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Mushy Goat Musings (thinking out loud)

by Billygoat in

almost three years ago i came to this site out of curiosity.

i remember lurking a few days before coming out of my stupor from everything i read.

it was like i was hungry and hadn't eaten in month.

Purple

Hey Billygoat

Firstly I loved the title of this thread! I will laugh all day about it. Secondly I just have to say this about people who are nice to your face and talk about you behind your back..THey must be a JW!!!!!!

No seriously my thought is this...they are the one with the problem not you. The point you make is great about just becuase they say it it isnt true. Thats great you realise that but you are still hurt about it. I would confront them. I dont care who they are or what their position is. They are just human and need to be put back on their stool. How dare they judge you in that manner and not have the guts to confront you. What a coward. Dont let them get away with it. Inform them that if they have anything to say to at least have the courtesy to say it to your face and not behind your back. Then report them for slander or libel (sp?). They are damaging your reputation, why let them?? Stand up for yourself girlfriend, dont let one weak individual crush yor, your image and your reputation and think nothing about it! You are worth more than that. That person will continue to do it until you stop it.

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But I Wont Cry For Yesterday....

by Pleasuredome in

a positive message for those who are feeling down.

after a year of being out of the 'mind prison', things seem to be moving in the right direction for me.

i've met the people and am doing things that will make a real difference in my life.

Purple

Or you could look at anytime spent in the Borg as helping you realise a lot more about life than maybe you ever did. I decided to become involved so I dont cry about wasted time...it wasnt wasted I honestly believed in what I thought about at the time. I also enjoyed some of the time in the Borg, met a lot of people I never would of and got to experience so called true religion. It made me realise a lot about life, about waisting time and standing back expecting things to happen. I am the person I am today because of what I experienced yesterday. I have regrets but I also learnt and it was a part of my journey on earth. So grow becuase of the experience but get on with life whilst you have the chance.

Hey I just heard that a 17 year old youth was killed not 500 meters from my house at 3.00 am this morning on the radio news...does this reinforce the live for now message cause you honestly never know what is around the corner waithing for you..good or bad......

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My dream about dying early.

by UpAndAtom in

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friends

i had a dream in which i was in a large auditorium - it was crowed with many people... heck it was full.

then god walks onto the stage below and thanks us all for coming.

it was a light-heated meeting of sorts.. but also had the feeling of business-like efficiency.

Purple

When I was growing up I had a premonition that I would die by my 30th birthday. When I was 28 I was diagnosed with Diabetes type 2. My first thought was aha! So this is what is going to kill me. Whilst it almost did I was older than 30. Infact soon I turn 39 EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW why did I put that in writing?????????????????????

I often have dreams about death and not long after something major changes or I move on.

Death is a part of life too, everyday infact if we only look around and realise it. I think its only natural to feel our own mortality and wonder when it will happen to us. Heck sometimes I think we would even galdly accept it taking us if the circumstances are right!

I wouldnt worry about it too much. Even if it were to come true you only have today anyway so make the most of it. God speaking to you hey?? DOnt tell a shrink you may get more attention than you ever wanted on that one!!!!!!!!

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Jerry Springer Show...

by Elsewhere in

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now that i've got some time on my hands during the day i noticed something odd about the jerry springer show.. it seems like every time it is on, one or more people are on the stage naked and waving their arms around and yelling.

why the hell do people on that show feel so compelled to take off their clothes?.

Purple

My only experience of that show was through an austin powers movie, the second one I think. No one got there Beep clothes off in that beep part??? Beep beep beep beep beep beep!

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Is it ok for a man and a woman to live with each other wihout being wed

by fearnotruth22 in

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sometimes it may not be possible to get married for a lot of reasons so is it ok for a man and a woman just to live with each other?

Purple

Umm hate to say that statistics show in Australia that the piece of paper dosnt make the bond stronger. Only 40% of people are worrying about getting married and then 2 out of 3 end up in divorce. I persoanlly know of many relationships where they lived together happily for many years, got married and then broke up within a few years. Having been married for 18 years I struggled because of the piece of paper but in the end it didnt mean anything. However that piece of paper is costing me hundreds of dollars now. In AUstralia after 11 years of marriage you are entitiled to 50% of everything BUT if you lived together its only 6 years. How unfair is that?

I personally think marriage as an institution is on the way out, reflecting the major shift in society away from tradition, commitment and so on. Long term married couples are cute and everybody loves them but how hard was it and what was the pressure to stay together no matter what? How many shattered lives are around becasue of marriage???

Okay so obviously I am against marriage because of a very bad experience of my own. I have also seen many bad marriages and people put up with it because they are too afraid to leave and such. Why live in misery?????

Hey if you are in a great marriage then good for you, but realise theya re the exception today rather than the rule. People who live together also have bad relationships and break up, but the breaking up is not as hard legally speaking I mean, not emotionally, but if you are worrie dabout the break up before you are together then I would question whether you should live together anyway.

However I would only ever live with someone and have a clear understanding of it we ever break up then.......

Hey once bitten twice shy.........

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ANSWERS ON A POSTCARD TO A NEWLY ENGAGED MAN

by josephus in

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friends

its been a while but i wanted to tell you that ive just got engaged to a great girl.. while i love her, her family are pressuring me to set a date and book a hotel!

im only engaged 4 days so i think its out of order.. please give me suggestions on how to deal with mother in laws without ending relationships.. her mother is insisting on church, cake, food and tells me her son has to be in the bridal party.

they want me to go to thier church sio i can get married thier , but as you kinow im not keen to join another church so quickly.. i only wanted to show her i loved her and was serious, but not this serious so soon.. am i wrong ?.

