CeriseRose

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  Long-time lurker introduction

  by Momof4 in

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  i wanted to say hello and introduce myself.

  i am probably one of the longest lurkers here ever.

  i've been lurking for almost three years now, and i enjoy reading a lot of the posts.

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  CeriseRose

  Welcome to visibility! *grin*

  Nice to see you posting and here! Enjoy!
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  Do You Need Praise From Others To Feel Validated?

  by minimus in

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  is that what makes you feel good about yourself?

  can you take criticism without taking it personal?

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  CeriseRose

  I would like to say no, that I'm well adjusted enough in my own skin and all my abilities that I don't. The reality is, however, that at certain times, around certain subjects and situations, that I do need that type of encouragement.

  A case in point...I've always been an honours student in school, but after my JW experience had not been for 15 years. I started back at correspondence courses at the university level. I'm no different a student than before, but this time I felt so out of my depth that I needed my hand held and acknowledgement of even the smallest goals accomplished. I'm in second semester now and need much less in the way of "I knew you could do it, and great job" kinds of comments to feel like I have a grasp on things.

  Although, thinking about the phrasing of Minimus' question, I think I need acknowledgement more than praise (although that could end up being the same thing). I think it depends on how vulnerable the circumstance makes me feel and how much of a stake I have it in. Low vulnerability + low risk = self-validation. High vulnerability + high risk = outside support.

  Kinda makes sense. At least to me.

  Edit: Forgot to answer part two. I can take constructive criticism, if it's delivered respectfully.
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  Do we go???

  by Trey76 in

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  my finace's sister is getting married soon.

  we are not invited to the reception.

  he doesn't know if it is worth the flight for a 15 min.

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  To me it would depend on if I liked the city I'd be flying to and could use it as a little holiday, the 15 minute ceremony notwithstanding. If it's not a place I'd want to go, not really worth the bother and expense.

  However, if money isn't an option, and some good may come from it family wise, might be an idea.

  I guess it depends on how you weigh the pros and cons.
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  My mom smuggled a NWT into my house!

  by reganashe in

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  i went to visit some friends in san diego and my little one (2 1/2) stayed the night at my moms house so she could visit with grandma.

  well when i picked her up she told me that she had taken her to "meeting" and that she had been a very good girl.

  well i didnt want to make a big deal about taking her to meeting because i really needed some grown up time and it was nice for my mom to offer to take my daughter for the night.

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  My fiance, who is "deliciously irreverent" when it comes to religion has a suggestion, especially if your Mom is going to see your daughter and her 'elvis' in the future.

  Take the cover off the NWT, throw out (or otherwise dispose) of the contents, and then replace it with a copy of Darwin's Origin of the Species. Your daughter has her 'elvis', you have peace of mind, and your Mom just might get the message if she ever sees it again.

  *grin*
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  Lasik Surgery

  by StinkyPantz in

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  please share your opinions and experiences here, including cost and side effects both good and bad.

  a description of your experience would be great.

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  CeriseRose

  I've had "No Touch" surgery (sounds similar to how Big Tex described PPK, but our Canadian version). No surgeon's touch, all done by laser. I've had basically the same results...dryer eyes and mine are more sensitive (used to be able to walk in the wind with no problem...now I tear up). I have problems with night vision but those are the the same as before the surgery.

  They also told me at the time that due to natural aging I'd need the procedure re-done for reading...I had the surgery in Feb of 2002 and they had *just* brought this new surgery out. (See link below)

  It was a lot of healing pain but I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

  http://lasereye.com/in_news.html

  Sadly, the doctor who pioneered the technology and who performed my surgery was killed in a car crash 5 months after I got it done. Clinic still going though and apparently doing well.
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  UPDATE: Good News About Nancy . . .

  by Corvin in

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  just stopping in to say hi and i?m ok. thanks to those who sent concerned emails.. update on nancy: she is going through counseling at a voluntary facility where she will remain for another 1.5 weeks.

  we visit her often and she is very homesick by now.

  she is looking forward to a fresh start, which we are all working hard to give her.

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  Corvin, I'm glad Nancy and your girls have you. It sounds like things are on the right track legally, and emotionally.

  I'm continuing to send my positive thoughts and energy to you and yours. Take care!
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  Copies of WT CDs

  by CeriseRose in

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  if this post is not appropriate for this forum, the mods can remove it.. i have cd copies of the wt library 1999 (qty: 1), and burned copies of the wt library 2001 (qty: 2).

  i have no interest in them.

  i doubt most people here do either.

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  CeriseRose

  ROFL You're very silly. I like that.
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  JWs can't spell

  by Nosferatu in

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  i was reading some comments on randy's site, and lately i've been noticing a trend - a majority of jws can't spell.

  i've seen them come on here and their spelling is very poor.

  here's an example: what a nut case!

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  CeriseRose

  ROFL Well, considering how messed up I've been on the boards today, I'm not surprised I misspelled it.

  In my defense, I will say that I don't use that type of 'leet' speak much...it's just not me. And now you see why I don't.
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  Why don't J.W.'s celebrate Thanksgiving?

  by hubert in

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  the first holiday of the season is coming up soon, and i was wondering why j.w.

  's don't celebrate it.

  it's not a bilbical event, as far as i know.

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  CeriseRose

  *glares at you all and reminds self of the wedding dress and the calendar, the wedding dress and the calendar while looking longingly at the mashed potatoes and gravy*

  *sigh*
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  JWs can't spell

  by Nosferatu in

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  i was reading some comments on randy's site, and lately i've been noticing a trend - a majority of jws can't spell.

  i've seen them come on here and their spelling is very poor.

  here's an example: what a nut case!

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  CeriseRose

  In one of my Tech writing courses we talked about the current trends in communication and in language in general. The 'teacher' (an in-the-field technical writer) said that it was common thought that the abbreviated text may become the wave of the future and drive some of the current word usage into the 'antique' category.

  "s8r" may be the way, a hundred years from now, we spell 'skater.' Horrifying to language purists, but let's face it, English is a nightmare as it is anyway, with all those silent e's and other useless bits. *grin*