Well it depends who you are. From what I see, the elderly are well treated. But as it was my experience, if you're not part of the right cliques, you're not going to end up with many friends. Alot of the young ones are displaying horrible behaviour, constantly stabbing each other in the back.
Nocturne
JoinedPosts by Nocturne
-
12
How do JW"S treat each other in the cong in your area?
by fearnotruth22 in"by this they will know that you are my disciples, if you have love amongst yourselves" is this true in your cong?
how do the bothers deal with each other in your area?
do they really love each other?
-
-
-
12
WEDDINGS AND FUNERALS
by moses incan a baptized witness attend a wedding or a funeral of a relative or loved one if it is in a place of worship other than a kingdom hall,is there a penalty for that?
-
-
Nocturne
I thought you could get in trouble for attending funerals or weddings in churches. I thought it had to do with the passage in the Bible to leave Babylon the Great, and to never look back. I remember for my grand mother's funeral, I was a pallbearer, and i was clearly reminded by my JW family members that it was forbidden to enter a church.
-
48
Were you a JW trophy wife? Not necessarily a serious thread.
by FlyingHighNow insal, it's funny but things were much more shallow in the dubs.
i noticed some of the ugliest blokes getting pretty little trophy wives so long as they had a job or were the sons of elders.
my dad (an elder) even went so far as to encourage me to come back to the dubs because i would easily pull a good looking wife .
-
-
Nocturne
Sal, it's funny but things were much more shallow in the dubs. I noticed some of the ugliest blokes getting pretty little trophy wives so long as they had a job or were the sons of elders.
This is written by Satan's little helper. Feel free to post your wedding pics. If some of you do, I will, later. I have to go do laundry but will be back tonight.My dad (an elder) even went so far as to encourage me to come back to the dubs because I would easily pull a good looking wife
Share your stories ladies and gents. I can hardly wait.
Heather
Now that you mention it, not too long ago, a family friend told me that I wouldn't have problem finding a wife, and that sisters would marry me even if I had no teeth.
-
16
Were we different?
by Fe2O3Girl inwhen we reminisce about our lives as jws, we keep coming back to some themes.
it seems like most of us have had some or all of these experiences:.
faking field service time reports.
-
-
Nocturne
I occasionally faked field service report, usually because I forgot how much time I actually spent. I day-dreamed alot at meetings, I still do. I lead a double life to a certain extent, but I never went to far with it. I never was part of the "in" crowd of JWs, so I didn't get to go to many parties, and other stuff.
I believe people at the kingdom hall are all the same as those who have left. When I first started doing my research, and lurking on this board, I asked myself the same question, but now I've come to realize that most people at the kingdom hall are guilty of one of the things you've listed. Some are just better than others at hiding it.
-
69
How old were you when you left?
by somebodylovesme ini only know a handful of witnesses, but i do know several ex-witnesses.
all of them left in their late teens, which (as i've read here) is pretty common.
i know there are a lot of people here who left later in life.
-
-
Nocturne
got baptized at 14
started having doubts at 15, but pushed them back
mentally free at 21, but still physically stuck in it, but not for long
-
18
Who here left the "truth" because.....
by freedom96 in.
.
who here was an active witness, and decided to snoop around on a site like this, and left because of the information they found out on the net?
-
-
Nocturne
I'm still an active witness, but I'm in the process of leaving, and definitely due to the information I have found on sites like this made me realize what exactly was going on in the organization. It first started with CBC's Fifth Estate, then led to the UN then to rest of the stuff.
-
31
Who are you guys?
by eyeswideopen inhow long have you guys been out of the truth and what family background of the truth do you guys have?.
i 've read profiles and the comments and i wonder who was the newest to come out...?.
emmm what is the latest on the generation theory?.
-
-
Nocturne
hey eyeswideopen, I'm still in. And I'm also getting this eerie feeling that they're out on a witchhunt as you say. There's the kingdom ministry last month I think, and the feb. issue of the wt.
