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  can an unhappy married woman vent?

  by sowhatnow in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i continue to be saddened by the fact that i am married to such a selfish man.. i want to know if i am the only wife who has no say when it comes to using the house she lives in for activities including other people.. .

  let me explain.. yesterday my daugher who is 35 got a new puppy for my grandaughter who is 13. today my daughter and son in law are going to help my uncle at a job, and my granddaughter wanted to spend the day here, my daugher said shed bring her and the puppy over, i laughed and said 'your dad wont have that, ill have to go to your house'.. after all it will 'upset' the 2 cats they will hide all day [like they do anytime someone including my grandchild is in my home] .. i already knew that he would not like it if she brought the puppy over, [weve had dogs so its not like he hates them].

  he doesnt care if his grandaughter would have enjoyed playing with the puppy over grandmas house, where she likes to be for a change, and that fact that id like to see what my cats would do when they saw a dog for the first time in thier lives.. maybe id have liked to play with the puppy .. when i said to my husband that my daughter said she wanted tp bring them over he said.

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  Terry

  I married four times.

  I divorced four times.

  Finally--when it was too late--I figured out what was going on. That's a long learning curve.

  I'll simply share my conclusions and you can take them or leave them as you are moved to do so.

  I've been to a dozen therapists and fought all of them. Why? Being a man I could never shake loose of the singular

  notion I AM RIGHT. But, guess what? I seldom was.

  When your fundamental premise is wrong--you'll build everything else on top of that foundation.

  Good luck and be strong! What follows is my life's take-away wisdom.

  1.Sooner or later, every evolved creature has to decide what their own nature amounts to.

  Are we trees or dogs? Dogs pee on trees, so better choose wisely.

  2. In every relationship, if it is going to last, somebody has to eat the shit sandwich. Why?

  Because the one who loves the most will be dominated by the one who loves the least. So then, why

  choose that diet in exchange for longevity of a relationship? Your choice.

  3. Rule of thumb: People treat us the way we ALLOW them to treat us. People who don't set (and defend) boundaries

  are begging to be run over.

  4. The number one signal of a doomed relationship is the presence of contempt for the other partner.

  con·tempt kənˈtem(p)t/ noun . . .the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.

  5. What we reward, we get MORE of. What we punish, we discourage. Be very aware of your reward/punishment behavior.

  6. In the end, we get the life we allow ourselves to settle for. The only way out is to searchingly ask and answer the one question which matters: WHAT DO I WANT OUT OF LIFE AND WHAT IS STANDING IN MY WAY. Most often, we are what is standing in our way.

  7. Understand the principle called: THE SANCTION OF THE VICTIM.

  What is it?

  Good, able, kind and reasonable people act as their own destroyers by giving passive consent to the will of others heedless of--and indifferent to their destruction. No manner of injury done to us by others can succeed if we choose to withhold our consent. We must see we could put an end to our outrages by pronouncing a single word aloud. We must not fear to speak it.

  The word is “No."
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  THE IMPONDERABLES TOPIC (Enter at your own risk)

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i suggest taking this slowly .

  .. consider the difference between taking a poll about an upcoming election and the actual vote itself on the day of the election.. the information gathered about what the vote will be is provisional.

  the vote on the day of the election is actual and official.. it is the one that counts.. now, carefully ask yourself what the specific difference--if any--there is between the poll information and the election result as an identical knowledge of.

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  Terry

  We'll just have to ponder that one . . .
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  HELP ME COMPILE A LIST OF DISCARDED WORDS AND PHRASES from the WTS

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in fort worth, texas around 1959. gradually i became aware of the argot.

  special, private language).

  jw's had these phrases they used over and over again.. upon first hearing, these words and phrases stood out as odd, weird or awkward.. however.

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  Terry

  Thanks Donny--the check is in the mail!
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  HELP ME COMPILE A LIST OF DISCARDED WORDS AND PHRASES from the WTS

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in fort worth, texas around 1959. gradually i became aware of the argot.

  special, private language).

  jw's had these phrases they used over and over again.. upon first hearing, these words and phrases stood out as odd, weird or awkward.. however.

