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  I think I did it!

  by freeman in

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  i believe i have set the wheels in motion for what i believe will lead to my disfellowshiping.

  i have been inactive since 1987 and still getting along with the witnesses (invited to gatherings etc.

  ) but something came up that finally push my buttons just enough to make me explode.

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  Okay I think I have read enough about shunning being a "good" thing. First of all it is morally wrong and does nothing good. It breaks down families.
  Some of you justify shunning of ones that have done wrong, okay I will not dispute you about that, even though I think shunning for any reason is wrong. But what about those of us who just wanted out because we saw the hatred and discrimination in the Borg.
  My husband and I did nothing wrong we just wrote a letter stating that we did not agree with the organizations way of doing things. No fornication, no drugs, drinking, smoking. Nothing. Yet we are shunned by our families. I have not spoken to my parents for 5 years. I now have a 3 year old boy and he will never know his grandparents because they choose to follow this ridiculous form of "punishment". You can argue all you want, but I had a breakdown about a year ago because I was so devastated by their decision and did not have the strength to go on. Luckily I recieved help professionally and from friends. I am making it, but I still have to figure out what to tell my child when he starts asking about his grandparents.
  I usually dont speak up, but this thread caught my eye and I feel very strongly against shunning, for good reasons.

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  When and where baptized

  by drahcir yarrum in

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  i thought it might be interesting to see how many here remember where and when they were baptised into the borg.

  for some the memory may be too painful, but i'm curious.. me.

  it was 1966 in vancouver, bc.

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  Hey AMarie,

  October 3 is not unlucky for some people, its my Birthday for one thing. Also 1992 was the year I got married, I was 21 and the year I slowly started moving away from the Organization. That date just caught my eye.

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  Question on anger

  by claudia in

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  hello everyone, i was wondering how those of you who are so angry .

  deal with your anger?

  i at times am consumed with anger at the wts, and to those who will tell me to just move on, well i did move on but its not so easy to totally dismiss everything when you still have family there.

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  It took me 5 years to work through my anger. You have to allow yourself the time to be angry, but have the goal in mind to get over it or the anger will consume your life and limit your current relationships. It may even destroy them, as it nearly did mine.

  Once I got past the anger(not saying I dont still feel the hurt and anger at times) It made my life so much happier. It actually felt as if something was physically lifted off my shoulders.

  I had alot to be angry about. I am shunned by both parents, parents-in-law and a sister. As well as numerous so called "friends". I know what some of you are going through and anger is all a part of it. As well as confusion and a sense of loss. Let me know if any of you want to just "talk". I am here to help and support in anyway I can.

  Babykins
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  When and where baptized

  by drahcir yarrum in

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  i thought it might be interesting to see how many here remember where and when they were baptised into the borg.

  for some the memory may be too painful, but i'm curious.. me.

  it was 1966 in vancouver, bc.

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  February 1987, Indianapolis, Indiana Circuit Assembly. I was a very naive 16 years old. Had only studied for 2 years. Wish I would have known better what I was getting myself into. My sister got baptized at the same assembly. She is still a JW. Guess she is the "good one".LOL

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  Suggestions, please re ``placing'' free COCs

  by Room 215 in

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  a friend and i have come across a quantity of crisis of conscience in like-new condition, both english and italian editions.

  we're in a quandary as to how to make best use of them.

  we were thinking of donating them to the libraries or to perhaps cut a deal wth a local christian book store.

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  I just saw this thread and thought I would give a suggestion. As a JW child I loved to read. Anything. I even looked up some info on Religions in school, but there wasnt much on JWs. If COC was at the school library I probably would have read it and kept it from my parents. It sure would have saved me about 5 or 6 years of wasted life.

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  ? for any who has been an Ex-JW for many years

  by Babykins in

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  i voluntarily dissasociated myself about 5 1/2 years ago.

  i did not know anything about the things on the internet i just had a feeling that something was not right and i needed to exercise my right to be free and make free decisions.

  how happy i was that a year after i dissasociated myself i got on the internet and found a wealth of information and a heck of alot of encouragement.. anyway my question is to those who have been out and free before the days of the internet.

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  Thank you all for your responses.

  I agree with Dan. The witnesses are harmful and destructive, just like any other cult you read about. Just because they havent taken peoples lives in a great number all at once the public does not notice the many lives that have been lost.

  I am trying to do all I can to make people aware of this religious cult. I really like the idea of putting it in the paper. Wouldnt that wake the society up?

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  ? for any who has been an Ex-JW for many years

  by Babykins in

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  i voluntarily dissasociated myself about 5 1/2 years ago.

  i did not know anything about the things on the internet i just had a feeling that something was not right and i needed to exercise my right to be free and make free decisions.

  how happy i was that a year after i dissasociated myself i got on the internet and found a wealth of information and a heck of alot of encouragement.. anyway my question is to those who have been out and free before the days of the internet.

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  I voluntarily dissasociated myself about 5 1/2 years ago. I did not know anything about the things on the internet I just had a feeling that something was not right and I needed to exercise my right to be free and make free decisions. How happy I was that a year after I dissasociated myself I got on the internet and found a wealth of information and a heck of alot of encouragement.

  Anyway my question is to those who have been out and free before the days of the internet. How did you get the information out to the people in congregations and to the public? I am just wondering how I can help to warn people of this cult. I am already talking to all my friends and telling them what has happened to me. Most of them cannot believe that an organization like that really exists in this day that would actually encourage people to shun their families.

  I was just being curious and thought I would also take this opprotunity to say hello to all. I have been reading the posts for about two weeks and liked what I saw here.

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  Conditional love

  by noidea in

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  being raised a jw sometimes you feel you only know conditional love.

  you are only loved if you tow the line.

  i only have one thing to say,.

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  Shaneliza,

  When I saw your post I just had to reply. I am in sympathy with you. I to have been shunned by my mother, father and sister. My mother was not there when I had my son and she has only seen pictures of him. He is three and does not and will not know her unless she changes. I refuse to take the blame for their actions. A year ago I wrote them both a letter stating that they would be as if dead to me until they decided to accept me as I am. I am not in the wrong here. I have unconditional love for them, I do not care what religion they are. All I want is to have my parents back. But I will not sacrifice my freedom or my right to choose a diffrent path. It has not been easy and more than once I have almost lost my resolve. Love makes us do many strange things.

  *two roads diverge in the woods. And I took the one less traveled by-Robert Frost
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  Ugly Clothes is it a rule???

  by tattoogrl333 in

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  ok last post before me and my pillow get together.

  so what is the dress code of jw.

  i notice a lot of long skirts, and dresses.

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  Tina,

  I had forgotten all about the SUBJECTION thing. Been out for 5 1/2 years now. My grandmother had to conduct the meeting before going out in service one time. There was an unbaptized brother there so she had to cover her head. No one had a hat so she put a tissue on her head. I cant believe I had forgotten all about that until you mentioned the covering of ones head.

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  TatooGrrl and Her Tats - A Question

  by Stephanus in

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  the mention by tattoogrrl of her tattoos and the discomfort they seem to produce in the r&f around her prompted these questions:.

  *would the tats be considered to be a possible stumbling block to those "weak in the faith"?.

  *if she gets baptised, will pressure be put on her to have them removed?.

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  Babykins

  I have been reading the discussions for about 2 weeks now. I just joined the forum and would like to add my 2 cents.
  My father had tatoos when we started studying with JW's. They even let him get baptized without covering them.
  My concern is not for tatoo girls loss of the tatoos, but her loss of identity and the right to choose.
  I will share more about myself later. If anyone wants to email me feel free. I love to chat.

  Babykins