Yes it very much depends on who you are on how a DF is handled. When I was 19 I decided I could no longer go door to door and
moved about 12 miles away to a house with worldly high school friends. I attended a few meetings to begin with and then no more.
It wasn't until about 2 years later the elders from my old congregation showed up at my door unannounced saying "they wanted to talk to me".
Of course my mother gave them the address since there is no way anyone else would have known. There was a big party at the house
when they showed up and so that gave them all the fuel they needed to DF me. However I never received any notification, my mother had to
tell me. My cousin was able to walk away with no consequences and marry an unbeliever (someone she had met 3 months prior) and no elders
stalking her looking for any excuse to DF her. To this day she isn't DF and this was 35 years ago. I'll never understand that at all. She was the
one that told me you could "leave the witnesses anytime you wanted". Well it worked for her but not for me.