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  Terry

  I have ALWAYS thought the choice of the word PIONEER was just plain archaic and weird.

  Whenever I heard the word COLPORTEUR I always thought of the song, BEGIN THE BEGUINE.
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  HELP ME COMPILE A LIST OF DISCARDED WORDS AND PHRASES from the WTS

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in fort worth, texas around 1959. gradually i became aware of the argot.

  special, private language).

  jw's had these phrases they used over and over again.. upon first hearing, these words and phrases stood out as odd, weird or awkward.. however.

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  Terry

  Hahahahaha. . . maaaaaay beeeee
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  HELP ME COMPILE A LIST OF DISCARDED WORDS AND PHRASES from the WTS

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in fort worth, texas around 1959. gradually i became aware of the argot.

  special, private language).

  jw's had these phrases they used over and over again.. upon first hearing, these words and phrases stood out as odd, weird or awkward.. however.

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  Terry

  WHILE I'M THINKING OF IT . . .

  The changes in parlance are deliberate, I hypothesize.

  Why change terminology all the time?

  Here is my take on it:

  Within the short space of a conversation with a JW, a current JW can tell if you USE TO BE a JW.

  How?

  Your terminology is dated!

  Telltale stale references peg you right off!

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  Sidebar:

  When I lived in Los Angeles, one of my closest friends was a Scientologists. That's all he talked about, non-stop, gibber-jabber.

  Inadvertently, I was absorbing the lingo! After a year of this, I could "speak Scientology!"

  I was an art consultant at the time and I dealt with movie studios, and personnel.

  One of my clients was photographer who's celebrity photos were "hot" at the time.

  His portraiture was on just about every magazine you picked up!

  I could spot his photographs and identify them quickly because I had an eye for his technique.

  Well, one day I ran into him at a movie theater. We chatted a bit and he said something which contained

  the following sentence.

  "I'm so busy right now I'm wearing more hats than I can keep up with."

  I stared for a second and suddenly blurted, "DICK, YOU ARE A SCIENTOLGIST!"

  (His name was Dick Zimmerman.)

  He was flustered at my non-sequitur! He babbled and deflected. You see, he didn't want anybody to know!

  I could tell he didn't want to deny outright, but he didn't want to ask how I knew.

  I smiled and explained myself.

  "Scientologists refer to the different categories of work they do as being 'hatted' as in wearing one hat for this

  and another hat for that. What you said was a dead giveaway!"

  He grinned and closed his eyes. "Ahhhh." That's all he said.

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  You see, JW's can do the same thing just from the small conversations they overhear.

  A couple of months back I was accidentally overhearing a conversation between two young men.

  I heard the term "torture-stake" and the cat was out of the back straightaway!"

  *****

  (edited to add:)

  I was curious whatever happened to Zimmerman. I just did an Internet search.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuKzEnmoRjY

  Dick is referred to this way:

  "Dick Zimmerman has been referred to by the media as an
  artistic genius. Known as "The Image Maker," he is considered to be the most accomplished portrait artist of the 20th century. Zimmerman is sought after by the world's most celebrated entertainers, dignitaries . . ."

  This is the work of his publicist, by the way!

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_EwLlMhTHU
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  Any Senior Citizens, Retirees here?

  by AlwaysBusy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  howdy....well, what do you think?

  of everything?

  is it all crazy?

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  Terry

  I'm 67 and I retired at the earliest age I could.

  I started work at the age of 12 helping my Uncle John who was a bricklayer.

  To suddenly NOT work was a shock to my whole way of thinking!

  I'd say it took me about 3 years to swim into a new CONTEXT.

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  I am no longer a slave to a schedule. That's the BIG deal!

  I wake or sleep as I choose (or as weariness overtakes.)

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  I eat approximately twice a day with maybe one binge day a week.

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  I ride my bicycle 7 days a week a minimum of 10 miles per day. The exception is bad weather days.

