Posts by MZINDEPENDENT

Here's a good one for you. A year and a half ago, (while I am still not attending the meetings mind you) this guy that worked for me developed a crush on me. He happened to be studying at the time and his brother was an elder. He told his brother that he and I were having a fling and this is while I am still married and living with my ex.

The guys brother searched high and low to figure out which congregation I belonged to and told them that I was having an affair with his brother. When the elders called me, I go no I am not having an affair with him and furthermore have you seen this guy? The guy was ugly. (sorry if I offended anyone, but the guy was just butt ugly). A year after that I find out that this particular elder was having an affair with his secretary, who also happened to be a witness at the same time he was searching high and low to find out who my elders were so that he could tell on me.

So then they tried something else, my ex told them that I got drunk one night and he had to come and pick me up. My daughter happened to be in the car when he picked me up and they tried to use her as the second witness. When someone probably told them they were idiots for even suggesting this tactic, they left me alone for a few months and once my ex told them we were divorced they started harrassing me again.

I hate them terribly and they know it too!

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FORMER ELDERS CAN YOU PLEASE HELP??

by MZINDEPENDENT in

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friends

hello, i am writing because i was disfellowshipped a week and a half ago.

i have not been to the meeting in over two and a half years.

you would think they would leave me alone.

MZINDEPENDENT

You guys thanks so much for ALL of the responses. I really do appreciate it!!

Hear is the deal, as many of you still have questions. I suppose I did leave out some important information. Like the elders did try and contact. Once, they came to my house at 700am and I didn't open the door. If I were in good standing I wouldn't open the door at 7am. Another time they came to my door dressed in black trench coats carrying what my Nanny called walkie talkies. She thought they were from the IRS, because I don't take taxes out of her pay, it frightened her and she quit. Even though I tried calming her down several times and telling her that it wasn't the IRS she, it was to no avail. They asked her questions such as how does she pay you and are lot of people running in and out of this house. (so now I run a brothel, too...give me a break) I was totally livid when she told me about the questions they asked her. When I called the elder back and confronted him on it, he lied and said they never asked her those questions. So I just hung up on him.

The next time they tried contacting me was via a certified letter and I responded back and told him that I would be in Miami on that day. The final contact I had with them was over the phone, when he starts telling me that the one witness they had against me was my exhusband and the next witness was someone else I had confessed to, which I never did confess to either person at all. So he starts taunting me with this second person and I go well if you have everything you need, why do you keep calling me. I told him he was a bold faced liar and that his days as an elder were numbered and hung up on him.

I went away to Florida again and when I returned, low and behold they disfellowshipped me. I never once said that I wouldn't meet with anyone, I did say that I didn't want to meet with those elders because I can't stand them and I also said where were you when both my ex and I stopped attending meetings. They never came around then. But as soon as they hear something bad that someone has done they come running. I go you need to concentrate on the individuals that are hanging out at bars and are still "in good standing".

So that probably really pissed them off. There is my story and I hope that has helped to fill in some of the gaps. Thanks again for your help and any further input is greatly appreciated.

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hello again!

by pudd in

jw
friends

after i stopped going to meetings about a year ago this place was a real life saver.

i would come here every day just to know i was not alone and preserve a small amount of sanity.

in that time i got to know a number of you and i realy don?t know how i would have got though this time with out you!

MZINDEPENDENT

Hello,

I too am very interested in BiPolar disorder. I have a nanny that is suffering through it. I like her very much, but sometimes she makes me very nervous, when I suspect she isn't taking her medicine.

I am sorry to hear you are not feeling very well these days, but I do hope that you will get better soon.

Love,

MzIndependent

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FORMER ELDERS CAN YOU PLEASE HELP??

by MZINDEPENDENT in

jw
friends

hello, i am writing because i was disfellowshipped a week and a half ago.

i have not been to the meeting in over two and a half years.

you would think they would leave me alone.

MZINDEPENDENT

Hello, I am writing because I was disfellowshipped a week and a half ago. I have not been to the meeting in over two and a half years. You would think they would leave me alone. I was not bothering them or contaminating there congregations because I didn't go anymore. But these particular elders have been on a witch hunt when it comes to me. I didn't know I had been read off, until my ex husband told me "you know they read you off last Thursday"? I go nope, I had no idea.

I am pissed because for one the second person they are saying I confessed to, I never did confess to, second they took away my right to appeal and thirdly they never notified me in person that I would be disfellowshipped and I was told by the society when I called there this morning that they are supposed to notify me in person.

When I called the society this morning I was told to contact the elders and notify them of the above and that they are to contact the society regarding this matter for further instructions.

I am writing to find out if anyone knows what happens after my elders contact the society and I want to also know if I have grounds for a lawsuit.

I am sure that being disfellowshipped is probably the best thing for me, but its still very difficult to deal with especially when you consider the way things took place. I didn't want to be disfellowshipped because of my daughter who still attends the meeting with her dad and if she marries one of those assholes, I would like to attend her wedding. Plus I still had a few friends in there too.

Please help, any advice would be appreciated.

~MzIndependent