Posts by AuntieJane

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im hurt, desperate, confused and considering this religion - advice?

by very_confused in

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like the subject title says, i'm hurt, desperate and confused and don't know what to do anymore.

i'm so desperate to have something to live for that i'm considering converting to something like the jehovah's witnesses.

i know this might seem a bit extreme but please hear me out.

AuntieJane

Hello very, and welcome. Look at all the friends you have found here

You sound like a very caring person, sometimes those that care so much...care too much. Do you get what I'm saying? There really is such a thing as caring too much. We need to stay more balanced, on what is important: a simple hello to your neighbor, a smile to the custodian, etc. etc. Having communications with everyone we encounter takes the focus off of ourselves, which is a good thing, too.

I am glad you are getting help in the way of medication, but I strongly suggest you try calling another therapist w/out a 2 month long waiting list! There is surely a community area mental health clinic where you live. Go to the phone book and call; look up some 800#s online.

I have posted here b4 that I have 2 now grown daughters who both dealt with depression and sought therapy for it. This was in their teens and 20's. One major factor is getting exercise. It is true that being physical helps the mental self too. If you are hidden away in your room, I beg you please to make yourself get up and do some runs in place, stretches, put on some music you like, and move your body for 20 minutes at least once a day, more is better!

Lastly...I am so glad you came here and are not going to take the JW route. Talk about depression I am a Catholic myself and would urge you to stop in at Mass if you are so inclined; and your local church, or at least its diocese office, will have support that you can call for counseling, I am sure of that. Don't hesitate. I was going to suggest you contact Jeff Schwemm, so I was glad to see his post above mine. He is a good man and someone you can talk to. You came to this board for help; I think you are in the right place!

Feel free to pm me anytime; I am a Mom, always enjoy talking to another 'daughter'....

Peace,

AuntieJane

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Thought I Was Out Of The Woods

by DocHayes in

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well today i was having lunch with my mother, who is inactive, and hasn't been to the hall in a couple of years.

recently she's been hounded by the elders, because of all of the christmas decorations.

even though she hasn't disassociated herself, and she won't because she doesn't want to alienate herself from her family, she attends another church.

AuntieJane

Gretchen said what I was thinking...her brother has moved along but doesn't say anything bad about JWs. I think that is

rather common. Be patient with your mom if you care about her.

AuntieJane a/k/a Another Mom

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Thought I Was Out Of The Woods

by DocHayes in

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well today i was having lunch with my mother, who is inactive, and hasn't been to the hall in a couple of years.

recently she's been hounded by the elders, because of all of the christmas decorations.

even though she hasn't disassociated herself, and she won't because she doesn't want to alienate herself from her family, she attends another church.

AuntieJane

I must say I agree w. wednesday. Leave it alone. Even apologize as best you can. Why alienate yourself from your mother

over this? I think a lot of ex JW's want to deny it being a cult for many reasons. If they have moved on, however, that is

a good thing. I hope you'll consider leaving it rest and be thankful your mom is out. Life is too short.

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For those of you born in.....

by lonelysheep in

i want to say how brave i think all of you are for stepping out of the jw's, even if it's hidden (those of you still going).

whenever witnesses would knock on our door, i always felt they were ok and just worshipping god in the way they felt was right.

i never knew it came with soooo much stress and shunning if one does not comply.

AuntieJane

Good post. I don't think the majority of householders have a clue as to the harm that is done by the 'religion' followed by

those nice people who knock on their door. If they only knew.....I do my part to let everyone know there is so much more

to the teachings than the blood ban and holiday thing. So much more. People need to be educated.

I, too, commend all you who were born in and had no choice...I am amazed at those who come from generations of JWs, and

are able to break free of the chains.

Peace,

AuntieJ

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ok why havent we got the truth?

by PMJ in

ok as you have gathered im a wittness and i for one beleave we have the truth.not saying every thing is or has all ways been right because we live in a imperfect world with imperfect people.but as far as jehovah being god and jesus being his son.and the coming war of arrmegeddon.i would say we have the truth.i no about all the mistakes and misunderstandings we have had in the past.but i feel that is past and we have moved on.and abandoned i no what you all say about the year 607 being wrong but that date all deapends on it desolation was 70 years or not.so im just trying to understand how some of you say you lernt you was being lied to?

AuntieJane

PMJ, you said to me : thank you for that and i tottaly agree but you don' totally agree.

See, the method I told you about, the KISS method...does not require you to search and figure

dates, etc. All it requires is your simple faith in God, in Jesus Christ; and your following the

rules that they gave us. Read Matthew, the Sermon on the Mount. All the principles we need are

there. WE DO NOT NEED TO FIGURE DATES AND TIMES ETC. Loving your neighbor and God

encompasses everything we need. By loving them both, we will act the way we need to and we will

be with God forever after. No where did Jesus teach us about blood issues or figuring dates!

