Posts by sadeyez

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JWs and Shunning on the Radio at KFUO.org this Saturday at 11AM Central

by jschwehm in

jw
friends

hi gang:.

this saturday at 11am central time i will be a guest on the show family shield which is broadcasted out of st. louis, mo at kfuo.

you can listen online at www.kfuo.org.

sadeyez

I have recently (last week) been shunned by my stepdad who is try to reinstate him self among them.....So I will be not only listening but trying to call in.

DEB

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there is a guy at work that i had heard was a jw, so i was working with him and we had a few laughs talking and joking around so i was starting to pry and get it out of him that he was a jw, also i had heard a few things and wanted to ask him as well.

so i asked what he did for christmas and he avoided the question and then i said, "oh yeah your a jehovahs witness" and he said he was, right after he said "but i got some good presents" (admitting your a jw seemed to be awkward for him) as he is the only jw in his family.

i told him that my parents were as well and my grandparents went to the same hall as he did many years ago.

sadeyez

I also was DFd for having a wordly boyfriend...why repent I was having too much fun after living w/ rules that left me feeling as if I were in a prison.

DEB

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PLEASE HELP>>>>Baptism nullification looking for anwsers

by sadeyez in

after many years my step father has decided to become reinstated.

he has recently moved from out of state and lives very close.

growing up he and i did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years.

sadeyez

Mike

I had not thought about it in that way...although my 12yr old was ready to have it out w/ him yeaterday but he was not home. So today I decided I am not going to allow them to have the last word. I am going to have my say and see how my dad handles the things I feel he needs to know...after that it up to him. But I will not go quietly.

Thank You

DEB

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Letter to Shunned Mom

by ESTEE in

while browsing one of the other forums, i ran across this letter that a jw son wrote to explain to his mom why he is shunning her.

i decided i would answer it and deal with some of the issues that arose as a result.

thought i'd share my thoughts with all of you...

sadeyez

With yet another tearful hour today after reading this message...Just this week I have become the shunned (step) daughter....so I (and many,many others) share in the heartache that comes from our loved ones need to obey and be found favorable in the eyes of those coldhearted men who are "protecting the flock" from those who might lead others stray....such b*****it. While my "dad" tried to reason w/ them that I was his family they told him I was not his daughter even if he had raised me since the age of 2. It is his choice to be lead by their laws...but what happened to the "merciful god" I used to hear about? There is nothing merciful in the number of lives that have been distroyed and the families that have been torn apart.

I have spent many hours this week reading the stories of those who have similar and even more heart wrenching experiences than myself. I had no idea that there could be a place where so many people are willing to help others in any way they can.

Estee and mom I can only image how hard it is to loose your sons to such ignorance and arrogance. But you are both strong and have helped me in ways that you will never know.

So thank you all... for being there for those of us who are struggling thru the lose of our families.

Deb {soon it will mend}

D

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PLEASE HELP>>>>Baptism nullification looking for anwsers

by sadeyez in

after many years my step father has decided to become reinstated.

he has recently moved from out of state and lives very close.

growing up he and i did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years.

sadeyez

Thank you all for taking the time to anwser my question. I think I was grasping at straws. Trying to find a way to be able to reverse the outcome. This came out of the blue w/ my stepdad. All the while my own dad in in the hospital on a ventalator. He is doing better now than earlier this week. But reading some of the other stories I am not alone in my pain and anger. There are many others that have/are going through much worse and my heart goes out to all.

Each day gets alittle easier, my kids are having a tough time but we are able to talk openly about their feelings and go on. I am blessed to have the rest of my family around, (and there are many of them) none of them are JWs.

Thank you all again. I have only been on for a few days but I am glad there is a place where one can go and know that they are not alone.

P.S. Will have to change my alias soon.....

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PLEASE HELP...baptisim nullification

by sadeyez in

jw
friends

after many years my step father has decided to become reinstated.

he has recently moved from out of state and lives very close.

growing up he and i did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years.

sadeyez

Thank you for the thread of encouragement. My 6 yr old said to me "why can't I talk to him I am only a kid." The fact that he lives next door only makes it more difficult. My childern were born long after I was DF. Dad is doing w/ his life what he feels is best for him It just pains me greatly that we suffer.

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PLEASE HELP>>>>Baptism nullification looking for anwsers

by sadeyez in

after many years my step father has decided to become reinstated.

he has recently moved from out of state and lives very close.

growing up he and i did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years.

sadeyez

thank you.

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PLEASE HELP...baptisim nullification

by sadeyez in

jw
friends

after many years my step father has decided to become reinstated.

he has recently moved from out of state and lives very close.

growing up he and i did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years.

sadeyez

After many years my step father has decided to become reinstated. He has recently moved from out of state and lives very close. Growing up he and I did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years. He and my mother have divorced. Both her an I have been disfellowshiped. It used to be that you could talk to your family but I found out that has changed. "dad" came to tell me that the elders informed him he could no longer assciate with me. He tried to argue that I was family, he raised my from the time I was 1 1/2 yrs, only to be told by them that I was not his family since he did not adopt me and was no longer married to my mother. I was crushed, my kids are having a hard time understanding the why. Since then I have researching information about shunning and someone mentioned petitioning to have their babtism nullified does anyone know anything about this? Has anyone been granted a nullification? I was baptised when I was young because that was what you did, by 18 I knew that life was not for me. I hate to loose someone who has been in my life for so long. Thru good and bad he was there. I would like to be able to keep our relationship going. If any one has any information please let me know.

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PLEASE HELP>>>>Baptism nullification looking for anwsers

by sadeyez in

after many years my step father has decided to become reinstated.

he has recently moved from out of state and lives very close.

growing up he and i did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years.

sadeyez

After many years my step father has decided to become reinstated. He has recently moved from out of state and lives very close. Growing up he and I did not have a good relationship, that had changed and we have been very close for many years. He and my mother have divorced. Both her an I have been disfellowshiped. It used to be that you could talk to your family but I found out that has changed. "dad" came to tell me that the elders informed him he could no longer assciate with me. He tried to argue that I was family, he raised my from the time I was 1 1/2 yrs, only to be told by them that I was not his family since he did not adopt me and was no longer married to my mother. I was crushed, my kids are having a hard time understanding the why. Since then I have researching information about shunning and someone mentioned petitioning to have their babtism nullified does anyone know anything about this? Has anyone been granted a nullification? I was baptised when I was young because that was what you did, by 18 I knew that life was not for me. I hate to loose someone who has been in my life for so long. Thru good and bad he was there. I would like to be able to keep our relationship going. If any one has any information please let me know.