Posts by Incognito

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America's Most Wanted profiles JW Elder Child Molester

by out4good3 in

last night on amw, they profiled the jw elder child molester.

they detailed how he'd planned to be on the run by stashing money all around his house, how he quickly got a divorce when he was being investigated, sold off his assets in a race car business and disappeared.

one lady interviewed incognito, told of how he was a trusted member in the congregation with privileges.. did anyone else see this segment?

Incognito

Nobody talked to me about this!

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High Profile Case: Seeking Reinstatement

by headisspinning in

but our situation is very difficult and quite high profile.... i was raised as a jw and my mother was very strict and abusive.

i got baptized at age 14.. my mother actually called on my (present) husband's mom in service.

she was on the initial call resulting in his mom coming in the truth and him being raised in it from about age 8 or 9.. despite a very abusive step-father, he followed his mom's lead and came into the truth.

Incognito

Welcome to headisspinning & family,

You mention about praying to Jehovah about this situation. I'm sure that you've heard the saying: 'God works in mysterious ways'. Perhaps this situation is Jehovah's way of helping you look at the JW religion to prove to yourself if it is really 'The Truth'. Sometimes the best results come from situations that initially seem very dire and hopeless.

1 Thess 5:21 indicates to: test all things and to hold onto what is good. This situation may have been the only thing to cause you to test the Watchtower organization to prove if what it proclaims is actually 'The Truth' and is actually God's organization on earth. Someone once made the profound statement along the line: The biggest obstacle to finding truth ... is the mistaken belief that you've already found truth (or already know it).

You are individually responsible for what you believe and the life you live and only you can prove that your beliefs are correct. Association with an organization does not automatically give you a 'Free Pass'. You need to ask yourself: Do I really want to know the "Truth"? Am I humble enough to accept TRUTH even if it contradicts what I already thought was 'The Truth'?

Don't blindly accept whatever anyone tells you, but check into the things they say to test if what is said is correct. This goes for what anyone here tells you and especially for the Watchtower as only they proclaim to be God's only mouthpiece.

Is what the Watchtower requires actually required by God or does what they demand actually contradict what the Bible says, if the bible passage is read in proper context?

This maybe the only occasion where you can freely investigate any and all information to prove the claims made by the Watchtower. Take advantage of this opportunity! Decisions you make now can have a monumental impact on you, your husband's and child's future life.

Wannabefree said:

We were protective of the organization.

Considering JW's stating that Jehovah is the most powerful being in the entire universe, their usual actions contradict this statement. If he is the most powerful being, why do we, mere weak humans, need to protect him and cover-up what goes on within HIS organization?

Your life as a JW affects who you are and how you deal with life's situations. Since the JW religion has such a major influence, in your and your Husband's need for Professional assistance, the affect of the religion must be discussed if you both are to progress in dealing with your issues.

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Should true Christians listen to symposiums?

by sir82 in

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anyone whose been to a circuit assembly or district convention over the past 5 years knows how the society has gone absolutely ape-$#!+ crazy over the word "symposium".. there's a symposium every morning...every afternoon....every multi-talk unit is introduced as a "symposium"...the km articles hyping the assemblies ramble on about how we can look forward with great enthusiasm to all the symposiums....at lunchtime, the talk is all about "oh what a great symposium"...symposium this, symposium that..... anyways, i'm currently reading "the jews in the time of jesus" by stephen wylen, an entry-level discussion of jewish belief in the 2nd temple period concentrating on, not surprisingly, the jews in the time of jesus.. in one chapter he is comparing jewish ritual meals to christian ritual meals, and how the seder morphed into the eucharist.. he talks how the seder was done in the first century, and compares it to a typical hellenistic (greek) banquet.. here's what i found amusing:.

"at the hellenistic banquet the participants sat on sofas around a low table, dining at leisure.

meanwhile, they discussed a prepared topic.

Incognito

Symposiums have a...

PAGAN ORIGIN!

And I thought symposiums were just a Tag Team method of talking too long on one subject.

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Why can pioneers count time working on WT construction but not looking after orphans, widows, the hungry, the thirsty or the homeless?

by yesidid in

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apart from the scripture about love being the identifying mark of a christian, it seems to me that james 1,27 and matthew 25:34-40 quoted below are the biblical priorities of a christian.. .

although preaching was not included in the three quotes i guess it would be included as christian thing to do.

it has been the thing most stressed by the watchtower hierarchy and certain hours are required to be an elder etc.. does it show something about their priorities that pioneers can count time hour for hour when working on watchtower buildings?

Incognito

Permitting 'Pioneers' to count time for these activities is a cost free method to get them to participate in giving their time to help build the WT real estate empire or to provide free labour at Bethel.