Be true to yourself and open your mind,

Peace.

AJ

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ok why havent we got the truth?

by PMJ in

ok as you have gathered im a wittness and i for one beleave we have the truth.not saying every thing is or has all ways been right because we live in a imperfect world with imperfect people.but as far as jehovah being god and jesus being his son.and the coming war of arrmegeddon.i would say we have the truth.i no about all the mistakes and misunderstandings we have had in the past.but i feel that is past and we have moved on.and abandoned i no what you all say about the year 607 being wrong but that date all deapends on it desolation was 70 years or not.so im just trying to understand how some of you say you lernt you was being lied to?

AuntieJane

PMJ, you said : thank you for that and i tottaly agree but you don' totally agree.

See, the method I told you about, the KISS method...does not require you to search and figure

dates, etc. All it requires is your simple faith in God, in Jesus Christ; and your following the

rules that they gave us. Read Matthew, the Sermon on the Mount. All the principles we need are

there. WE DO NOT NEED TO FIGURE DATES AND TIMES ETC. Loving your neighbor and God

encompasses everything we need. By loving them both, we will act the way we need to and we will

be with God forever after. No where did Jesus teach us about blood issues or figuring dates!

Be true to yourself and open your mind,

Peace.

AJ

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ok why havent we got the truth?

by PMJ in

ok as you have gathered im a wittness and i for one beleave we have the truth.not saying every thing is or has all ways been right because we live in a imperfect world with imperfect people.but as far as jehovah being god and jesus being his son.and the coming war of arrmegeddon.i would say we have the truth.i no about all the mistakes and misunderstandings we have had in the past.but i feel that is past and we have moved on.and abandoned i no what you all say about the year 607 being wrong but that date all deapends on it desolation was 70 years or not.so im just trying to understand how some of you say you lernt you was being lied to?

AuntieJane

You know, I believe in the KISS method of religion. Keep It Simple Stupid. Even Jesus made it simple for us,

"Love one another as I have loved you". This is my problem with the teachings of the WTS. The Bible is

not a complex book for us to try to figure out the dates, etc. It is a guide for good living. The Truth? Even

Jesus told us that "I am the Way, the Truth and the Life. He who believes in me will have life everlasting."

That is the truth that I adhere to.

Your comments, pmj ?

Peace,

AuntieJane

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Anyone send this link to a JW?

by AuntieJane in

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just wondering if anyone has sent this website to a jw and if so, was there any positive response?

or, did anyone receive a link when they were a jw and if so, how did you react?

AuntieJane

Good for you Stilla. Being strong and outspoken is the best approach, in my opinion. You give me encouragement to do the same.

AJ

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how do they pick and choose churches?

by gspradling in

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is this what most jws believe?

my jw mom would not go to my wedding in a methodist church because she said that my wife and her family attended that church, but when my daughter got married she said it was ok for her to go into the church my daughter was getting married at because neither my daughter or her husband attended church there.

what is the difference?

AuntieJane

Who knows...they pick and choose as their 'conscience' allows them. Their guilt-ridden JW taught conscience.

The saddest connection I have with this is that my brother, NOT a JW, not attending any church, died suddenly and

having been born Catholic, was given a Catholic funeral. His JW son and daughter (both who entered the JW's in

their 20's on their own)...stood by the door of the church during the entire service (which was very nice and many

family and friends spoke of my brother, their dad, and said many good things. But these 2 and their kids stood like

soldiers observing, from a distance. The fear of Satan, I suppose; I say it was Satan himself who put them there.

Whatever! The hurt inflicted by the WTS at times like this is too much.

AJ

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Anyone send this link to a JW?

by AuntieJane in

jw
friends

just wondering if anyone has sent this website to a jw and if so, was there any positive response?

or, did anyone receive a link when they were a jw and if so, how did you react?

AuntieJane

Hi Becka, how did your Christmas go? I hope you don't waste too much more of your life with a JW who boldly tells you hates Christmas. Truly, how can you love someone who has no sensitivity toward your feelings? Sorry, didn't mean to come off so harshly but I'd seen your first posts (my daughter dated a non-baptized JW too...dated, past tense)...and as a "mom" I can't help but give you my opinion!

Think about it. The only reason to date someone should be to see if they are the one you'd want to spend the rest of your life with. He has already shown himself to be insensitive to what you are all about. And he wants to have sex. How nice. He's playing with you, imo. You sound way too sweet and caring to lose these precious months, years of your life to someone who has stifled his sensitivities due to cult-teachings. I pity people like him, but have come to realize most of them don't know how to get out of the thinking they've learned and in the meantime they just hurt others who care about them.