I know it may be hard to understand, but if you picture your kids growing up without their family you may understand.
A lot of people stay because of ther family.
I know it may be narrow minded but the one who chooses to leave is the one who rocks the boat. The one who makes it hard.
Sometimes it is easier to remian silent untill the children in the family are old enough to understand.
Although i'm out it makes it harder for my kids to spend time with the family they love.