Since Pioneers must attain a set number of hours per month in the preaching work, how many Pioneers would participate in WT construction projects or at Bethel if they still needed to get their full quota of 'countable' time and in addition, earn some money to live on?

Allowing Pioneers to count their time, cost the WT absolutely nothing while benefitting both the Pioneer and the WT. The Pioneer may be involved in more enjoyable and rewarding activities than FS, while still banking countable hours to submit. The WT benefits in free labour over the long run since KHs, Assembly Halls and other projects will normally become assets of the WT eventually.

If regular 'Publishers' were permitted to count time participating in these projects, how many pubs would go searching for and participating in 'build projects' rather than go door to door? I believe the WT is well aware and know too well that few JWs would go d2d if they can get out of it.

Since so many JWs will gladly participate in these construction activities although they do not personally gain anything, what benefit to the WT would there be by allowing regular JW Publishers to count their time building KHs or other WT assets?

The WT is all about what benefits the WT. What would the WT gain in permitting Pioneers or Publishers to count their time looking after the needs of Widows, Orphans or anyone in need?

On occasions where individual JWs give of their personal time helping others (usually limited to other JWs or JW associates) following a disaster, the WT usually capitalizes and takes credit for the effort within any media coverage and within WT publications.

Edited to add: In regards to Bangalor's comment, since media coverage of individual JWs assisting in disaster relief efforts makes it appear that the the WT has arranged and is paying for these efforts, I'm sure that this publicity assists the WT to maintain their Tax Free Charitable status.

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The letter re: coil binding the elder book

by booby in

i think if an (intelligent) questioning jw was able to read the letter about coil binding the book the impact could/should be greater.

this letter should be an embarrassment to the gb.

what blatant and stupid instructions sent to a large group of men who are supposed to be available to instruct in an intelligent way persons coming with an assortment of life's problems.

Incognito

That book is designed to make their most devoted and often abused adherents, feel 'Privileged' and 'Exclusive' as this book is for their eyes only and not to be shared or viewed by any one else. As has already been stated, there really is nothing stated in it that hasn't been printed in other, regular WT publications.

Becoming an 'Elder' often requires little more that years of butt kissing and consistently reporting at least the national average of door knocking time. Notice I said 'reporting', not necessarily doing although he will need to be viewed as doing his share.

If a practicing baptised male is liked and accepted by the other Elders and the CO, and is willing to never question anything, only saying 'Yes' and whatever else they expect to hear, he can often 'fast track' his way into this exclusive group. Of course, green handshakes to the CO never hurt his chances.

Although a small number of Elders are well intentioned, empathetic and reasonable, there are too many that 'get off' on the attention and power of the title and often offer little of benefit to the congregation.

This is mostly an exclusive old boys club, similar to the Sacred Order of Water Buffalos. All that's missing is the cigars, funny hats and the secret handshake.

Since JWs aren't to smoke, and since wearing a funny hat would be too obvious, maybe the Elders manual is a replacement for the hats. Besides, the WT is a publishing organization so it makes sense that whatever object provided only to the Elders club would be something printed.

Perhaps what's needed now is a secret handshake - or maybe, they already have one?

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Dating a JW for 3 yrs

by justbreathe825 in

my bf and i are thinking on getting married.

i posted a foum early this week on whether or not i should get baptized.

i decided not to.. now even though he says he "doesn't care" he got upset last night when i mentioned the subject and how confused i was.

Incognito

Justbreathe825 said:

Ayyyyyy what a dilemma...I wish I could just say heck with all this and find myself a new guy but ahhhh some of us are just too weak!

If you keep telling yourself that you're too weak, that's all you'll ever be! We often become what we tell ourselves we are.

You recognized something wasn't right in your relationship, especially as it related to the JW religion and came to this discussion forum asking for advice and validation. You received the advice that you asked for and your feelings and observations were validated. Unfortunately, it seems you were told not what you wanted to hear so you make the excuse that you're too weak, implying that you'll put-up with whatever crap is thrown your way. I hope you actually have more self-esteem than that.

You might consider some of the advice given as harsh or critical. Please consider that most on this forum now regret their time as JWs and do not wish anyone else to be trapped in that lifestyle. We know full well what is expected and how JWs act and think.

Many here now wish that they were provided the advice you were given, early on before they ever became JWs. Although you're essentially a stranger to us, no one desires to see you hurt or otherwise entering a life that you'll soon realize is a mistake.

It's ultimately up to you whether you heed the advice you were given but remember, you are responsible for your own life, however it may turn out.

Go through life with your eyes open, considering all options. Don't regret decisions made because you felt obligated, unworthy or desperate.

With regard to your BF, he may be a great guy and a fellow we might all like. Unfortunately, he was brought-up as a JW and was conditioned to think and act as one. JW programing is is very ingrained, especially when a person is raised within it. Ideas taught to a child will usually be with him/her for life and are very tough to change or otherwise unlearn.

