportunities to talk to her and have some sort of documentation handy.

  As crazy as it might seem, the hidden and subliminal images controversy is what began to open my eyes to the lies. It might be a good place to start. I got creeped out enough to start asking harder and deeper questions about that and other issues, and it sparked some really good conversations with my kids about their experiences with the JW's.

  http://members.cox.net/hunyadi/wtbts_001.htm

  Good luck and my thoughts are with you.

  Hunyadi