well our fade seemed to be going along pretty smoothly even with the slight hitch of having to attend the memorial .
then this weekend good old mother in law who lives a thousand miles away , and talks to us once every few months , called, on speaker phone no less .
i know she has informats here and she has been dropping hints for months that she knows something is up , but she never comes out and just asks .
You are an adult and have adult children....they have made their choices. Yet... You would still allow this woman to rattle you like this?
Here's something you said earlier:
I will no longer feel guilty about following my own conscience...... .....period. GET OVER IT; you owe her absolutely NO explanation, no discussion on anything. Stay strong! Shalom, AuntieJane
my dream trip is just around the corner!
we will be there the first of april.
i cannot wait to.
My dream trip is just around the corner! We will be there the first of April. I cannot wait to
see the beautiful Ireland countryside, hit the pubs, hear the music....find the pot of gold
and knock down a few whiskey shots or glasses of brew at the pubs. Life is too short to
say "I wish I would have....."
i am reposting the major part of another thread "need computer help" because i am really looking for advice a situation with my husband.
i need to know if i am crazy to be worried.
so here it is.... ok, since i seem to be getting responses from guys and there's no way anyone i know will see this,i will tell you the story.
Yikes poor girl. You must feel betrayed again. If everything else is really as good as you say it is;
I think the best thing to do is let him know you found out again. Then proceed to call a marriage counselor
and get some counselling in the matter. Obviously, what you thought was working is not. He is not being
upfront with you. What concerns me, besides the S&M and bondage stuff...(to each his own I guess) is his
dishonesty, hiding it. He needs to face reality; don't let him put any blame on you either. I'd tell him I am
calling a marriage counselor. If you do have such a solid bond as you think, you both will only grow from the
experience. Otherwise, be prepared for this wedge to grow wider. Just my 2Cents. Good luck.
After I posted, I recalled something worth sharing. A long time friend of mine has a JW sister,
actually all her family took up w. the Jdubs as adults, except for her. She was having a hard time dealing with all their rules about not celebrating birthdays, etc. One day we mentioned that our birthdays were only one day apart, and 2 other friends of ours have April birthday as well. Thus we formed the "Birthday Sisters" group. We have met every year, sometime in April, to celebrate; usually with a lunch, sometimes shopping, sometimes attending a special event, or whatever comes up. We each take turns, and it is sometimes the only time during the year that we all get together. But we share each others' family crises and concerns throughout the year via emails and phone calls. We have been celebrating for 23 years now! YIKES! BUT, isn't that awesome, something good sprang from the JW cult effects.
Happy Birthday to all birthday brothers and sisters, especially those celebrating for the FIRST TIME~
Happy First Birthday coming up! You deserve the best day of your LIFE! People at work are
usually up for helping with any excuse for a celebration, so I think you have the right group!
Do they know you used to be JW...I'm sure they will really plan a good one for ya!
Keep us posted!
Auntie Jane (also an April Birthday "girl'...a few years ahead of you, though But, hey, that beats the alternative anytime
my mom had died on december 9, 2005. she had been loyal to that religion for 35 years.
she had been in a nursing home for the last two years.
some of the old ladies would come and mom would still write a letter to a "not at home" once and awhile.
Hi Dave, I am sorry for your loss; my own mother will be 90 this year. I know it will be hard when she passes, although it is a good many years.
Read my profile. I was not a JW but my brother had 2 adult children who chose to be JW's. At his Catholic funeral (he died suddenly at 63 yoa); they and their kids, my brother's precious grandkids, stood at the entrance of the church, did not come into the sanctuary and join with the rest of the family. It was so obvious and hurtful.
I didn't say anything to them at the time, because my sister in law was grieving and has done very well at keeping their relationship and accepting their so-called faith. But I learned a lot on this board about their beliefs, and begain emailling my nephew w. questions. I finally got up the nerve to ask him why they did that, and let him know that I was hurt by their actions. He seemed surprised...and answered in typical JW rhetoric, about hoping his dad is at the resurrection. It was obvious that there were many faiths present at his father's funeral, people who cared about him and the family enough that came together to show their love. I wished I hadn't waited so long. I will not hesitate to question any JW who might do such a hurtful thing if anything like this happens again. I think you should question them. You might simply ask why, tell them you missed having them be there for your mom's memory...Then, whatever they reply, let them know that you are aware that their JW teachings probably prevented them from attending. They need to know that We know...they think all their reasons are the best....then remind them that Jesus told us, in Matthew, " Where 2 or more gather in my name, I am there in their midst." It's too bad they just don't get it. Sad. And they call themselves Christians. You don't follow Christ and not live the gospel, esp. at times like funerals, etc.
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
MrJG, welcome and I want you to know I'm praying for you in this situation. Your wife and you are communicating and while that is a good thing, it is difficult, esp due to her JW cult trained mind.
I never was a JW but spent many hours learning about them due to family involvment; and my daughter dated a non-baptized JW. Thank God I was able to show him the light. He still has so many hang-ups, though and is kind of a sad person, in my opinion.
I do commend you on your faith and belief in Christ; I truly believe that prayer helps lead us through knowing how to deal with this JW stuff. I learned about the Holy Spirit's guidance and gift of wisdom and I prayed for his help; I know God gave me the strength to be able to show him the right passages. If you want me to tell you more, you can IM me anytime. There are many on this board who will be helpful to you.
Shalom,
AuntieJane
the story is beyond excellent.
every line is so well crafted and the story, published in the new yorker magazine in 1997, is much more than two young men falling in love.
one of the major themes of the movie is fear.
You are right! There is a correlation.
What disgusted me most about the movie was the deceit.
They chose to deceive the women who loved them...just as the JW's
are taught to deceive those they love.
im fading, and some of my family now realize we arent going to meetings.
everytime they phone or speak to me me, they keep reminding ( threatning) that the end is so close, dont give up now.. i just dont know how to respond, i know so much, but dont want to go into the un stuff yet ( dont want to sound apostate just yet) how can i say i dont believe the end is close !
that armageddon isnt iminent, what scripture can i use to back it up.
Awesome words, jgnat. Keep it simple vitty, you'll do fine. You're on the right track and that is the
important thing!
Peace,
AJ
im fading, and some of my family now realize we arent going to meetings.
everytime they phone or speak to me me, they keep reminding ( threatning) that the end is so close, dont give up now.. i just dont know how to respond, i know so much, but dont want to go into the un stuff yet ( dont want to sound apostate just yet) how can i say i dont believe the end is close !
that armageddon isnt iminent, what scripture can i use to back it up.
Isn't it sad that people really have to have division over these things? I think it is almost 99% effortless to try and argue w. a JW about the Bible. However, there are lots of good points made here.
I'd suggest reading Matthew and just being bolstered in confidence by knowing that Jesus wasn't referring to this generation anymore than he was referring to the last generation, or the next. The main point of it all is that we do always have to be prepared, in our hearts, and to live good lives because we never know when the end is.
Peace,
AJ
