i am honestly trying to stay ahead of anger and to not live my life by it.
i'm not an angry person overall...in fact i've had many issues where i've not gotten angry like someone else might and it's left me in an unhealthy place.
i learned to start getting angry over injustice and wrong, especially where i'm personally concerned.
Mark, you are speaking exactly what I'm thinking on the 'higher' level. The place that I thought I actually had gotten to.
Unfortunately, I wasn't as far along in my 'forgiveness' and healing as I thought. Which is probably a large part of the anger.
Maybe I just need to go have a bubble bath and sip a martini... hmmmm....
Thanks for your responses. :)
i am honestly trying to stay ahead of anger and to not live my life by it.
i'm not an angry person overall...in fact i've had many issues where i've not gotten angry like someone else might and it's left me in an unhealthy place.
i learned to start getting angry over injustice and wrong, especially where i'm personally concerned.
I have nothing but the cancelled cheques/bank statements. Nothing to show it was a loan or something to be paid back. She was like family to me and in my family (you know the 'worldly' one) you stand up on your loans, as a matter of principle. Apparently not all families are like mine.
It's not even about the money, really. I just got treated like major crap and betrayed and that smarts a lot. I never expected it from her and I had thought I was well past it, but apparently I'm not. And other than whining about it (which I hate doing, yet seem to do a lot of...hehe) there isn't really anything to be done for it but to get over it.
And I guess learn another lesson.
"listen!!
the green grass has dried up, the blossom has withered; but as for the word of our god, it will last to time indefinite.
see the glory of our god and his splendor exult!
I was taught how to make Paella years ago...of course, I'm allergic to half the seafood in it so have to modify the 'traditional' recipe. But good!
If you're in Canada or close to it, the cheapest place for saffron is Galloways. You can get a tube of the threads for $4.00. I'm not a saffron connosseur, so I don't know if it's a lower 'quality', however it is real saffron.
Come to think of it, the price is probably higher, that was several years ago. Of course, that's Canadian money which is like pennies and shells to the rest of yous. ;)
i am honestly trying to stay ahead of anger and to not live my life by it.
i'm not an angry person overall...in fact i've had many issues where i've not gotten angry like someone else might and it's left me in an unhealthy place.
i learned to start getting angry over injustice and wrong, especially where i'm personally concerned.
I am honestly trying to stay ahead of anger and to not live my life by it. I'm not an angry person overall...in fact I've had many issues where I've not gotten angry like someone else might and it's left me in an unhealthy place. I learned to start getting angry over injustice and wrong, especially where I'm personally concerned.
I thought I had all the stuff out and done with over my ex best friend. This third generation JW in "good standing" had not only dragged me into a business venture and then bailed, leaving me holding the financial bag, but also still owes me for paying off a couple of her loans, stole a vacation deposit and took her family on the vacation I paid for, and has some personal effects of mine, sentimental family things that her son broke and her husband was to fix that she 'can't find'. She lied and stole and when I broke off our friendship, I was satisfied that I could 'get over' it...I was not going to take her to court, because that's not 'the Christian' thing to do.
Her sister works about 4 blocks from my house. I've seen my ex-friend's car (actually the car I gave her) outside the shop several times in my journeying around...and while I gave her a passing thought, didn't really feel any upset. There have been many times in my life that I've chalked up material loss to the 'lesson learned'.
Today she was in her car. She didn't see me, I think she was looking at her mail or something. She would probably have ignored me even if she had...after our falling out, she attempted to ignore me at the Circuit Assembly and I wasn't DAd then. I forced her to acknowledge my presence (I mean, I had the audacity to call her on her lies and tell her that I didn't want that kind of toxic person in my life...I wasn't the one who had something to be ashamed of...she's the one who hasn't attempted in several years to even start paying me back).
So I am sitting there, waiting at the light and looking at her and I'm just absolutely enraged. I am so mad that she sits there, sitting in judgement of me and my actions, talking to others and gossiping about me as she sees fit (she's a constant gossiper) and I'm the one shut out. I used to have the 'comfort' that God saw her actions and she would be judged accordingly. I don't even know if that's the case anymore, I don't know what I believe.
Part of me wants to sue...but I have no documentation and really don't want to even deal with her - I wrote the financial loss off long ago like I said. Part of me wants to do something malicious, like take her unlisted number and give it to some telemarketer. But even those aren't 'me'. So I'm sitting here angry and hurt that this is how it is, and feeling powerless.
In a nutshell it really sucks. I can't even feel sorry for her being deluded and in a cult. In my mind it's karma. I feel really nasty about feeling that way too.
BLEH.
i just got home from the store.
there is an armed stand-off on my street, one block down.
there is a man with his child and wife.
I'll send all the positive energy I can muster for a safe resolution. *hugs*
she was too shy to start this thread.
so i'll kick this one of the ground.
these were her questions:has anyone got the nerve to start a "how old were you when first started masturbating thread"?
Sorry, I'm confused. What's masturbation?
Okay all kidding aside, is this the thread to respond to her questions, or do you need someone to start the thread separately? I can if you'd like.
i am looking to purchase at the end of this year a holiday home in vancouver island, bc, canada.
nothing fancy, a mobile home or float boat / houseboat, no matter how small, or a cabin for minimal money i.e.
upto canadian $40,000.
