She definitely has a mind of her own. He has been given a lot of freedom by his parents and she is exposing him to new ideas. He is very quiet so I'm not too sure what he thinks about them though--how much conflict they may be creating for him, you know? I've wondered whether the family is doing the conscious "fade" or just gotten lax about meetings, etc. but the basics have definitely been laid in this boys mind. He's answered any questions my daughter has asked about his religion with the text book answers. Like you said though, he is still young (17) so it is probably easier for him to accept new views--or maybe it's more about letting go of the old ones.
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Reiki
by ConcernedMom inwhat would the "jw" opinion of reiki be?
my daughter is currently taking a level one course.
her jw boyfriend just phoned and when i said she was at reiki, there was a pause and then he asked "what's that?
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Reiki
by ConcernedMom inwhat would the "jw" opinion of reiki be?
my daughter is currently taking a level one course.
her jw boyfriend just phoned and when i said she was at reiki, there was a pause and then he asked "what's that?
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I never used to see them as scary, but when your 15 year-old potentially falls under their influence, it becomes a different story. I understand your point about the person vs the JWism. In the 6 months they have been dating, we have gotten to know him, beyond his religion, but occasionally "issues" pop up (like when his Grandma stopped by and gave her the condensed version of why you don't need to go to college). In turn, he has been exposed to a lot of worldly events/attitudes he wouldn't have gotten to see by hanging around with us. I think it has been educational for him and broadened his horizons maybe...at least given him things to think about, hopefully without causing him problems with his parents. (As it turns out, the reiki is a non-issue--he knew she was going, just not what it's called.)
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Reiki
by ConcernedMom inwhat would the "jw" opinion of reiki be?
my daughter is currently taking a level one course.
her jw boyfriend just phoned and when i said she was at reiki, there was a pause and then he asked "what's that?
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You know, until 6 months ago when my daughter brought home this boyfriend, I really never gave Jehovahs Witnesses much thought one way or the other. I remember knowing better than to go to their houses on Halloween when I was growing up and always kind of cringed when I saw them coming up my sidewalk, but really didn't spend any time thinking about it. When I started reading here about all your experiences, to be honest, it scared the crap out of me! I've relaxed somewhat because his family does not seem particularly strong in their religion but, once in awhile, his parents do something that reminds me of what I have heard here and I start to worry again. As far as the reiki goes, I was just surprised that he had no idea what I was talking about so I thought, perhaps, my daughter figured he wouldn't approve so she didn't tell him (didn't stop her from going--just from mentioning it to him). If she was home, I would have asked her but since she's not back yet I was just curious as to what to expect, that's all.
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Reiki
by ConcernedMom inwhat would the "jw" opinion of reiki be?
my daughter is currently taking a level one course.
her jw boyfriend just phoned and when i said she was at reiki, there was a pause and then he asked "what's that?
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What would the "JW" opinion of Reiki be? My daughter is currently taking a level one course. Her JW boyfriend just phoned and when I said she was at Reiki, there was a pause and then he asked "What's that?" Oops!! I didn't realize he didn't know she was taking it... I've been reading her handouts and they don't particularly mesh with the "truth"--"God is all Loving and all Forgiving, seeing us as Beautiful and Unique beings of Love and Grace and that we are all Spiritual beings on a human path through the 3-dimension." "I am sorry to disappoint those of you that believe the One True God is vengeful, feeling the need to punish the so called wicked among us." If she shares this info, we may find out just how weak his faith is...
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My Dog is living a Double Life...
by Confucious inmy neighbor came up to me today with my dog.
i was shocked since he is allowed to walk the yard - but it's all fenced in.
when i talked with my neighbor - he said, "yeah, your dog has been wandering around the neighborhood for weeks.
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I knew of a golden retriever who used to leave home every morning when his owner left for work. He would make his way to the public swimming pool a couple of miles away and join in the mom and tot swim. They would chase him out, he would go back home and be waiting (dry by that time) when his owner got home. It was weeks before the guy found out about his dog's secret life...
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Maybe I'm just a worry-wart...
by ConcernedMom inhave any of you ever read the book "the chrysalids"?
after a nuclear holocaust, the society has become intolerant of any "deviation from the norm" in crops/animals/people and so the burn/kill/exile them respectively to keep everything pure.
a group of kids has developed the ability to communicate telepathically but must keep it a secret or they will be considered deviants.
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"At some point we have to let the anxieties go and trust that what is supposed to happen, will happen eventually" Thank you Chris. That's something I definitely need to work on (with my own kids too--not just anonymous ones here).
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Maybe I'm just a worry-wart...
by ConcernedMom inhave any of you ever read the book "the chrysalids"?
after a nuclear holocaust, the society has become intolerant of any "deviation from the norm" in crops/animals/people and so the burn/kill/exile them respectively to keep everything pure.
a group of kids has developed the ability to communicate telepathically but must keep it a secret or they will be considered deviants.
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That was quick! I'm glad to see I'm not the only one. Ozziepost, maybe it's worrywort??? I've never had reason to have to spell it before. Incidentally, in the book, the kids are rescued by the advanced "think-talking" society from Australia and taken there to live without persecution for being different.
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Maybe I'm just a worry-wart...
by ConcernedMom inhave any of you ever read the book "the chrysalids"?
after a nuclear holocaust, the society has become intolerant of any "deviation from the norm" in crops/animals/people and so the burn/kill/exile them respectively to keep everything pure.
a group of kids has developed the ability to communicate telepathically but must keep it a secret or they will be considered deviants.
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Have any of you ever read the book "The Chrysalids"? After a nuclear holocaust, the society has become intolerant of any "deviation from the norm" in crops/animals/people and so the burn/kill/exile them respectively to keep everything pure. A group of kids has developed the ability to communicate telepathically but must keep it a secret or they will be considered deviants. For the most part, they don't even know each others identities so if one of them suddenly stops communicating, they don't know why. Was the person discovered?? Are they okay?? Will they incriminate (under torture) the rest of the group?? So...my point...when someone on this board (a teenager) that has been posting, frequently but secretly, stops posting without any warning, do you worry about them?? Or are you used to people coming and going so you just assume that they have moved on to other interests etc??? Is it just the mother in me that makes me imagine the worst case scenario?
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Fark thread about girl who died after refusing a blood transfusion...
by SYN in.
some interesting comments here.. http://forums.fark.com/cgi/fark/comments.pl?idlink=1100346.
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As a non-JW, I am certainly not defending their blood policies but from the articles I have read on this particular case, I'm not sure how the father is making his case. I understand that he opposed his wife/church in wanting the transfusions and that the Alberta government stepped in and she was given 38 transfusions. When they were deemed to be no longer effective, she was released (from gov't control) to her family and the mom took her somewhere else for alternative (non-blood) treatment without dad's knowledge/consent. As a parent, if traditional treatments were not working and it seemed like my child's doctors were basically giving up, I would probably be willing to try any alternatives that were available too. Is his argument that the legalities held up the blood transfusions she was given and if they had been given sooner, they would have worked?? I haven't read anywhere what the time period was before the gov't stepped in...
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So you think you know everything? (random facts)
by JH ina dime has 118 ridges around the edge.
a cat has 32 muscles in each ear.. .
a crocodile cannot stick out its tongue.. .
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As a proud Canadian, the one about the $2 flag bugged me...since we don't use them anymore, I couldn't check for myself but I found this link: http://www.usscouts.org/bbugle/bb0203/ I trust the boy scouts!!