Posts by Purza

So I went to a birthday party today . I went with my best friend who is also faded like me. The party was a tea house where we had high tea and dined on scones and finger sandwiches . It was quite fun.

As we were sitting there I noticed a family member of mine walk in who just happens to be a dub -- and a regular pioneer at that. She had three other dub friends with her and I knew them all. I told my friend and we looked at them, but I am not sure if they saw us. My friend said that she saw this family member of mine at Safeway not too long ago and was "shunned" by this family member and her husband.

So they sat at the other end of the tea shop and probably noticed as our group (of 20) sang happy birthday and ate cake. About 30 minutes later we left and as I walked out I heard the dubs call my name, "Purza" and I just pretended not to hear them. The tea house was noisy anyway, so I felt I could get away with it. I just walked straight out the door and stood out on the street for awhile waiting for my friend and none of the dubs came after me.

It has taken me a while to get to this point, but I had no fear when I saw these people and I really could have cared less what they thought of me. I am sure I will get an email from my mother saying I was "seen" at a birthday party. To which I will laugh and not deny it. I feel liberated in not caring about what the dubs think of me anymore. Its a great feeling.

Purza

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Fired! -- Now what do I do?

by Inkie in

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i was fired.

i can't believe it.

it has come as a total shock.

Purza

I guess it all depends on your circumstances. But you never, ever say that you were fired.

Depending on where you end up next, you could say something like "I no longer wanted to commute" or "wanted to try a different type of law" -- or something vague. I would go to the book store and look through the books about interviewing to help you find the right answer.

I am so very sorry. . .

Purza

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My Mother Wants To Talk About My Spiritual Weakness....

by Doubtfully Yours in

... i know she's dropping by my house later on this evening.

i just don't want to be in any way disrespectful or cause her any pain by my comments.. any suggestions as to how i should handle this 'being put on the spot like this' situation?.

dy

Purza

I would think that you may need to set up some boundaries. You don't have to be disrespectful in doing so, but just firm in your statements so that she doesn't cross the line. I do not speak to my mother very often, but we have an understanding that we do not talk about our religious beliefs (hers is JW and I no longer have religious beliefs).

Don't know if I am being very helpful.

Purza

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Have you noticed an oddity at indoor conventions?

by truth_about_the_truth in

every time i've attended a dc in an indoor arena, i 've noticed a u.s. flag hanging on the rafters or somewhere prominently displayed.

of course it is a permanent fixture of the arena.

anyways, since national flags are symbols of idolatry.

Purza

The flag has been in the Cow Palace (in SF) for years. It is huge and I always noticed it. It would take an acrobat (or an act of god) to bring it down. There is probably something in the contract that does not allow them to remove it. JMHO

Purza

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Shunning....done with a spirit of love or with a spirit of hate???

by chuckyy in

i went to take my daughter to school today and right at the end of her line was a jw with her child.

seeing as i had to take my child to her line, i had to stand very close to her.

i seen her out of the corner of my eye looking at me.

Purza

They do this because apparently...its supposed to help you come to your senses and return to the fold! Its a loving provision, dont you forget that!
Are you feeling the urge to return?

That statement cracked me up. It is so true. Shunning just creates anger and misery in people -- not a feeling of wanting to return. What a joke the whole structure is!

Purza

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The Longest Hour in the Life of a Young JW

by TMS in

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the family bible study.

tms

Purza

The family Bible study

I totally agree with this. Pure torture!

Purza

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Having an affair acceptable in your religion?

by antimarriagewrecker in

this woman, clarise, who lives in hayward, california is a strong beliver of jehovahs witness.

because she needs to go door to door to spread words of your religion, she only works 3 days a week.

that is fine.

Purza

I don't mean to be inconsiderate of your feelings, but are you absolutely sure that your husband is not participating in the exchange of emails and such? He may tell you one thing, but do another. I know this from experience.

And as everyone else has said. . . no affairs are not acceptable in the JW religion.

Purza

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Does The Thought of Being Disfellowshipped Bother You?

by minimus in

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is it realy the worst thing one can go through?

are you afraid of it??

has being disfellowshipped actually turned into a "blessing"?

Purza

I was DF'd when I was a teenager (19) and yes, that is the worst thing that ever happened to me at that point in my life.

I was reinstated a year later.

Fast forward ten years and I am not DF'd, but I have not attended a meeting in about 3 years. I could care less if I was DF'd now because I have matured and I know what is really important in my life and it does not include being a dub.

Purza

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What Movie should I go see??? Help!!

by Seeking Knowledge in

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it's been so long since i've been to a movie that didn't involve big green ogres or a family of superhero's.

my friend & i are going tonite and we have narrowed it down to two movies:.

national treasure.

Purza

I've always like Thomas Haden Church

Beware! He plays a real jerk in this movie (at times).

Purza