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  hi everyone :)

  by jojochan in

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  just wanted to drop a line and say "hi".

  i too am a long time lurker that "came out" sort of speaking.

  (' bout 2 yrs!

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  AuntieJane

  Welcome, and may you enjoy your newfound freedoms, step by step!

  AJ
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  I'M GETTING REALLY FORGETFUL

  by Mary in

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  i swear to god, i'm getting alzheimers even though i'm still pretty young (late 30s).

  my mind wanders alot (it always has) and i forget things.......hell the other day i put the jam in the bottom of the stove because my mind was wandering.......

  anyone else think they've got alzheimers?

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  AuntieJane

  I know that stress can totally throw me out of whack as far as remembering things. I also know that I find myself

  listening to people talking directly at me and seeming to follow their conversation...but I know I am not listening

  because I am thinking of other things (like my sister's illness, my mother's condition, etc.). I hate that but I just

  find I tune others out lately. That kind of scares me but I think it is the stress.
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  Guilt book by Dr Laura

  by AuntieJane in

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  i know she can be a b*tch herself, but she does shell out some good sense and i think she has helped a lot of people.. might be interesting for exjw's and others to contact her w. their stories.

  i think if she is overwhelmed w. the stories of.

  exjws she would speak about it on her show; what a good way to let the innocents know what a hurtful org this is.. from her website, www.drlaura.com.

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  AuntieJane

  You don't have to like her, but this might be a good way to get some important words out.
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  Guilt book by Dr Laura

  by AuntieJane in

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  i know she can be a b*tch herself, but she does shell out some good sense and i think she has helped a lot of people.. might be interesting for exjw's and others to contact her w. their stories.

  i think if she is overwhelmed w. the stories of.

  exjws she would speak about it on her show; what a good way to let the innocents know what a hurtful org this is.. from her website, www.drlaura.com.

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  AuntieJane

  I know she can be a b*tch herself, but she does shell out some good sense and I think she has helped a lot of people.

  Might be interesting for exJW's and others to contact her w. their stories. I think if she is overwhelmed w. the stories of

  exJWs she would speak about it on her show; what a good way to let the innocents know what a hurtful org this is.

  From her website, www.drlaura.com

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  im hurt, desperate, confused and considering this religion - advice?

  by very_confused in

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  like the subject title says, i'm hurt, desperate and confused and don't know what to do anymore.

  i'm so desperate to have something to live for that i'm considering converting to something like the jehovah's witnesses.

  i know this might seem a bit extreme but please hear me out.

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  AuntieJane

  I am glad to see you back on the board; I have been worried about you You were dealt an awful hand, having a mother who was a psycho/(sorry, but the word seems to fit)...however, you are blessed because inspite of your upbringing, you are a wise and caring person who knows she needs some help in this world! How great is that. We all need help, in all different ways. We all didn't have a terrible parent like you, but we all need guidance throughout our lives. I am glad you came to this board.

  I would not suggest you go to an AA meeting, although I do see the correlation; the AA is a private group, open to those with alcoholic related problems. Is there some group listed in your local newspaper that is appealing? Here in the US there are all kinds of listings in the classified ads for group meetings. I am glad you saw a counselor.

  Please keep working on yourself; I think you are doing fine. It takes time, this growing up business.

  pm me if you feel so inclined.

  Peace,

  AuntieJane
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  Desiderata

  by darkuncle29 in

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  desiderata .

  go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

  as far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

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  AuntieJane

  Ah, thanks for the memory. This was put to music, of sorts, back in the 70's; I found a framed print of it not too

  long ago and hung it on my spare bedroom wall. It gets lots of nice comments.

  Have a listen: http://www.kamahl.com/desiderata.html

  AJ
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  What Advice Would You Like To Give JWs And Potential Ones?

  by minimus in

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  anything you'd like to say???

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  AuntieJane

  Welcome biloxi girl...So, did your husband listen to you and is he out as well?

  What I would say: If you value every freedom that you have, run, don't walk, because those freedoms will be stifled, and you will be damaged for life because of it.

  AuntieJ
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  im hurt, desperate, confused and considering this religion - advice?

  by very_confused in

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  like the subject title says, i'm hurt, desperate and confused and don't know what to do anymore.

  i'm so desperate to have something to live for that i'm considering converting to something like the jehovah's witnesses.

  i know this might seem a bit extreme but please hear me out.

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  AuntieJane

  Hello very, and welcome. Look at all the friends you have found here

  You sound like a very caring person, sometimes those that care so much...care too much. Do you get what I'm saying? There really is such a thing as caring too much. We need to stay more balanced, on what is important: a simple hello to your neighbor, a smile to the custodian, etc. etc. Having communications with everyone we encounter takes the focus off of ourselves, which is a good thing, too.

  I am glad you are getting help in the way of medication, but I strongly suggest you try calling another therapist w/out a 2 month long waiting list! There is surely a community area mental health clinic where you live. Go to the phone book and call; look up some 800#s online.

  I have posted here b4 that I have 2 now grown daughters who both dealt with depression and sought therapy for it. This was in their teens and 20's. One major factor is getting exercise. It is true that being physical helps the mental self too. If you are hidden away in your room, I beg you please to make yourself get up and do some runs in place, stretches, put on some music you like, and move your body for 20 minutes at least once a day, more is better!

  Lastly...I am so glad you came here and are not going to take the JW route. Talk about depression I am a Catholic myself and would urge you to stop in at Mass if you are so inclined; and your local church, or at least its diocese office, will have support that you can call for counseling, I am sure of that. Don't hesitate. I was going to suggest you contact Jeff Schwemm, so I was glad to see his post above mine. He is a good man and someone you can talk to. You came to this board for help; I think you are in the right place!

  Feel free to pm me anytime; I am a Mom, always enjoy talking to another 'daughter'....

  Peace,

  AuntieJane
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  Thought I Was Out Of The Woods

  by DocHayes in

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  well today i was having lunch with my mother, who is inactive, and hasn't been to the hall in a couple of years.

  recently she's been hounded by the elders, because of all of the christmas decorations.

  even though she hasn't disassociated herself, and she won't because she doesn't want to alienate herself from her family, she attends another church.

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  AuntieJane

  Gretchen said what I was thinking...her brother has moved along but doesn't say anything bad about JWs. I think that is

  rather common. Be patient with your mom if you care about her.

  AuntieJane a/k/a Another Mom
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  Thought I Was Out Of The Woods

  by DocHayes in

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  well today i was having lunch with my mother, who is inactive, and hasn't been to the hall in a couple of years.

  recently she's been hounded by the elders, because of all of the christmas decorations.

  even though she hasn't disassociated herself, and she won't because she doesn't want to alienate herself from her family, she attends another church.

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  AuntieJane

  I must say I agree w. wednesday. Leave it alone. Even apologize as best you can. Why alienate yourself from your mother

  over this? I think a lot of ex JW's want to deny it being a cult for many reasons. If they have moved on, however, that is

  a good thing. I hope you'll consider leaving it rest and be thankful your mom is out. Life is too short.