Well. I was friends with a 'worldly' man for a long time before we realized that we both had romantic feelings for one another. We both had issues we had to deal with, mine being that I was not supposed to be dating him at all. He never asked me to leave the JWs, nor did he actively influence my decision to leave. His influence came mainly from the unconditional love and support, and the strong caring he showed me. It stood in stark contrast to 98% of the JWs I know and who were my 'friends'.
One of those 'friends', not active in my life at the time and loooong before I was dating my honey, heard me talking to him on my phone and decided that we were dating (we actually were sharing creative writing stories and he had a critique for one of mine...). She went to the elders with this story, based on no evidence and without ever speaking to me. When the elders came to me, I asked why she didn't talk to me first (in the spirit of Matthew 23, as there was nothing to 'witness' and if she thought I had done something that I needed to confess, I was supposed to have the opportunity to confess it on my own). They told me she said she had, which was a bold-faced lie. Fortunately, the elders believed me, and my friend was outraged that a supposed 'friend' could treat my feelings so shabbily.
Once we were in a relationship I managed about 5 months before I could no longer handle living the double life. I left. After I left, I learned how much of the 'truth' is false. I'm so glad I went with my heart and not with my falsely trained conscience. Honey is the light of my life and makes every day a delight to experience. That's the real life.