Is there really a list of places not to go back to? I've wondered because, a couple of years ago, I came home to find WatchTowers shredded up all over our lawn. I thought, "OMG...the dogs attacked the JWs!" (I was worried the 2 dogs--large but generally friendly--would get in trouble.) My husband said, "No, they wanted to give me their magazines so I said, "Sure...Here you go boys," and handed them to the dogs who proceeded to fight over them and spread the pieces all over the yard. We haven't had a JW come to the house since (except our daughter's boyfriend--but that's in an "unofficial" capacity.)
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I'm waiting to have this experience.....
by Frannie Banannie ina jdub (or pair of 'em) comes to my door with the mags......i ask them..."are you from earth?".
they look bewildered, saying, "yes...".
i say, "sorry, i don't trust earthling men/women.
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Another question from the new guy...
by SwampThing ini have another question if you all would be so kind as to enlighten me.
after reading hundreds of posts here, i understand now why some people stay in the wts even though they would like to leave.
the loss of friends, family members and such from this bizarre practice of "shunning" could be devastating in the lives of some people.
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How many other people is he harming the same way he harmed you? You questioned earlier at what point an individual is responsible for their actions even if being controlled by the group...the "mob mentality"...safety in numbers...innocent by reason of insanity???
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Another request for help in understanding...
by SwampThing ingood day all,.
i have another request:.
please help me understand how to decipher the code where references are given, such as:.
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Baptism
by ConcernedMom inwhat is the usual age for someone raised as a jw to be baptised?
is the belief that you must be a baptised jw to survive armageddon?
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So, in theory, if you were under the age of accountability and an unbaptised JW, you would be saved but if you were over that age and had not chosen to be baptised, you'd be doomed????
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Baptism
by ConcernedMom inwhat is the usual age for someone raised as a jw to be baptised?
is the belief that you must be a baptised jw to survive armageddon?
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What is the usual age for someone raised as a JW to be baptised? Is the belief that you must be a BAPTISED JW to survive Armageddon?
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A Million Questions
by ConcernedMom inhi, i have been lurking at this site and a few other jw or xjw sites in search of some clarity but i am just getting more confused...
my 15 year old daughter has been dating a 17 year old jw for about 2 1/2 months.
he seems like a very nice kid--very shy (he is just starting to talk around me now...still not too much to my husband).
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In a way, I think it would actually be easier if they were a little stricter about their own rules because we wouldn't be living in this "gray" area. They will let this continue as if everything is normal but, I think, if push came to shove, the rules would prevail. Oy vay!! (just for a little cultural diversity...)
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A Million Questions
by ConcernedMom inhi, i have been lurking at this site and a few other jw or xjw sites in search of some clarity but i am just getting more confused...
my 15 year old daughter has been dating a 17 year old jw for about 2 1/2 months.
he seems like a very nice kid--very shy (he is just starting to talk around me now...still not too much to my husband).
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OT: why can't I get paragraphs?? Does it have anything to do with me using a Mac (OS X using Safari...maybe I should try IE??)
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A Million Questions
by ConcernedMom inhi, i have been lurking at this site and a few other jw or xjw sites in search of some clarity but i am just getting more confused...
my 15 year old daughter has been dating a 17 year old jw for about 2 1/2 months.
he seems like a very nice kid--very shy (he is just starting to talk around me now...still not too much to my husband).
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Thank you for your replies so far. I have been really leary of discussing this with the family because I don't want them to think I am at all interested in joining. A friend once went to a coworker JW's funeral and it took her weeks to get them to stop phoning. Recently when I was picking up my daughter from their house, we were talking about her Canada Cord ceremony (Girl Guide award) and the mom said she had only gone as far as Brownies but her sister had stayed in all the way to Rangers (senior branch). I would have thought that Guiding would have been off limits because of the emphasis on patriotism (promising to be true to God, the Queen and your country...) so I thought perhaps she hadn't been raised JW. My daughter asked her bf and he said that she had--that both sides of the family were JW. I know the rest of the family does attend meetings because on several occasions, they have picked bf up afterwards, all dressed up (usually Thursday nights if that means anything to you.) I really don't feel that bf is just out for a quick (fill in your own blank)--at least less so than other 17 year old boys I have met. If anything, he seems a little naive. I do worry that, when this ends--as it almost inevitably will because of their ages--if it has anything to do with his religion, my daughter will be made to feel that she is being rejected as sinful or dirty in some way. Generally, DD has always been very stong-willed. She has never gotten the concept of "go with the flow". She is highly (self)motivated as far as school goes--honour student--and plans to become a psychiatrist. She told the family all this the first time they met. She has met the extended family (aunts, uncles, grandma) from both sides so she isn't being kept a "secret".
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A Million Questions
by ConcernedMom inhi, i have been lurking at this site and a few other jw or xjw sites in search of some clarity but i am just getting more confused...
my 15 year old daughter has been dating a 17 year old jw for about 2 1/2 months.
he seems like a very nice kid--very shy (he is just starting to talk around me now...still not too much to my husband).
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Yikes!! What happened to all my paragraph breaks. Sorry if it's hard to read. Deb
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A Million Questions
by ConcernedMom inhi, i have been lurking at this site and a few other jw or xjw sites in search of some clarity but i am just getting more confused...
my 15 year old daughter has been dating a 17 year old jw for about 2 1/2 months.
he seems like a very nice kid--very shy (he is just starting to talk around me now...still not too much to my husband).
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Hi, I have been lurking at this site and a few other JW or XJW sites in search of some clarity but I am just getting more confused... My 15 year old daughter has been dating a 17 year old JW for about 2 1/2 months. He seems like a very nice kid--very shy (he is just starting to talk around me now...still not too much to my husband). His family has been very welcoming to my daughter (they've also invited my husband and I to come to dinner sometime soon..."sit on the deck, drink wine"...) They have not spoken about religion to her. She says that if they did not use the name "Jehovah" when they say grace, she would not notice anything different. (We are Catholic although not currently practising.) Shortly after they began dating, bf told my daughter that he was a JW. She asked if it was not wrong for him to be going out with her. He said it didn't matter because he isn't baptised. (Is this usually done at an earlier age that 17?) The rest of the family (including older brother, younger sister) go to meetings regularly but so far he has only had to go to 1 district assembly (I think that's what they called it). He was explaining to my DD that he is a "publisher" but has zero hours and has been at zero for a couple of years. (I haven't been able to find an explanation of how one gets to be different levels anywhere.) He will be going to the Kamloops convention--invited DD to come...she just laughed. He said they don't actually stay at the convention. He just finds his friends and they take off somewhere. She still declined... Oh yah...he also has a goatee. There are a lot of things I could ask you guys but the bottom line is that he doesn't seem like what I have read of as your typical JW. So is this just average teenage rebellion or is he just waiting for his opportunity to bolt?? Friends have warned me that they are welcoming her in because they are "looking for new blood". While I find that thought chilling, I don't really see her falling for it. She finds the whole organization pretty bizarre with their special names for everything (worldly, disfellowshipped, apostate, the truth etc.). She said it reminds her of Lord Of The Rings. They won't be swaying her with bible quotes. She feels it is just an old book that has no relevance to her life (despite or because of 9 years in Catholic school????) She is also freaked out by the whole blood issue (and scared that if anything happened when she was with them, she would be mistaken for a JW and not saved with a transfusion). I can just picture if they were in some little fender-bender and she ended up in ER with a minor sprain or something. She'd be screaming frantically "Give me blood! Give me blood!" The No Holidays rule also doesn't sit well with her. Anyway, I apologise that this is getting long. Thank you for any insite you might be able to share. Deb