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  Can you be D/F in absentia?

  by ScoobySnax in

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  i've often wondered this.

  since being inactive, i smoke and drink like a trouper, have gotten up to various sexual mis-endeavours (lol) and played up generally.

  i'm not all that proud of any of this, just the way my life has gone.

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  Fleur

  I was.

  I even wrote a DA letter first and they still announced it as a DF'ing.

  That's what I got for being the PO's daughter in law I guess...
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  Who here still finds it hard to celebrate Christmas?

  by dh in

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  i was raised a jw and as i've probably said before, i left when i was around 18... i'll be 27 in a few days, and as i get older realise how i do not really know how to celebrate anything.

  being raised a jw we never had xmas or birthdays (or any celebration), and since none of the friends i had when i left the jw's were christian either, i have to this day never celebrated it... i am not christian and will openly admit that i couldn't care less about the religious side of christmas, but what i see around me, everywhere in the world are people who aren't really christian either, celebrating christmas, either for kids or friends or whatever, but i've never done that or had anyone around me to do that with... people look forward to this time of year so much, they buzz and rush around like it's a real event, and to this day i've never been able to feel that way.

  most of my christmas/birthdays since leaving jw's have been spent by myself, completely devoid of celebration, i want to get into that feel good spirit, but i don't know how, and if i try to fake it, i know it is fake.

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  (((((((((((((Candidly)))))))))))))

  I never thought I would do it, but about five years ago I jumped in with both feet and haven't looked back. Here's my take on the subject...http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/81783/1.ashx

  It's not as hard as you think...once you realize that their reasons for not celebrating are totally unjustified; I mean if you're going to give up christmas due to pagan origins than out go the wedding rings too...can't have a little from the table of the devil right? They don't follow their own reasoning.

  Anyway, I'm not religious at all now, but it's about celebrating with the family that I have. Reminds me from a line from the movie Lilo and Stitch where Stitch says "This is my family. I found it on my own. It's little, and broken. But it's still good."

  It's still good, so I celebrate. I hope you can find something to believe in celebrating too.

  hugs

  essie
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  Repost - Disturbing Assembly Program - Obey Organizational Direction

  by truthseeker in

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  sorry about the double post, i had problems with the computer....

  before i go into some parts of the program, here is the program for the following weekend.. .

  circuit assembly program 2004-2005. .

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  Fleur

  Hello Namasti and Eric, I just wanted to give you a little info sorry everybody for the quick side step I will get back to topic in a minute.

  There was a big article last year in the KM about cutting all but the most necessary contact with df'd da'd family members. Or was it end of 2003, (someone help me out here?) The point is that they are more militant than ever about keeping the rank and file away from family who have broken free. You can tell that they feel the draft of people leaving, and they're using fear to keep people in line (as always). I hope that your family doesn't listen to this and keeps seeing you. Welcome to the board, btw, both of you.

  Back on topic, I am much interested to hear what is coming up on that program. It really, really scares me to know that if the day came when they started handing out the 'special' kool-aid that my relatives wouldn't even stop to ask the flavor, they'd just drink it and wait on jehovah for salvation.

  Scares the bejesus out of me.

  ~essie
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  I missed out on my grandfather

  by czarofmischief in

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  thanks to that damnable cult i missed the last few years of my grandfather's life.. he died last year.

  he was a kind man.

  not a jw.

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  Anyway, to all lurkers, this is what your religion is: broken families and lies. GET OUT OF HER MY PEOPLE!!!!

  Awww, Czar. I know how you feel, man. I missed out on a lot of time with my grandmother the last couple years of her life, because the rest of the JW family really let her have it any time she visited me. I wanted her to come live with me when she was sick last year, she knew we would take care of her. She told my mom that of all the grandkids (all the rest of whom are JW) that I was the only one who offered. She knew I loved her with all my heart.

  I'm sure your grandpa knew, too. I'm just so sorry for what you missed...what I missed.

