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  Are You A Man Or A Woman???

  by minimus in

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  i don't know if it's just me but at times i get confused as to who's male or female here.

  for the record, i'm a man.

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  itsallgoodnow

  I am a single gal.
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  THEY REALLY ANCHORED YOUR HEAD WITH NONSENSE

  by ese in

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  yo - do u see yourself - obsessing about the wtbts or whatever the hell they call themselves - all this beautiful intellect spent on thoughts of an alleged abuser u all allegedly left - oh my - free yourselves - you didn't leave - u r all in this funky stage of mourning and hatred and realization that not all lovers are true - but, forgive my rambling - i have a question here, what do you think they did to mess with your minds so much that u r still obsessing?

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  Ok, I see your point and I sometimes wonder why I spend more time thinking about this group now (how much I got messed up by them) than I did when I was a believer. But maybe that is just because I'm actually thinking, instead of braindead like a Watchtower drone.

  And what are you doing out here, man? You're no better than anybody else. This is just a way to deal with some of our problems, or just to reach out to someone with a similar past. It's not all we do. I don't talk about this stuff with anybody else, I have a rich and full life, and this is just a part of it. So, back off.
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  My life ... and how JWD came to be - Part 2

  by Simon in

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  previous: my life ... and how jwd came to be - part 1. .

  how many times have people said ?if i knew then what i know now??

  what a difference that would have made to my life.

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  itsallgoodnow

  wow. sounds a lot like my background. Thanks for sharing!
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  Never Told Anyone this...

  by gespro in

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  ... but i think it would help me to relate it now.. a day before a big convention in montreal [i must've been 8 years old] my mother, who was running late as usual, was trying to get ready for an appointment.

  she was frantic and needed the bathroom mirror.

  i'm sitting on the commode and i remember finding a thrown out metal flimsy paper towel rack in the garbage so, i pick it up and i'm trying to bend it around, my mother storms into the bathroom, grabs the towel rack and screams, 'you know i'm in a hurry' and bashes my head in on top!

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  Naturally Witnesses are ok with child abuse as long as they keep it out of their KH parking lots - I always heard about how great the "rod" is and how stupid Dr. Spock was. It's in line with all the other abusive thinking.

  My parents rewrite their history (hmm, remind you of a certain organization who re-writes its history?) and tell us they never hit us... what the hell was that belt for, and why the hell do I remember it being used on me? What was that blue stuff all over me the next day? Those couldn't have been bruises could they? Then, I never considered that abuse. Now I know better.

  I'm sorry your Mom was so cold. Harshness is a JW characteristic. We've all experienced that in one way or another. Our lives as children were all at risk - our parents would rather have us die than give us a blood transfusion. It's amazing some of us are doing ok now... and it's a testament to how strong our spirit is within us!

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  Witness Speak

  by Flash in

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  what controlling statements or questions do you remember hearing or using most?

  my all time favorite is, "isn't this god's organization?

  and shouldn't we obey god's organization??

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  I hate to hear them say.... "the modern-day parallel". There's nothing to suggest there would be a modern day parallel... there will need to be modern-day parallels of modern-day parallels if they go on with it much longer.

  And all the other things also mentioned - this is god's organization, etc. all of it... can't stand it!
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  Do discussion boards have any healing effect?

  by gumby in

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  hi friends,.

  i read somewhere else of the thought that discussion boards for ex-dubs, are not the place to heal unless there is proffesional help onboard.

  i disagree.

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  Yes. I definitely needed to see a therapist to help me sort things out. But the boards help because I feel like nobody can relate to my experiences with the Witnesses. Friends that don't have that experience can't understand why anyone would have gotten involved with this kind of cult, or else they try to convert me to their own churches. Friends/family still in the borg, I wouldn't dare confide in them.

  And it's good to see that disfellowshipped people or others that Witnesses consider to be "apostates" who post on this board are actually reasonable, caring people.

  The way to reach out for support and to give back support to others in need of it.
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  I'm back!!!

  by DblOSmith in

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  went on a little hiatus, but this unbaptised nonbelieving houstonian's back.

  i felt it needed to be said.

  chris (houston, tx).

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  Hey there - I'm in Houston, too.

  Don't mess with Texas, y'all!

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  I was sent to the mental ward. Why?

  by ColdRedRain in

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  a few months ago, i was sent to the mental ward.

  well, this is how it happened.

  my mom started barking at me for quitting my last job, even though she knew at my last job, i had to go to the psych unit for lockup because i broke down on the job and i couldn't keep it.

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  what drwtsn32 said - ditto!

  What a lame thing to say, as if you haven't suffered enough. Looks like you have toxic people all around you and need to get away if possible. Things will improve.

  I'm thinking about you - hugs.

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  Do you ever have a kingdom melody in your head?

  by itsallgoodnow in

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  this drives me crazy.

  i woke up with "i want to" in my head this morning... havent been to a meeting lately, so what gives?

  does this ever happen to any one else?

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  It was your "hooked on kingdom melodies" thing that reminded me...
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  A matter of conscience or more?

  by overitforgood in

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  there are a couple co-workers who are jw?s.

  needless to say, i find their actions and their beliefs to be at odds.

  this one particular witness knowingly participated in a group lunch sponsored by a religious radio station recently (among other questionable activities in the past).

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  weird. he probably figures his non-witness co-workers don't know all the ins and outs of the JW rules, and so thought it wouldn't make a difference to them.