I don't know what you intend for the other 6 months of the year when you're -not- using it, but if you look in the Ucluelet/Tofino area (west coast) it's a HUGE vacation spot, and rentals are year round. Pricier than other areas, but it's a booming area for whale watching, surfing and the like. And it's beautiful (it's my favorite vacation spot in Canada). :)
Just thought if you were to use it half the time, you could rent it the other half...using a person out here as a 'property manager', and possibly taking bookings online. :) People out there make LOTS.
My 2 cents. :D
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i don't think i say anything more forthright than the next on here........ its just that i believe differently.. if i do upset people then i'll go.. if i don't then i'll stay.. scoob
There's been a few mentions of cultural differences here (i.e. British vs US vs Canadian vs ???). No, I'm not British but am living in a country and was raised in a household with strong British influence. No, not the same, but when I was in England I didn't find myself in a completely different paradigm to my understanding.
My point? If we know/acknowledge that there are differences and potential communication 'glitches' that could occur, wouldn't it make sense that we would all try to be as clear as possible when talking to one another? I don't think Xenawarrior is too off the mark asking for clarification...notice she didn't make an assumption, call names or anything else 'bad'. And then comes the non-answer. And then the cry of being misunderstood again. (Well, of course there will be misunderstanding of someone's motives/stand/point if they don't explain it...and if they don't want to explain it then what -is- the point in posting at all?)
Can you see how frustrating it might be? Even a little? I would think that if anyone (Scoobie included) wanted truly to get their point across, they'd spend the time to make the point, answer the questions that are put forward, and actually dialogue.
My 2 cents.
And Mark, it sounds beautiful there. My bf is in town with his new convertible PT Cruiser and we were looking forward to zooming about in the hot sunny weather we'd been having. And lo and behold...clouds, rain. *sigh* Enjoy your good weather!
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i don't think i say anything more forthright than the next on here........ its just that i believe differently.. if i do upset people then i'll go.. if i don't then i'll stay.. scoob
First of all, I'm not part of any clique here. So what I've said and my opinion are just that, mine. Yes, I have been upset at things you've said, and said so. I thought this was a forum to be able to do that, and still get along in an overall way.
Scooby. you have a right to your opinion just as much as I or anyone else does. So when someone offers a different perspective, or a different take on things, why not look at it like that?
What you might also want to think about is how you deliver what you're trying to say. How you respond to others. I mean, we all have to take a certain amount of accountability to choose our words so we don't hurt and do more damage to people than they've already been through (okay, we actually don't *have* to do this...but isn't the world a much nicer place when you think before you dump crap on people, and no, Scooby that's not directed at you per se, but everyone...and this is my personal philosophy...to be able to speak my mind in a respectful way and not cause more hurt than necessary).
As for your leaving, that is truly up to you. What you need to figure out is what you are trying to get out of this board for yourself...why you post here. Without getting into analyzing your character to death (because I neither know you, nor is that fair to do to you), what you say here sometimes contradicts and might just be too "in your face" for some. Is that bad? Not necessarily. But if you're going to be that person here, you need to remember that you're quite possibly going to be misunderstood, and a target. It's a trade off. And your posts seem to be very pro-JW (not taking a middle ground even, but way more left to that direction)...that along can cause hard feelings.
I personally wouldn't want to see you go. Like I said on the last thread, I look at your topics and think they might be interesting to read. It's when I get inside and it's one squabble after another that I get turned off. That's me, my personal thing. Someone else may find what you have to say and the way you put it, just perfect for them.
I think there's room for everyone here, as long as we all remember that there are real people behind the text and treat people accordingly. It would be a shame to become as exclusive as the place we left.
one of my co-workers boss is dying of prostrate cancer.
it's gone all throughout his bones now and he's heading downhill really fast.
having had a brush with cancer myself, i feel absolutely horrible for him.
Both of my parents died of cancer. One thing they both wanted was to 'feel normal,' and not talk constantly about it, so what I learned was to follow their lead...if they brought it up, we talked. If I had something I needed to say, I did. Otherwise, we kept it light and as normal as possible. However, that's not exactly the same situation as yours (I mean, it isn't a close family situation).
Do you have any way of finding out how he is doing mentally with it? It makes a huge difference to approaching him depending on how settled he is.
One thing that is always good is to just speak from your heart. "I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm devastated at this news." I found my parents did a lot of consoling of others...they were both relatively settled (at least that's the face they put forward) and spent some energy making it okay for the people they were leaving behind.
It's a difficult balance. Keep in mind that what he's going through is intensely personal and he may not want to focus on it to the level you need to speak. If you are going to visit, maybe, like Blondie says, write something down (okay, I paraphrased). Keep the visit light and upbeat, follow his lead, and be aware that his stamina is really probably quite low (my Dad's coworkers were fabulous about regular, short visits). And leave the card/note behind for him to read so you can share your thoughts and feelings but without putting it into his space when he might not be able to handle it.
*hugs* It's a really tough place to be. I hope it goes well.
