...but don't know where to start looking for a good church to attend?.
or maybe feel too guilty with leftover jw emotions to even think about going to church at all?.
I have no desire whatsoever to attend any church. I don't want to dwell on whether or not there is a god out there and if I am making him/her happy. Its too much work and I no longer want to be controlled by fear.
However, I would like to learn how to mediate so I can be more relaxed and achieve inner peace.
Purza
what have you done [or anticipate doing] that is special, original or just plain exciting to you?
the grandmunchkins are all excited about christmas morning, and there are stacks of presents under the tree.
the tree has become more colorful this year, as we add to it every year now.
We have been invited to my half-sister's mother's house for tonight. We decided to go this year, just for the interaction with family (albeit distant). When we get back home tonight we will open everything in our stockings. Even though my kid is 17, I love watching her receive all of her little gifts - her expression and thankfulness makes it worth it to me.
Christmas morning I will make a breakfast casserole (its our favorite), and while it is backing we will open our gifts. Then maybe a walk around a local lake and then a movie. I like that just about everything is closed Christmas day as it gives a day to relax and be casual.
Purza
my congregation would have a special service day on all holidays, including christmas.
in order to avoid knocking to early on homeowners doors we would meet at 10am instead of 9:30am.
we would always have the hardcore group ready ard raring to go on dec 25th.
I don't think I EVER went out on Christmas day. Maybe when I was young my parents took me, but thankfully my memory has been blocked as it relates to that.
I once went out on Thanksgiving and got yelled at. After that, I never went door to door on a holiday again.
Purza
i am at an iffy place with christmas this year - i don't know if i'm not trying hard enough, or if this has just been a really difficult year, but i've lost my christmas groove.
and it's not just me.. so many that i've spoken to are saying the same things.
even the shopping malls haven't gone all out - i don't hear christmas music, they've got some decorations up but nothing that shouts ""christmas is here"".
And it's not just me.
You are correct. We walked around our neighborhood last night and there were not as many lit up houses as in the past. Its like people just aren't in to it this year. (Although the mall was packed yesterday). At least in my area, I think there is a good number of people just trying to hold on to their homes and don't have a lot of money to go all out this year. JHMO
Purza
i am sort of shocked and wonder if i pulled this same kind of sh*t as a witness.
i already know jw's believe they are better than everyone else, what with being god's only chosen people and all that.. well, i am sitting at my table, minding my own business.
there is a group of six jw's at the next table, three adults, three kids.
Maybe you should have turned around and asked them to study the bible with you, since they are so tolerant, surely you want to be just like them. What a great example that would have shown the little boy. (sarcasm intended)
Purza
i have not posted for a good while now as have not felt the need, .
am living in the real world away from jdub hell.. escaped dissing and now have a few friends (some ex jdub and some that have no clue what a jdub is!!
my sister and i were extremely close but my departure has seperated us and we now rarely see each other.
It seems the farther away I get from the religion, the harder it is to comprehend that they are still going to their mindless meetings three times a week. I am sorry your sister was so unfeeling student1.
Purza
any of you ex-dubs who are wondering why you left should read the study lesson today on oral sex.
let's also consider that the borg considers it essential that the brothers bring their young childer to all the meetings and make sure that they pay attention to the material.
the material this week included a very detailed description of oral sex!
Does anyone remember that talk "A Godly View of Sex and Marriage"? Where they talked about sex openly and often. I would have never thought to walk out during that talk or the WT today. The elders always praised themselves saying they were talking about sex in a "healthy, clean environment". But you are so right -- little kids have no idea what that is and they shouldn't have to be subjected to hearing about adult things. Crazy.
Purza
growing up amongst jws, i saw the core beliefs as a threat.
be a jw, or die horribly.
but no one i knew ever admitted this, it was all about 'loving jehovah'.
I left when I met my husband and felt safe leaving. The fear was strong initially, but not strong enough to pull me back in.
Every now and then the fear comes up and I have to consciously fight it. There are times when I can detach and look at myself from the outside and understand the brainwashing or conditioning. That is kinda scary to know how far I was in.
Purza
do you prefer working for a male or a female?
why ?
i'll post my answer later.
Its hard to say. But probably I would prefer a female.
I have worked for some really asshole males, but those were few and far between. Worked for some really nice male attorneys. (I know, nice and attorneys don't generally go in the same sentence, but I have been lucky).
I had one female boss that felt she had to prove herself to everyone, but she was cool to me.
My current boss is a female and we are best of friends.
Purza
once again someone hurt nancy, my little mini cooper.
this time they popped the front driver side window, broke it all out, stole my tomtom gps, ripped apart the center console and tore up the 12 volt plug while ripping the gps power cable out.
the police came out and did the whole fingerprint thing and got a few bits and pieces of some prints, but we won't know if anything will come of it.
That f*cking blows!
The police came out and did the whole fingerprint thing and got a few bits and pieces of some prints
You are very lucky they did the fingerprinting, as this would not happen where I live. (Experience speaking). I hope they are able to catch the bastards that did this.
Purza