-
31
Quick Introduction
by Nocturne ini've been lurking here for a few months now, and i've been wanting to post for awhile now but i've never really been up to it.
i first stumbled upon the information about the wtbts being an ngo for 10 years in september, and ever since i've been finding out about all the other things the society has been up to.
as of now, i'm still going to the meetings, but now my eyes have been truly opened, and i can see things in a whole new perspective, and it's amazing the deception that's going on in the organization.
-
-
Nocturne
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome. There are still alot of things to learn, but just by lurking here, and reading other people's experiences, I see so many similarities in things that happen, and I always used to think it was a glitch rather than the norm. I'm definitely going to take things slowly, continue to research.
Based on your name, perhaps you're a nocturnal (night-time) creature? Or maybe you post on the board nocturnally after your mom is "noct" out?
Gopher, very perceptive of you to notice that, except I'm not too worried about my mom since my computer is in my room. I've always been a night person, and I work really well at night. It also has another meaning that relates to music.
Welcome, Nocturne! I can relate to your post too -- my mother was the Queen of Guilt Trips and I'm an only child too, so I got all of 'em. However, life DOES go on, your mother WON'T die if you don't do things her way, and it's YOUR life
Thanks alot for the encouragement cruzanheart, and thanks to alot of thinking and soul searching over the last few weeks, these guilt trips will no longer affect me, they'll just roll off my back. The sad part about it though is, I know some who are in worst situation then me with their parents taking control over their lives.
Interesting that you use the term Emotional Blackmail..have you read the book entitled Emotional Blackmail...it's worth the read if you haven't.
Hey shotgun, I'll definitely check that book out. It was a few months ago reading one of the experiences in here that someone would use that same tactic on them, and a light bulb just went off where I realized my mom uses those same tactics on me.
thanks again,
Nocturne
-
55
*sigh* I think I'm staying in the borg
by SC_Guy ini *can't* leave, i'm trapped.
i was talking to my twin sister tonight on how i didn't want to go to the upcoming convention this weekend because we had already been to it 2 months ago... .
i have to prepare some audition matrial for a arts event and my parents are not sympathtic to the fact i got allot to do, and we've already been.
-
-
Nocturne
Hey SC_Guy, I can relate so much to your situation with your family. And I understand this feeling of being trapped, of being crushed that you have. A few weeks ago, I had the same feelings, but I've managed to look at the situation closely, and now I feel much more relaxed, in control. The advice given here is great, and I hope you manage to get through your situation.
-
31
Quick Introduction
by Nocturne ini've been lurking here for a few months now, and i've been wanting to post for awhile now but i've never really been up to it.
i first stumbled upon the information about the wtbts being an ngo for 10 years in september, and ever since i've been finding out about all the other things the society has been up to.
as of now, i'm still going to the meetings, but now my eyes have been truly opened, and i can see things in a whole new perspective, and it's amazing the deception that's going on in the organization.
-
-
Nocturne
I've been lurking here for a few months now, and I've been wanting to post for awhile now but I've never really been up to it. I first stumbled upon the information about the wtbts being an NGO for 10 years in September, and ever since i've been finding out about all the other things the society has been up to. As of now, I'm still going to the meetings, but now my eyes have been truly opened, and I can see things in a whole new perspective, and it's amazing the deception that's going on in the organization. But there are still circumstances that prevent me from completely leaving for now.
I completely relate to SC_Guy's situation, since I'm living a similar situation as he is. My mom raised me alone, and I've pretty much followed the JW teachings since she started studying. Under a lot of pressure from her I got baptized when I was 14, a big mistake since I definitely wasn't ready for that. My mom uses emotional blackmail, she says stuff like "I would just die if ever you were to leave the truth", and it just makes me sick that she resorts to such tactics. Being an only child also means my mom is very overprotective, thus I'm stuck in a bad situation for now. Well, I look forward to posting more in the future, and getting to know everyone here better.
Nocturne.