Dear Had enough,
Strangely enough, the only two things I am thankful to the org for is that I believed in God and believed in the Bible which helped me no end in the depths of darkness and loss. I was 3rd generation WT brainwashed. No other exposure to anything. My husband was "high up", both had been in Bethel, etc etc. Ultra devotion was our scene. As a teenager I read a book by an ex JW, and whilst agreeing with his exposures of the organisation, where else do you go? It's like saying, the earth is bad, rotten, no good to live here, but where do you go that can sustain life? The moon? Mars? I did not understand the author’s concepts about Jesus or about the real "good news". The JWs in their wisdom, put out Byingtons Bible, and being a good JW bought it and used it as my reading Bible. I came across Ephesians 2:8,9 and asked my most learned husband "What does grace mean" and from that point my JW world started falling apart. One thing I am grateful to the JWs for is my deep belief in God and his Word, but now I didn't trust the WT version of the Bible anymore and started using a Hebrew and Greek interlinear. I also had thousands of why's and how come's? Stuff I started finding out about the translation, about the organisation was horrific for me. My husband was very angry because I was reading Christian literature as well - The Fight by John White, (I actually found out that eternal life is free – you cannot buy it, you cannot work for it, you cannot earn it) - Basic Christianity by John Stott. Whilst I have multiple comments in the margins about doctrine (after all I didn't know I was brainwashed) I learned about the love of God and dared to think that He might actually love me. With all the organisational work, never being sure whether or not I was going to survive Armageddon anyway, (I might sin fatally just the day before) I had started to come to view Jehovah as some sort of volcano, and here we were as JWs - as poor villagers at the foot of the volcano, running up and down the mountain with our vegetables and trinkets, selling our magazines, trying to make an offering to this angry mountain and stop the lava flow coming down to destroy us all. Even my dear devoted JW father used to say that the organisation was full of "redbacks" - lethal spiders in Ozzie land!
I also recall when I was trying to fit and box everything in my mind, rationalise all the answers, that I had this experience where I saw myself witnessing at the door to a Roman Catholic. Here I saw myself trying to "prove" the JWs were right, and the RC saying to me" Oh yes, I am looking for the truth and deeply searching for it but I know the Roman Catholic church is right and the Pope gives us direction". It hit me like a slap in the head that this is exactly what I was doing as a JW. I had set my parameters when searching for the truth - parameters set by the WT organisation so that one CANNOT find the TRUTH because we are using JW guidelines. It was at that point, in total terror - I thought the earth was going to swallow me up that scenes of that horrendous brainwashing episode at the last convention I had been to about Dathan and the rest being swallowed up for questioning Moses/Aaron? washed over me. But up until that time I had never asked the ultimate question - Is it God's organisation and what evidence do I have? I was physically ill thinking that Jehovah was going to strike me down for this thought, but that's when I told Him, "I want to serve you, I want to follow you, I want to find the truth from you, I don't know what to do, I don't know where to go, I don't know whom to trust, if it's your organisation, then show me, if it's not then show me so that I cannot misinterpret." Strangely, the two "tests" I put to Jehovah to show me if it was his organisation or not came to reality within 24 hours. Very merciful of Him. Then I rested, went to the meetings like a moron (true sense)just listening.
My suggestion is GO SLOW. Read a different version of the Bible. Some of the answers (your major ones) will be answered, some never will this side of eternal life. After all, if we are truly dealing with God, then his subjects can’t possibly interpret and predict His every move. When we box God – it might make us feel better with false answers for a period – but then we are not dealing with the God of the Universe, only one of our own making, which ultimate is an image and hence idolatry.
Keep knocking and keep searching. Anything too difficult just put into the “too hard basket for the time being” and just keep going. There are thousands of supporters here for you.