Gary-
I am a 'preacher's kid', tho' never a JW.
ABSOLUTELY the best and most affirming action my father took was to make it unequivocally clear that he loved ME more than the perception of the crowd, or 'what people might think'.
NO grey area!
My Daddy loved me enough to CHOOSE ME and my growth as an individual over 'how i might reflect on him'. I LOVE him for it!
Take your children outa the 'fishbowl'-
Kimberlee d--- "PK"