  Get out of her, indeed. She's a wh*re of the worst sort: a homewrecker.

  love,

  essie
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  It's cases like this that make me support the death penalty...

  by Elsewhere in

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  http://www.cnn.com/2004/law/12/20/missouri.fetus/index.html woman accused of stealing baby appears in court

  lisa montgomery charged with kidnapping resulting in death

  kansas city, kansas (cnn) -- lisa montgomery, accused of strangling a 23-year-old missouri woman and cutting the fetus out of her womb, sat motionless monday as a judge read the charge against her in u.s. district court.

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  here's another one that makes me support it whole-heartedly...

  http://www.clickondetroit.com/news/4012276/detail.html
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  Looking for my Japanese mother

  by Billygoat in

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  i've posted about this story in the past, but i've decided to do it again.

  i posted a thread last year with my full name on it and just the other day, realized, when i google myself, that thread comes up.

  i felt like dad had my step-mom and the twin boys had each other.

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  Fleur

  I've written Oprah before for other things...I would be happy to write for this, Andi.

  I just have tears in my eyes. As a mother, I know that your mother must have a whole in her heart not knowing where you are. I just don't believe any woman can have a child and have that child gone from them and not wonder, every single day of their life, where that child is.

  I will PM you a family story of mine that makes me think so (don't want to post it here)

  You are so special. Any mother would be so lucky to call you her daughter. I hope and wish with all my might that somehow, someone will be able to connect you to finding her again.

  PS, your name Kumiko is so beautiful. So beautiful!!! *tears*!

  love

  essie
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  I Love It When The Words Are Wrong..

  by Englishman in

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  my old boss was forever going on about us being careful "not to set any presidents".. hl's friend's ex-hubby needs some surgery on his knee to have "his cartridge removed".

  she's signed an affy-david as part of the divorce process.

  meanwhile he spends his time in night clubs watching the cadbury.. jenny, the pub's landlady, took the quiz a couple of weeks back and questioned us about "far from the maddening crowd".

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  How about "it's a MUTE point" instead of a MOOT point!! that one drives me crazy..

  Another is more of a typing issue....."tomarrow" and "congradulations" ERG......

  I like Joey's version from Friends "It's a Moo point. You know, like a cow's opinion. It doesn't matter." LOL
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  Why did the chickens cross the road?

  by Valis in

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  cuz they were going to see their daddy that's why!

  sincerely,.

  district overbeer

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  Fleur

  Awww, Valis *hugs* tears in my eyes...man I am so emotional this time of year! hubby and I wrapped all the loot for my girlie this weekend, can't wait to see her face...love making her x-mas dreams come true (and then some!) such bliss, such magic.

  Merry, Merry Christmas!!!

  hugs

  essie
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  I Love It When The Words Are Wrong..

  by Englishman in

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  my old boss was forever going on about us being careful "not to set any presidents".. hl's friend's ex-hubby needs some surgery on his knee to have "his cartridge removed".

  she's signed an affy-david as part of the divorce process.

  meanwhile he spends his time in night clubs watching the cadbury.. jenny, the pub's landlady, took the quiz a couple of weeks back and questioned us about "far from the maddening crowd".

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  these are hilarious! I especially enjoyed this:

  Thanks to my mom, I can laugh about 'public' hair!

  my grandma called it that and it cracked me up LOL. My pet peeve word besides "supposably" (non-word!) is "irregardless". NOT a word, people! It's regardless...regardless of how you use it LOL.
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  fell away.......wanna come back...please help.

  by Tiggerchick1012 in

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  ok, so here's the situation.

  i am 24 yrs old.

  married and have 1 child.

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  Fleur

  Tiggerchick, you're always welcome here. Hope you'll take the other posts to heart.

  I was raised in "The Truth". I chose to leave in my 20's not only for my own sake, but the sake of my child, too. She has a mind of her own now, and is growing up free from the restraint of fear and guilt. You know, guilt is a terrible motivator. Jesus didn't use guilt to motivate his disciples. To me, faith should enhance your life and be about making you happier and stronger. Please think about that before you decide what is really best for you, your marriage, and your child's future.

  My child has two things that my JW parent's couldn't give me: choices, and unconditional love. Those, I wouldn't trade for the blessing of any man-made organization.

  Wishing you health and happiness,

  hugs

  essie