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JWD maps - Where are you?

by Lady Lee in

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due to a problem with the server i was using for the maps i have had to move them so we can still have access to them and post them here.

so if you were wondering where we are from.

or how close you are to other jwd posters in your area just take a look.. ballistic has done an amazing job with the map of the uk you can find it at .

A thought experiment

by logansrun in

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friends

have you ever stopped to consider that the best thing we can do for ourselves as recovering cultists is simply to move on?

i know that is impossible for some, as they have deep connections with the organization due to family.

but for many the best move is simply to refuse to let the jws occupy much of our time and energy -- mental, physical and emotional.

bttt

by Elsewhere in

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bttt

JW friend is now JW bf, help.

by am3thy5t in

i have a friend whos a jw and last october we started to hang out together (just us two).

everything was fine, we'd talk, watch movies etc.

then i started to feel different towards him, i started to like him.

This is a good start. As Maverick said you have a lot of passion. Try to channel it towards this present goal. College is a great source of intellectual enlightenment. And if you really want to pursue this relationship (which I highly discourage) you will need it. The WTS has a hold on all it's member's and they seem to do it through subtle yet agressive psycological principles. Like most here you should not pursue this, but if you do, before you go further - you should show him the truth. And this comes through knowledge and research. It won't be easy given that the WTS seems to be his families religious legacy...

i put on this mask to cover up what i was feeeling.

Others with more experience with this will tell you this is pretty common...this will be a way of life if you continue the relationship....

i know u are all fed up with this. giving me all that advice and me not taking any of it in.

Negative. This is far form the truth... everyone here wants to help others in your situation as those before them helped them and so forth (they helped me as well )... Just keep posting here anytime you feel you need to let it all out... someone is always here to give you their insight and experience .. a lot of it is stuff you don't want to hear, but you should take this advice before you get in too deep...

Hope you feel better and gain the strength to overcome this....

FM

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JW friend is now JW bf, help.

by am3thy5t in

i have a friend whos a jw and last october we started to hang out together (just us two).

everything was fine, we'd talk, watch movies etc.

then i started to feel different towards him, i started to like him.

family_man

Am ...

Welcome to the board. I've only been posting here a few weeks and am by no means a first hand expert on the JW's mind control. I am however married to one who is fading away. Luckily, I found out about their mind controll early on in our mariage and we have been making progress towards distancing from them day by day.

Although my wife was only in the early stages of her indotrination the controll was already taking a strong foothold in our family life. This resulted constant arguments and fights ... and this from a nonbaptized JW. Apparently after the dunk in the fish tank it gets even worse.

Our fight's culminated in strong statements and feelings making us doubt that we should've married to begin with, given that we were of different fatihs. This made for a difficult situation seeing as we have a child. One thing I've learned from this is that you should not get involved seriously with someone of different faith, especialy when they are devoted to one such as the JW's who require comitment to them above all else.

Nos and Aunt Hill are right, you should cut your losses now and find someone more spiritually compatible with you (if your looking for something serious). Either way if it's casual your looking for a JW is not the way to go... As you get serious unless your able to show him the truth you are in for a world of hurt ...

Sorry if this sounds harsh , but ask a lot of people who have taken years to heal in their post WTS lives ... the truth is brutal

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My Wife Wants To Go To The Memorial!

by minimus in

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friends

i think she's not ready to let go of that.

i told her if she really felt she had to go, i would go with her at a different hall.

i don't want to go!!

family_man

Minimus,

I don't know much about much in the way of the difficulty of fading away from the memorial, but I think it's great your being supportive.

I know it's especially tough when it's an issue you don't agree with. Even though my wife is rapidly coming to her senses we still read the NWT and she pray's to Jehova God (w/ head covered) - I just keep quite and mind my own business.

We were thinking about going to the memorial, but I think she wants to experience it as an objective observer... although she still acknowledges it for the special day it is meant to be....I will likely go just out of support ... and If I get hungry , well?

Just my $ 0.02 ...

FM

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Are JW's embarrassed by faith in Jesus?

by eyeslice in

i think i posted the fact that i suddenly stopped attending all the meetings, field service and all, very suddenly.

not a single meeting this year.

i guess i would describe myself now as a sort of little toe guy, a liberal christian.. of course, i have had all the elder visits asking me how i am doing etc.

family_man

This is an interesting topic. I know that JW's are completely works based and hide the true identity of Jesus by various means.

But to cringe when speaking of Lord Jesus - this tells you a lot about their core doctrine.

What is the official WTS response when posed with the question -"what is the road to salvation ("or I guess 1000 yrs in paradise in there case).

It would seem to obviously deceptive and unbiblical to say ""salvation is found through God's organization" outright ...

FM

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Circuit Assembly experience...

by No Apologies in

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friends

"and they're both getting baptised today!

no, not that kind of experience.. .

this happened this last weekend at the circuit assembly my (jw) wife attended.

family_man

Truly sad ...

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Did You Enjoy Simply Passing The Bread & Wine At The Memorial?

by minimus in

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friends

i remember how little kids got so excited when they got to actually touch the glass and the dish!

yet, most people seemed to (respectfully) keep their heads down and try to look morbidly serious.

was the act of "passing the emblems" a thrill for you?

family_man

Did You Enjoy Simply Passing The Bread & Wine At The Memorial?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i remember how little kids got so excited when they got to actually touch the glass and the dish!

yet, most people seemed to (respectfully) keep their heads down and try to look morbidly serious.

was the act of "passing the emblems" a thrill for you?

family_man

So what happens if you are not annointed and you drink and eat regardless? Better yet what do the JW's think will happen if you do eat/drink?

Also how do you know if you are annointed or not?

And how would you know if someone is claiming to be annointed but just lying ... Sorry if these are stupid questions but I'd like to hear the WTS's explanation...

FM

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