Posts by chok

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So what do you think ..now youve left?

by vitty in

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first this is a question for ppl who converted to jws as an adult.

since yourve left the "truth" have you gone back to your old beliefs considering what happens to you after you die, do you thing you will go to heaven or hell when you die.. next , if you were brought up in the "truth" what do you believe now?

chok

I dont have any religious beliefs now to be honest. Sometimes feel a bit lost over what to believe, but in time I am sure I will learn new things, and gain new opinions on different issues. Be able to form my own ideas where I wasn't able to before, they were all formed for me.

I am led now by my children and making sure they have a happy normal childhood.

The highlight of me leaving was my daughter explaining to me about the tooth fairy. She asked if the tooth fairy had visited me when I was a little girl, when I said 'No', she looked sad and just said 'Thats cause you didnt believe in her'.

I am loving every minute of reliving my missed childhood through the happy faces of my children.

Tash

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When you were an active JW would you have had this sticker on your car?

by ObservingTexan in

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i saw a car today that had a bumper sticker that said "i ".

considering what is taught by the wts about jesus would you have ever put a bumper sticker on your car with this message?.

ot........

chok

I didnt think we were allowed to have stickers like that! If it said ' I Jehovah' then that would have been acceptable i think.

Then you would be identifed as a true JW!

Tash

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Can a disassociated person attend the memorial?

by chok in

i disassociated myself last year, because i refused to attend a jc!

i preferred to jump ship rather than be pushed!.

this year my parents have invited me to the memorial?

chok

I have absolutely no wish to go...I just wondered out of curiousity really.

Guess you are never really truly free of them.

I thought that by outing myself I would be totally free of everything and never be allowed to step foot in there again.

Tash

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Can a disassociated person attend the memorial?

by chok in

i disassociated myself last year, because i refused to attend a jc!

i preferred to jump ship rather than be pushed!.

this year my parents have invited me to the memorial?

chok

Hello

I disassociated myself last year, because I refused to attend a JC! I preferred to jump ship rather than be pushed!

This year my parents have invited me to the memorial? I didnt think a disassociated person could attend?

Does anyone know?

Tash

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Anybody just plain get fed up and DA?

by toby888 in

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i'm sick and tired and i just can't take it anymore.

i think i can "be all i can be" by joining the world and thinking about da pretty soon.

slow fade may not really work for me.

chok

I did it!!! I did it because they came to see me and their opening words were, "This is just a friendly chat" (I knew that was a lie, there were 3 of them...thats means judicial!!!) Then they said "How can we help you back!"

I realised stronger than ever then, that I didnt want to go back and would never go back. So I wrote a letter told them exactly what I thought of it all and said consider me in need of no further help from you. Thank you.

I'm glad I did it, its made me realise what family is REALLY about. Basically blood isnt thicker than water. Being "IN" is what counts. I'm just another DA'd person as far as my family is concerned. So now I am just living for my partners and my babies. The family side shunning me does hurt, but I'm free and so are my children are going to have the normal life I never had.

Chok (Natasha)

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PLEASE REPLY ASAP!!! Disfellowshiped without a meeting with elders?!?!?!

by chok in

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i was trying to fade, and thought i had done so successfully for the past 18months.. i have just received a call from my dad saying it will be announced tomorrow that i have been disfellowshipped... can they do this???.

chok.

chok

Carol and sass_my_frass I read your posts and they stirred quite a lot of emotion. You are right about them thinking that I will come back because I have been so adament about being DF'd...and I never want to go back. I want my children to have different upbringing and childhood...and life in general!

I think the time has come for me to write another letter that says that I no longer wish to be regarded as one of them, and deal with the consequences of my actions. My parents and rest of family will have to deal with it too, and decided whether to continue to speak to me and see their grandchildren or not.

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom.

This is not going to be an easy time, so no doubt I will be back on here frequently.

Chok

p.s. STEP 1 to freedom....my real name is Natasha

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PLEASE REPLY ASAP!!! Disfellowshiped without a meeting with elders?!?!?!

by chok in

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i was trying to fade, and thought i had done so successfully for the past 18months.. i have just received a call from my dad saying it will be announced tomorrow that i have been disfellowshipped... can they do this???.

chok.

chok

To those of you who think that because I have been trying to fade, I should just accept being DF'd, then I guess you dont have family who are still trapped in their beliefs, and will not speak to you if told not too. Or maybe you just dont care if they dont talk to you. Frankly I think it is up to them, and I will get on with my life...but there is a part of me, that wants things to remain as normal as possible, for the sake of my children.

This is not just about me being shunned, its everything else that it impacts.

Maybe you should think about things like that before you pass comments.

Chok

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PLEASE REPLY ASAP!!! Disfellowshiped without a meeting with elders?!?!?!

by chok in

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i was trying to fade, and thought i had done so successfully for the past 18months.. i have just received a call from my dad saying it will be announced tomorrow that i have been disfellowshipped... can they do this???.

chok.

chok

Out of the box - good point!

Thanks

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PLEASE REPLY ASAP!!! Disfellowshiped without a meeting with elders?!?!?!

by chok in

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i was trying to fade, and thought i had done so successfully for the past 18months.. i have just received a call from my dad saying it will be announced tomorrow that i have been disfellowshipped... can they do this???.

chok.

chok

Thanks everyone for your advice.

I decided to send a letter to the elders involved.

Nothing was announced...we'll see what they try next.

I dont want to be a JW at all, thats not the issue. The fact is that I have like many of you have family that are still trapped in it, and it easier to be faded than outed, mainly for the sake of my children. I have been outed before (should never have returned, but thats another story).

Thanks again. Watch this space.

Chok

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PLEASE REPLY ASAP!!! Disfellowshiped without a meeting with elders?!?!?!

by chok in

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i was trying to fade, and thought i had done so successfully for the past 18months.. i have just received a call from my dad saying it will be announced tomorrow that i have been disfellowshipped... can they do this???.

chok.

chok

roybatty

the PO is on the committee!!!!

I guess my time is up, and I have just been pushed off the fence. But as my wise brother said to me, its time to move on and start living now!

chok