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  Do All JW Children Suffer From Psychological Damage? The First Bit..

  by Englishman in

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  ..and if so, what form does such psychological damage take?.

  my own experience is that damage does occur.. i was 8 years old when my parents became converted, so i wasn't exactly a totally white canvass on which my personality could be painted.

  but i was a light shade of grey, so the impact of wt teaching was still quite considerable.. i think the most damage that i suffered was in the area of guilt and unworthiness.

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  I am trying to figure out just how damaged my kids are -

  at 18 and 20 having been raised JW but not in the fanatic sense and thankfully, never baptized.

  They seem to be doing great, working, school, many friends and a girlfriend - full on into hobbies/athletics - they were so happy to leave, 2 years now, and we did as a family - but, I see many say how they were affected for decades by the upbringing and I know it is so.

  Am I naive to think they will get it out of their system (sorry, don't mean to use the "get over it" thought) easier than me, since they only lived half the length of time as I did in the cult? Discussions with them at this time have them telling me that I will never be able to think like a "normal" worldly mom after more than 40 years of mind control.
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  "We miss you" experiences

  by Nosferatu in

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  i have a couple.

  the elder that used to study with me came to my door one day.

  he reminded me of all the wonderful times we had out in service (i really couldn't remember any).

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  ((((Elsewhere)))) what a good letter - hope it will open up their thinking processes enough to take you in and appreciate the love of a son.

  My friends just received a scathing letter of "encouragement" from an elder who has "missed" them during their fading time - he sent notes from the assembly, the new brochure and said : "Make it back to the fold. Gird up your loins and come back."
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  WORD OF MOUSE

  by Country Girl in

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  although this article isn't particularly about witnesses, i thought i'd highlight the parts that i feel pertain in the same way to the wt society:.

  sites provide community for former and wavering mormons salt lake city (ap) ?

  eight years ago, eric kettunen built the web site exmormon.org to help people who were struggling with their decision to leave the mormon church.

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  Thanks for the interesting article -

  I had found the exmormon site before I ever had even typed in the words "Jehovah's Witnesses". At the time, I was amazed to see the similarities between the issues being discussed on the mormon board and how I felt as a JW. It helped me tremendously just to know others were questioning their faith also.
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  I could REALLY use some help right now....

  by babygrl4903 in

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  hey all,.

  ok...i know for a fact that you have all probably heard this before but i am new here so i don't really know all the topics that have been discussed.

  so, at the risk of repeating past topics.....here i go.... i am 16 years old and have a boyfriend who is a jw.

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  When my b/frd wanted to marry me - I was JW and he was not - I didn't even introduce him to my parents until we went to tell them we were getting married. It is SO taboo to date a "worldly" boy that no one knew of his existence. He'd never met any of my friends or family members as I wished to avoid the whole scene. I'd say your b'frd is pretty brave actually to have ever brought you out in the open. Of course, your agreeing to study was key to the whole thing. All their hopes are that you will "see the light".

  Speaking to your preist:

  Good idea - my b/frd had the same doubts as you and had gone and talked to his pastor. They discussed the pros and cons of marriage with no unity in faith. The pastor shared with him a book on CULTS and JW's were dealt with in one chapter. We broke up as he realized this was more serious of an issue than he'd originally wanted to believe.

  To make a long story short: The breakup didn't last long - we married - he converted 10 years later (not in a whole souled manner) - and now after 25 years, we have EXITED together. You can only fool yourself for so long and we both finally admitted to each other that it was all a load of crap. For us, better late than never - but for you - I would hope you'd never have to be untrue to yourself or let any organization control your thinking.

  All the best to you,

  4JWY
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  I'M 59 today

  by rekless in

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  i received a big fat happy buddah statue for my new feng shui beleif system.

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  Hope you enjoyed your special day !

  Happy Birthday
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  Bethel Family "Manual"?

  by Valis in

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  i was on ebay the other day and i saw a bethel family manual.

  then i went back to look for it and it is gone.

  has anyone a copy of this or know where i could get my grubby paws on one?.

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  I just read the whole "Manual" ~ should be retitled, "LIFE FOR DUMMIES" ~ what a load of crap! The whole thing sounds like a storybook for 3 year olds.
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  Did You Stay as a Witness Because You Needed a Social Life & "Friends"?

  by minimus in

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  recently onacruse made a comment regarding why many jws remain jws.

  a lot of people look at religion as a way to get together and be social with one another.

  let's face it, people need "friends".

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  Far from it. That's a big part of why we checked out. We were tired of fake friendships. We never could express our true identity as unique individuals since the expectations to have been molded into the homogenous group were ever present.

  We realized what a mistake it is to raise a child among such a sick society that controls your thinking to the extent that you truly believe that they are the only humans appropriate to socialize with. Our kids could never understand how it was that they had 3 kids to choose from to be friends with at our hall- they shared no common interests, yet were told, these must be your friends- not any of the hundreds at school. My son would tell the kids at school that he couldn't come to their house etc. because they are "worldly" ??? I always tried to help him find another way to explain it - but it was just as lame. He HAD to be friends with the kid at the hall who at 12 yrs. old, didn't even know what a washcloth was!
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  Cedar Point, Sandusky Ohio

  by Beans in

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  ok who has been here, is it good?

  tell me everything, good and bad, i need the juice!.

  beans

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  I just cringe when I even hear/see those words, Cedar Point, Ohio - brings back awful memories of hearing it SO many times at the KH over the years.
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  How many showers do you have per day.........?

  by vitty in

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  i`ve just had my third, one this morning, one at lunchtime after the gym and one now as i have been sitting in the sun and needed to wash all that smelly suncream off, and i might have one before bed.. .

  what`s your record?

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  How strange to see this topic as just a little while ago I was talking to my neighbor who in conversation out of the blue just happened to mention that her husband ONLY takes 2 showers a day. I'm thinking, ONLY? It's rare that I would need one twice a day and he does this routinely?

  Thanks for the education all.

  I remain, smelling like a -

  4JWY
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  Can we have a post party?

  by Stefanie in

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  i am bored!

  please?

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  Xena - we just lost our appetite!