Purple

Is it because setting the date and arranging everything makes it seem real? Its a natural part of getting engaged and ultimatley married, mummy just wants to make sure you are going ahead with it and not messing her daughter around.

Men dont understand that this is something that a girl plans all her life with her mum, so the plans are made before the man comes into the picture. Once the engagement happens the wheels are set in motion and you cant stop it. What I see now is that less emphasis should be put on a one day event and more on what your relationship is like and whether it has any strength and staying power. It takes a moment to say I do but a life time to live up to that statement.

Just be clear with your fiance and her mother. Start off with lets talk about this....I love you and ultimatley want to get married but I dont want to rush. Then look at the mother and father and say I respect that you want the best for your daughter so I want to make sure I am the best for your daughter and we need time to build a good relationship without the pressure of a wedding at the moment. We will have the day you want but if I feel pressured and rushed then the day wont be as good for me so here is what I want to suggest...........

That way you gain respect from the parents and you are all clear about what it is that you want to happen. Dont let it all just happen to you, but do it in a respectful manner, talk to the future in laws, communicate. Afterall, after the day is over the new life with a new partner begins and you have to deal with that after for the rest of your days together. The actual day is over in a day, costs an absolute fortune, is the focus of everything...everybodies lives gets placed around the day and you often hear the phrase...after the wedding.... why?????? It s just one day, one event over in 30 mins...

take control now.........if you are feeling like this after 4 days what is it going to be like later, discuss and dont be dictated to.........

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Why Depression Sucks.

by shamus in

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friends

because you can make jokes and appear "happy" at the drop of a hat, meanwhile, you're being chewed up from the inside out.

because you can't learn to take one day at a time because your good days are always overshadowed by knowing that you're going to just slip back down again.

it's inevitable.

Purple

I hate how I feel inside and not understanding why depression is such a part of my life. At the moment its getting to the stage where I need to go back on some pills. They help me act on a more even keel type of thing. I have found its no use trying to make people understand that dont suffer from depression. THey have no idea so why try to help them understand? I have made myself sick in the past trying to help others understand when they did not have the capacity to understand. So I look at myself and developing coping mechanisms to try to avoid the little pills. I do feel better when I am on them but I know its only a matter of time before I want to go off them and then the cycle starts again. When its chemically related there is not much you can do about it. DOesnt matter what the trigger or event is that triggers it you are left with this feeling inside.

In me its a hollow empty feeling, a crushing overwhelming feeling of emptyness and pointlessness. I try to avoid the soul tearing self destruction but sometimes it creeps in and there is nothing I can do about it. I just keep busy, keep the tears at bay as best I can and accept that the chemicals are playing up again, life sucks majorly, no one wants to go out with a crusty, fat old hag thats about to turn 39 and stuff like that. Sheesh I even went to a lesbian dance with my step sister (I didn't know thats what is was) and couldnt even get picked up there! Not that I am having a go at lesbians or anything like that! The point is why am I so ugly that no one can stand being near me. Opps there goes that self destruction mode again..........

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Can't you just FEEL the love?

by Puternut in

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friends

had a call from an elder yesterday: "hi, this is elder n. we haven't seen you in a while, just checking up on you.

oh btw, we haven't received the eldersbook back from you........".

did he really wanted to see how i was doing?

Purple

Or you could write some real interesting comments in the book and give them a real witness then hand it back. THey will have their eyes opened and the book will be useless anyway...just a thought.........

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Further Education

by scotsman in

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i had lunch with a jw friend who's just finished a law degree.

she was saying that at the last circuit assembly the bethel speaker, (philip longstaffe) said that the society had not changed its stance on further education, and that college for vocational skills was all that they thought was ok. my friend's a bit of a free thinker (i'd half hoped that this lunch date was to tell me she had doubts, but no) so she doesn't give fig what they think.

i was actually appointed as an elder the month before i started attending uni and the co had told the other elders it was no reason to prevent my appointment.. anyone else heard this at their assemblies?

Purple

Dunno what the official stance is but before I left there were a lot of elders children getting into uni and the congregation praised them for it because it meant that there were more brains for the society to use in the future. You should of heard the fuss though when I annnounced I had gotten in to uni in my first preference and was a mature aged student!!!

Of course looking back now I can see it was jealousy because here I was no hubby in the truth, with freedom, doing exactly what I wanted and them under the thumb champing at the bit to do half the things I was doing...oh if they could see me now!!! Tattoo, loosing wait, voting, going back to uni again to do post grad study, highly paid, absolutley free and wanting to sleep around, going out and having fun under no ones control but my own!

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Aw, man :( ...and musings about death

by onacruse in

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friends

a "worldly" friend of mine, who i've know for over 20 years (he's a couple years older than me), had a heart attack yesterday.

he's ok..."missed a bullet.

" he had an arthroplasty, and is out of icu...doc says he'll probably feel better than he has for years.

Purple

Well having faced death literally I can tell you it makes no differeance at all. What counts is how we live our lives now. Thats something that most dubs ignore as they keep their eyes firmly on some promise about the future. All we have is this moment....no wait this moment....buger missed that one......anyway the point is to make the most of what you have today, cause there is no guarnantee for tomorrow. Life can be over in literally a breath so why worry about what happens after. If there is something then its a bonus or not if there is nothing then you wont know about it anyway. Hehehe if the dubs happen to be right and you die in this system well then you have paid for your sins so why worry?