LTF. If you do decide to speak to the abuser, be prepared that it may not turn out to be what you hoped. Forgiveness and healing for her. Often abusers are in total denial. Denial (don't even no I'm lying) She may deny which would probably cause you to feel like you are being abused by her all over again. She may even bring other family member against you in the denial to keep the secret. This reaction is too common so try to prepare yourself for this.
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Is this abuser a pedophile or messed up victim of abuse
by LearningToFly ini've been trying to figure this one out for awhile now, it's something i have let go and dealt with but i do have some questions regarding it now.
when i was seven, i had an older jw female cousin who was thirteen who forced me into sexual activities.
she used threat of bodily harm as her way of forcing this.
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How many elders did this?
by Bumble Bee in5go had a thread here - the service overseer nearly cried from the podium that mentioned something i never realized, elders having to chip in from their own pockets to cover expenses.. how many elders here had to do that, and what was the average amount and frequency that you had to make up the shortfalls?.
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My husband the MS was always helping the congregation elders financially and always overcompensating in the contribution box to help with congregation expenses.
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Is this abuser a pedophile or messed up victim of abuse
by LearningToFly ini've been trying to figure this one out for awhile now, it's something i have let go and dealt with but i do have some questions regarding it now.
when i was seven, i had an older jw female cousin who was thirteen who forced me into sexual activities.
she used threat of bodily harm as her way of forcing this.
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Learning to Fly
How painful this must have been for you carrying this experience those years. I firmly believe that the Jehovah's Witnesses' problem of sexual abuse within is so deep and far more dangerous than what the Catholic Church dealt with from Pedophile priests molesting children in their parishes all those years. The reason why the sexual abuse is so insidious and deeply routed within so many of it's families is because this is such a closed community made up of families who are all interelated throughout the many circuits. They grow up together, play together, date each other and intermarry with each other. Their family issues become intertwined and many of these family secrets are carried through and hidden by members in this religion. Especially with the elder arrangement, sexual abuse is covered and hidden by elder family members who either have experienced abuse, or know of other members abuses. A family member who is a pedophile and becomes an elder is often protected by other family members hiding abuse. Then through generations of hidden sexual abuse and inter congregational marriage alliances, this problem of family secrets is often incest that carries throughout the different families continuing to hide secrets of sexual activities of other familiy members. It goes on and on and stays in that organization and keeps growing like a cancer. Your cousin very likely passed some of the leftovers of this disfunction onto her own children who could either grow up to look the other way and ignore sexual abuse, or to acutally perpetrate it on other members of thier family or within the congregation. Or if not that, maybe be drawn to another pedophile from some other congregation. It just keeps festering from family to family in all different disguises until someone breaks the chain and stops it. Maybe deep inside you are feeling you must do this in some way so that someone else is not affected by her sexual disfunction. If your cousin went on to have a family, who knows what twisted things she could have done to the minds of her daughters or sons even if only with words. This will continue to be a generational thing she passes down through her immediate family members and they will also until the chain is broken.
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Finally, THE END IS HEAR, according to Robert King.
by whereami inwell folks this is it.
check it out.
http://e-jehovahs-witnesses.com/forum/index.php?s=9d925b93cbe8c20a93d8de6d47bd50aa&showtopic=701&pid=7346&st=0&#entry7346
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My granddaughter 5 mos old passed away today...
by Tatiana inshe was beautiful.
her name was aliyah.
she would have been 5 mos tomorrow.
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Tatiana, I am so very saddened to learn of the horrible experience you and your family are facing from this loss of your beautiful grand daughter. I can't say I know how you feel because I don't. But I have 3 grand daughters of my own, and I do know how I would feel if something like this happened to them. My youngest grand daughter is 6 months and i keep thinking about you going through this.
Sincerely, My most Deepest Sypathy for You, your daughter and all of your family
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How would Nancy Grace react to Barb Anderson's CD?
by ARoarer ini can just hear her ranting against wt
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skeeter1 I agree with you about Anderson Cooper and Greta. They are respectful and respectable journalists. I enjoy watching their interviews. Anderson is a very empathetic interviewer, also. He's been through some rough emotional stuff in his life in younger years. I think this is what gives him the ability to empathize with the people he interviews and some of the causes he covers. Greta is cool. Nancy Grace is just the queen of mean, but I'd still like to see her chew up WT and spit them out publically on her show. She's brutal, even to the people she invites to comment on her show. She's a pistol.!!
DannyHazzard Thanks for all the info and website info. It would be cool if Larry King had Barb on his show. He gets to the heart of the matter and asks the good questions.
You know with all the shows being done on the issue of sex offenders not registering and living within communites undetected, I would love to see them bring out the fact that there are just so many of them who were convicted and sentenced prior to Megan's Law and are free not to register. There's a lot of them out there offending and reoffending in their neighborhoods undetected.
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How would Nancy Grace react to Barb Anderson's CD?
by ARoarer ini can just hear her ranting against wt
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Nancy Grace announcing JW's covering for pedophiles...........
Watch out for those Jeeeeehovaaaah Witnesses at your doors, lady's and gentlemen.......
I want to know where are those judges who's lettin out all those molesters in that Jeeeehovaaah Church, going to the doors!!!! Wuuuts Wrong with yeeew people. Aand what about those so called mothers lettin their little Jeeeeehovaaah Witness children knock on those doors????What kind of parents let thier children go to strange doors. Some pedohpile miiiight answer the doooor in his underpants............ Yeees, Ahhh Haaave a Caller on the line.........
Skeeter1- that's an impression of Nancy Grace
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How would Nancy Grace react to Barb Anderson's CD?
by ARoarer ini can just hear her ranting against wt
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I don't think she cares about WT or JW's. I do think she cares when any child is molested and she would probably go off on any religion that took steps to cover it and excommunicate the vicitms for speaking out about it.
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How would Nancy Grace react to Barb Anderson's CD?
by ARoarer ini can just hear her ranting against wt
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She really does care about the pedophile issue and like her or not, your're right, she really would rip WT a new one
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How would Nancy Grace react to Barb Anderson's CD?
by ARoarer ini can just hear her ranting against wt
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Skeeter, I can just hear her going on like a bull dog on a pork chop on old Teddy Jaracz and all the pedophiles in the WT Organization.