Even though you say he doesn't believe, he is happy to play 'The Game' otherwise, he wouldn't have been a Ministerial Servant (I read your "To Be" thread). I personally have a tough time believing that he doesn't believe.

Although he has taken a break to 'sew his wild oats', you have stated he fully expects to continue as a JW and becomes upset when you show any doubt or otherwise not follow through with your indoctrination into becoming a good little JW wife.

He's obviously already thought ahead to having children and he knows full well that they'll be required to attend every meeting and participate in field service. He's fooling himself (and you) if he actually thinks that they'll celebrate their birthdays or any other 'worldly' or 'pagan' celebration. They'll be required to stand in the hall at school during the National Anthem, Pledge of Allegiance or other nationalistic ceremony and also remove themselves when the class is singing Christmas songs or coloring Halloween Pumpkins.

What's a child to think if they can participate in some things and not others, especially when they've learned at the KH that those things are BAD and Jehovah hates people that do those things ?

Children desire to please their parents. Your BF continues to do anything to please his parents and I expect he's similar to your age. Your future children will not go against anything Daddy requires of them as they will be taught that Jehovah is going to kill everyone that doesn't believe in him.

As a JW man, he is considered the 'Head of the House' and his family is to be in 'full subjection' to him. If any family members living in his home are not in subjection (ie: not indoctrinated JWs), he'll likely be criticised and probably never be given a position (Ministerial Servant, Elder) and may even come to despise you for his lack of status in the congregation.

As you can see, this 'religion' makes life very complicated. What is written above has only scratched the surface. There is lots to consider.

Here is a link to recent thread where a young woman similar to yourself, is dating/living with a JW boy: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/social/relationships/200083/1/Need-advice-about-JW-boyfriend

In addition, view the BEST OF TOPICS section of this forum as there are many other threads written on this subject.

Good Luck!

(Oops, I said LUCK. Another NoNo for a JW)

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Dating a JW for 3 yrs

by justbreathe825 in

my bf and i are thinking on getting married.

i posted a foum early this week on whether or not i should get baptized.

i decided not to.. now even though he says he "doesn't care" he got upset last night when i mentioned the subject and how confused i was.

Incognito

justbreathe825 said:

I just want to apologize to him for writing about our relationship in public and saying all those horrible things about him/family/religion and for agreeing with the many comments that criticized him. I don't think there's anything wrong with you and I am sorry I did this and hurt your feelings and I hope you can forgive me.

Although what was said might be embarrassing to him, if what you said was truthful, there is nothing to apologize for.

Although you probably normally wouldn't make your relationship so open on a public forum, you are a person that doesn't know much about this religion so you were questioning things that you observed within the relationship and were feeling pressure to conform to.

Your BF is responsible for his actions and the way he treats you - good or horrible. If he is embarrassed by his behavior, then he'd better wise-up and start treating you (and himself) better.

If his feelings are hurt, this is not your responsibility. His feelings are his alone and how he reacts to those feelings is his choice, not yours.

My dearest love I know nothing will be the same between us but I just want you to know you will always stay in my heart and I only wish the best for you and I hope some day you will be happy and find someone that understands you more than I ever did and loves you the same way I do.

I think breaking-up is best done in private, face to face and not on a public forum.

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Doubt they hide child abuse.....put those doubts to rest today.

by Momma-Tossed-Me in

39. h the accused denies the accusation, the.

investigating elders should try to arrange a meeting.

with him and the accuser together.

Incognito

Sabastious said:

Why not leave everything in "Jehovah's hands" by allowing the individual to act on their own feelings and accord by going to the authorities and leave the elders out of it?

Better yet, encourage and assist the individual to report the matter to the local authorities.

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Doubt they hide child abuse.....put those doubts to rest today.

by Momma-Tossed-Me in

39. h the accused denies the accusation, the.

investigating elders should try to arrange a meeting.

with him and the accuser together.

Incognito

Maybe each local Child Protective Service and District Attorney office should each receive a copy, with the relevant sections highlighted.

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Jwsupport forum under going a change.....

by Hope4Others in

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we have been crippling along on 3 servers the past several months.

we have needed a forum soft ware update.

we will be working on these issues over the next few days.

Incognito

Hope,

Why don't you try moving the site over to Squarespace http://www.squarespace.com/?source=google&campaign=brand-can&gclid=CLXvpMmo2qQCFUtJ2godKE5YZg ? They offer a free 14 day trial period for you to evaluate their performance.

Although Squarespace is often thought to be a blogging site only, they are capable and open to hosting any type of website. They do have many templates available for those less technically proficient or an existing site may be transfered over as is.

Squarespace I understand, is very scalable on-the-fly so that it's virtually impossible to overload their servers from too much traffic.