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  I do considerable research and I write a great deal. That seems to be a passion, so far.

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  After I divorced in 2006 I had a two year hiatus from any females of the species.

  I temporarily tried casual dating for about three months and stopped for another couple of years.

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  In around 2009 I tried dating again and gave up on it. I've been extremely single for 5 years.

  I see myself dying alone. If that sounds sad--well, it isn't intended.

  I had been married 4 times, fer gawd's sakes! Whatdaya want from me?

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  I watch a lot of movies.

  I love Survivor and the Amazing Race.

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  I use to be a Political Junkie. Now I pay absolutely no attention to any of it.

  Why? It only disturbs my sense of peace and happiness. I can electively skip that and remain happy-go-lucky.

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  I use to be a NEWS JUNKIE, reading every word of the newspapers.

  Then, newspapers turned into crap.

  I haven't read a newspaper in years. Good riddance!

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  I spend a lot of time communicating with fence-sitting JW's, faders, Ex-JW's and, as the opportunities arise,

  devote time to visiting terminally ill people in hospitals or clinics.

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  My 7 kids and grandkids give me a ton of satisfaction. None of them is a serial killer, so far.
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  THE IMPONDERABLES TOPIC (Enter at your own risk)

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i suggest taking this slowly .

  .. consider the difference between taking a poll about an upcoming election and the actual vote itself on the day of the election.. the information gathered about what the vote will be is provisional.

  the vote on the day of the election is actual and official.. it is the one that counts.. now, carefully ask yourself what the specific difference--if any--there is between the poll information and the election result as an identical knowledge of.

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  Terry

  Could God create a rock so huge he couldn't lift it? <<I once saw a stupid short film based on this

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  God is tumbling weightless in space/time along with billions of planets, stars, asteroids, etc.

  The majority of them are too heavy to lift. However, due to the fact God already set them in motion

  the question becomes moot due to the fact "lift" could be variously interpreted.
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  THE IMPONDERABLES TOPIC (Enter at your own risk)

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i suggest taking this slowly .

  .. consider the difference between taking a poll about an upcoming election and the actual vote itself on the day of the election.. the information gathered about what the vote will be is provisional.

  the vote on the day of the election is actual and official.. it is the one that counts.. now, carefully ask yourself what the specific difference--if any--there is between the poll information and the election result as an identical knowledge of.

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  Terry

  I do try to eschew obfuscation whenever appropriate!?!

  Be sure and floss afterward!
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  HELP ME COMPILE A LIST OF DISCARDED WORDS AND PHRASES from the WTS

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in fort worth, texas around 1959. gradually i became aware of the argot.

  special, private language).

  jw's had these phrases they used over and over again.. upon first hearing, these words and phrases stood out as odd, weird or awkward.. however.

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  Terry

  SIDEBAR:

  When I was in Federal Correctional Institution in Seagoville during the Vietnam era because of the

  ORGANIZATION's nit-wit interpretation of "neutrality" all the 40 or so brothers who were inmates

  conducted 8 meetings a week.

  Once each month, a Brother Bourgeosie, who was the big shot elder from the Dallas congregation visited us

  in the capacity of a Circuit Servant or Traveling Elder might.

  Inmates in prison didn't like calling the Brothers JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES, so they shortened it to J. W.

  Guess what--we started referring to each other that way, too. After all, it was easier.

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  Brother Bourgeosie heard this and prepared a special talk he presented in which he read us the riot act.

  Here is the gist of it.

  "Superstitious Jews refused to honor the holy name of Jehovah by shortening it to a mere 4 letters! You

  are supposed to be JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES and undo the damage! Instead, you have obscured the

  majesty and significance of God's holy name by reducing it to JUST ONE LETTER: J!

  Blah-blah-blah.

  We were embarrassed, contrite, penitent, red-faced. . .

  FAST FORWARD. . .

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  Oh how I would LOVE to run into Brother Bourgeosie today!

  I'd ask him how he feels about the ORGANIZATION'S BLASPHEMY for reducing down to JW.org??